Chip Ingram - Sex180. The Next Revolution

2005 by Chip Ingram

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To Annie and all her friends for living out sex180 in the
most amazing and authentic way Ive ever seen.
Chip Ingram

To Jennifer: Your love and the love of Christ that flows
through you amazes me.
Tim Walker

contents

acknowledgments

[ From Chip ]

To Tim Walker: Thank you for taking up the mantle to get this truth into the lives of teens. It has been a privilege working with you on this project.

To Vicki Crumpton and the Baker team: Thank you, Vicki, for seeing the potential of this project to help teens. You and the Baker team took the initiative to make a good idea a reality.

To Walk Thru the Bible: Thank you all for your support and encouragement all along the way.

[ From Tim ]

To God: For reminding me every step of the way that I need younot for words or time or anything elseI just need you.

To Chip Ingram: Thanks for giving me the opportunity of a lifetime and entrusting to me a message so close to your heart. It has infiltrated my heart as well, and I find that Im a lot more revolutionary than I ever thought I was.

To Jennifer: Im supposed to be a master of words, but somehow they just seem inadequate when I think of all you are to me. I love you very much. Thanks for walking on this journey with me. Its crazy. Its wonderful. Its scary. But Im glad youre here every step of the way. Thank you for entrusting your life to me and allowing me to entrust my life to you.

To Grayson, Hamilton, and Bryce: You are my three favorite little superheroes in all the world. Im so blessed to be your dad. I love all three of you very much.

To the revolutionaries for inspiring me and living this outAnnie, Bobby, Audrey, Bo, Mike, and Amy.

To Dad and Mom: For giving me a foundation so clear and so real that even though I strayed at times, I never went too far. Thanks also for providing a quiet place to write this book.

To my family, whose love for me has never wavered: You may not have known all the details of my life, but you always saw who I really am, even when I couldnt. Thank you, Marc, Donita, Cory, Sharon, Steve, Lynne, Stephanie, Steve B., Janet, Bob, Grandpa Olin, Grandma Cerny, Aunt Shorty, Charles, Martha, Hanyaw, MeMaw, (can you tell Im from the South?), and my Walker/McCook/Ray/Olin/Cerny families.

To all my friends who prayed for me when I needed to know that what looked impossible to me wasnt to God and gave me much-needed encouragement along the way: Joey Smith, Lare and Amy McCreary, Joe and Anda Barnett, Mark and Gwen Brague, Don Munn, Chris Rogers, Jim and Laura Hunter, Mary Ledford, Buck and Pam Dyer, Laurin Makohon, Travis Stoneback, Jim Gabrielsen, Paula Kirk, Chris Tiegreen, the Walk Thru the Bible staff, the Next Exit Youth Group at Restoration Church of God, NXAM Sunday school, Fern Nichols and the Moms in Touch, Tim Brenner, Crystal Kirgiss, Jim Hancock, and Robert and Sarah Mullins.

To Vicki Crumpton, the Baker publishing team, and Curtis Yates: Thanks for walking me through the process of writing a book and for helping me communicate both my heart and Gods.

And if I forgot anyone, Im sorry. Maybe Ill get to write another book and can mention you then!

You picked up this book because...

you wanted to know what in the world sex180 means. Well get to that in a minute.

you thought the cover looked better than the other books about sex (yep, Tim totally judges a book by its cover too).

you liked the word revolution .

your mom/dad/grandma/youth pastor gave this book to you.

Whatever the reason, youve made it this far. You opened the book to this page. Well definitely try to live up to your expectations for the rest of the book. (By the way, were really impressed that youre reading the introduction.)

But before we start, you need to know a few things.

First, who are we? We have a confession. Were both married guyswith kids. Yeah, we know. We may have just lost some cred with you. After all, were married. We have sex. And were dads, so you might be thinking we have some kind of ulterior motive or that your parents asked us to write this book. BTW, they didnt.

The truth is, weve both made some mistakes along the way when it came to sex. This book isnt penance. And were not expecting you to be perfect. But if we had both seen Gods heart behind what he says about sex earlier in our lives, we would have made some different choices. We might have ended up with a few less scars.

Weve seen up close what happens when we think about sex completely on the outsidewhen its all about what we can and cant doand totally miss Gods heart and plan. Weve also seen how the wrong view of sex can mess up a lot of other peoples lives too.

And were not off the hook here. Its just as important for adults to understand what God thinks about sex as it is for students. It doesnt take much looking to see proof of that in our cultureor maybe you see proof in your own family.