STEP
Have the Right Attitude
Confidence is the most important trait to develop.
Confidence means you feel comfortable
approaching any woman, anytime, anywhere.
There are two components of the right attitude: being confident and having no fear of rejection. Im going to go over both right now.
Confidence creates success; it is the most important trait you can develop. Confidence is your best friend and ally. Confidence means you feel comfortable approaching any woman at any time. Confidence means knowing this girl wants you to talk to her because you are the perfect man for her. She just doesnt know it yet.
Are you the perfect man for her? Of course. She will have more fun being with you than anything else she could possibly do in the next ten hours. It is a fact that most people are bored out of their mind. They keep looking around for someone else to make their boring lives more interesting. Well, you are going to be exactly the person to liven up her night and thats exactly why shell be more than happy to meet you.
A successful man never wonders if hes good enough for a woman; he wonders if the woman is good enough for him. Think this way: Im not trying to sell myself; Im trying to find out what this woman has to offer . Nobody wants to deal with a pushy salesman; you have to let the product (you) speak for itself. How? By talking about her. Project the focus onto the woman and youve already turned the tables in the game of seduction.
Dont worry if you try this new attitude and it doesnt work the first few times. Why? Because its going to fail. A lot. Do you really expect to seduce every woman you talk to? Of course not. Wouldnt you be happy with half the women? Or even one in every three? Or one in every four?
The second key to being successful with women (or anything, really) is to be able to handle rejection. Dont let a bad experience get you flustered or destroy your confidence. Instead, think of rejection as a positive. Every time you get rejected, you learn something. Every time you fail, youre that much closer to being successful the next time. Take a cue from Thomas Alva Edison. Although it took him thousands of attempts to get the light bulb to work, he never viewed those unsuccessful attempts as failures. In fact, in his opinion, the thousands of tries that did not work only brought him closer to finding the solution that would work.
Did I say fail? Well shame on me, because there is no such thing as failure. In addition to bringing you that much closer to success the next time around, if a certain encounter doesnt end the way youd like it to, then shes the one missing out. Shes the one who failed your test, not the other way around.
STEP
Forget About the Attitude
Now that you know about confidence ... forget completely that youve ever heard the word. If you have to think about feeling confident, then you probably arent.
Now that you know about confidence ... forget completely that youve ever heard the word. If you are thinking about feeling confident, then youre not really confident, youre nervous and unsure of yourself. Your goal is to be so positive about a sexual encounter that the word confidence never crosses your mind. Feeling so good and natural that you never have to think about confidence is the most confident act of all. Concentrate on feeling relaxed and positive, and youll project an air of confidence every time.
If youve never felt that confident in life or when interacting with women, youd probably have to start out by acting as if you do. As they say, Fake it til you make it. If youre not confident, act as if you are. If youre not that funny, act as if you are. Sooner or later, youll forget the act and switch to auto-pilot and before you know ityou are what you wanted to be without even trying!
If you need a little boost to approach a beautiful woman, do not tell yourself: Be confident, be confident, be confident. Instead, repeat this mantra: I am the best thing that has ever happened to this girl. I am the perfect experience for this girl. Now think of the goosebumps she will get because of the way you make her feel inside and if youre frisky, imagine for a split second all the ways you can make her cum. Dont dwell on it, though. Go and offer her the experience of a lifetime!
STEP
Look Good
Never be afraid to ask a good-looking womanstore employee, friend, strangerfor advice on clothing and style. And the better looking that woman is, the better.
Theres one in every crowd. The guy who thinks to himself: But Im ugly. No woman will want to have anything to do with me.
First of all, youre not ugly. Ugly is a state of mind, and a state of mind can be changed. The more confident you are, the better looking you become. Really, its true, because the way you carry yourselfthe way you walk, talk, smile, and styleis more important than the shape of your nose or the size of your chin. Every guy who slouches and looks at the floor is ugly; every confident guy looks good.
Okay, okay, some guys are ugly. Really ugly. It happens; lifes not fair. If you happen to fall into this very small percentage of people (maybe 1 in 1000, so unless you are the ugliest person you have ever known, this is not you!), dont worry, looks are only a small part of the equation. Women care a lot more about how you make them feel than how you look, so never use your looks as an excuse not to approach any girl you want. Ever. I mean it.
You wouldnt believe how many good-looking guys are unable to get dates, let alone have sex with a woman. How come? you may wonder. Certainly good looks will grant the pretty boys a bit more initial attention from the ladies, but if they are unable to hold that attention, they will be dismissed in a hearbeat (and dont worry about how to do that, itll be discussed later in this book).
But while your looks may not matter, your clothes certainly do. Designer names and an expensive look is one way to up your ratings, but you dont even have to be the best-dressed guy in the room as long as you are dressed smart. Ask a friend who you know is successful with the ladies to accompany you to a store to help you trade up your wardrobe. Better yet, ask a stylish woman to come along with you and give you advicewomen love to give style advice.
If youre a novice to the clothing game, dont go trendy or over the top. Keep your look simple, classic, and elegant. Let your personality do the talking, but always appear clean and pressed. If you want to have a personal style, always go for the expensive look. There is no downside to looking well dressed, well groomed, and well off.
Notice I said expensive look, not expensive clothes. If you have the right person (usually a woman) to advise you, you can go to a second-hand store and walk out fifty dollars later with an absolutely stunning rack of expensive looking and stylish clothes.
As a last-ditch effort, you can hire an image consultantsome may be available for hire for double digits and some may even be available for free, courtesy of the department store.
Never be afraid to ask a good-looking womanstore employee, friend, strangerfor advice on clothing and style. And the better looking that woman is, the better. Remember: Every situation is a seduction situation and its always on.
The last word on clothing: Always be comfortable in your skin. If the clothes you are wearing make you self-conscious or embarrassed, then they arent the right clothes for you.