Endorsements
Praise for Why I Believe
Chip Ingram has a way of taking complex and intimidating material and making it accessible and applicable to everyone.
Kyle Idleman , pastor, author of Grace Is Greater
We all need straight answers to the questions we ask about God, faith, and the Bible. Chip Ingram helps us to get our hearts and minds around the most important issues we face and offers authentic and transparent answers.
Jack Graham , pastor of Prestonwood Baptist Church, Plano, TX
Praise for The Real God
Chip Ingram provides wonderful insight to help you see Gods character as presented in Scripture. In these pages, he offers practical biblical help to live out the implications of a refreshed and renewed perspective of God. The principles in this book will inspire, encourage, and empower you to become more like Jesus Christ.
Rick Warren , founding pastor, Saddleback Church
Praise for Good to Great in God s Eyes
The principles that my good friend Chip Ingram outlines in this book will inspire, encourage, and enable any sincere reader to maximize their God-given potential for the glory of God and for the good of others. Only read this if you want your life to matter.
Tony Evans, PhD, senior pastor, Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship
Praise for Culture Shock
Is it possible to articulate timeless biblical truth without resorting to anger and argument? Is it possible to lovingly embrace those with whom we disagree without compromising our beliefs? The answer to both of these questions is a resounding YESand Chip Ingram explains how its all possible in this timely and relevant book.
Jim Daly , president, Focus on the Family
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Title Page
Copyright Page
2020 by Chip Ingram
Published by Baker Books
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Dedication
I dedicate this book to
Bill, A. C., and Dick,
three mentors and father figures who helped me discover the real me. These men believed in who God made me to be long before I could see it or believe it myself. Their love, encouragement, support, and sometimes painfully honest feedback have shaped my life. I am eternally grateful.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Introduction: The Power of Mirrors
Part 1: Wanted
1. The Lie of Rejection
2. You Are Wanted: Ephesians 1:16
Part 2: Valuable
3. The Lie of Insignificance
4. You Are Valuable: Ephesians 1:710
Part 3: Secure
5. The Lie of Fear
6. You Are Secure: Ephesians 1:1114
Part 4: Competent
7. The Lie of Shame
8. You Are Competent: Ephesians 1:1523
9. The Lie of Guilt
10. You Are Beautiful: Ephesians 2:110
Part 6: Called
11. The Lie of Angst
12. You Are Called: Ephesians 2:113:21
Conclusion: Your Journey Has Only Just Begun
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Cover Flaps
BackCover
Acknowledgments
This book has been developing in my heart and mind for many years. Like most followers of Christ, I grappled with what it really means to be in Christ and live from my worth in Him rather than seeking to gain it through success, productivity, or self-improvement.
Dr. Bill Lawrence, Professor Howard Hendricks, and too many wise teachers to name taught me the theology of my position in Christ, as my wife, Theresa, modeled for me the practical means of replacing lies about myself with the truth of my new standing before God.
Venture Christian Churchs elders, staff, and congregation helped me develop and refine the concepts in this book as I first taught them in a series of expositional messages on Ephesians 13.
Jerry McCauleys insight, feedback, editing, and oversight of this project were invaluable, and this book would not exist without him.
Chris Tiegreens wordsmithing and editing of the actual manuscript were foundational as we transformed messages into paragraphs and chapters.
My assistant for many years, Charlotte Coulter, diligently protected my time, managed my schedule, and provided logistical support with tons of encouragement when deadlines and life seemed to collide.
Im especially grateful to Brian Vos, Mark Rice, and the entire team at Baker Books for their feedback, suggestions, and tremendous flexibility.
Finally, thank you, Theresa, not only for hours and hours of listening to this book but for years of helping me learn to see myself as God sees me. Youre the best!
Introduction
The Power of Mirrors
I will never forget an experience I had my senior year in college. After my college basketball team lost a tournament game that ended our season, most of my teammates determined the best way to celebrate would be to go out and party.
By this time, I was walking with the Lord and had no desire to hit all the bars in Charleston, West Virginia, to watch my buddies get drunk. A cheerleader named Mary was of the same mind. She was a friend I knew from a couple of the Bible studies on campus.
After the game, Mary and I found ourselves in a small all-night coffee shop. To be honest, I was more than a little intimidated. She was stunningly beautiful and athletic, with long blonde hair, piercing blue eyes, and a 3.7 grade-point average. Though I had come to believe that no one had it all together, she seemed to be the exception. She had been blessed to be in that 1 percent of the gene pool.
After listening to her story for about two hours, I couldnt believe what I was hearing. The distance between how she viewed herself and objective reality was stunning.
Im not exaggerating when I say she seemed to hate herself. She actually looked in the mirror and thought she was ugly and worthless. I tried to encourage her, but when I reminded her of her great GPA, she said, 4.0 is a success in my family. Im a failure.
I was sitting with someone who had so much going for her in every respect, yet she saw herself as a failure, ugly, and unacceptable.
Her perception was completely illogical to me.