Lee Harrington - More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage and Intimate Connection

Notice

Personal responsibility is a basic tenet of adult activity. Like any adult activity, rope bondage inherently contains risk of both physical and emotional injury. Any information or safety guidelines provided in this book are solely suggestions on ways to help reduce those inherent risks. By deciding to engage in any adult activity, including those detailed in this book, you are taking on physical and emotional responsibility for your own actions, and agree to hold harmless all individuals associated with the creation, publication and sale of this book.

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All text and rope work by Lee Harrington

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All photography by RiggerJay

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Book cover and layout design by Rob River

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ISBN 978-0-9778727-5-6

Ebooks: MOBI 978-0-9778727-3-2

ePub 978-0-9778727-4-9

PDF 978-0-9778727-9-4

Dedicated to Ayem Willing
who connected with intention
and will stay forever in our hearts.

Rope for passion, rope for connection, rope demystified.

Though it is fascinating to learn about the modern styles of Japanese-inspired rope bondage evolving through performance and intimate exploration internationally, that is likely not why you picked up this book. You picked it up because you are interested in the ideas of restraint, beauty, erotic connection, or sexy delight. You want to be bound by, or bind, your lover. You want to explore, learn, and make magic happen.

And you can!

Whether you are hungry for more information after reading Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macram, have been exploring rope for years, or are enjoying rope bondage for the first time, this is the book for you.

Just as the first Shibari book is known for its easy step-by-step directions, More Shibari will follow the clear directional style of its sibling. It even includes some of the silliness the old book had, because playfulness can help a lot of us learn. However, instead of stopping after a tie is done or applied in basic forms, this book will continue forward into various exercises. These are additional ideas on how to use the tie and connect with a partner by using it. This is important because when we are learning new ties, we sometimes get so sucked into the new technique that we can forget about the passion and connection that brought us to rope in the first place.

So, are you ready to get tying? Ready to learn simple cuffs, create practical and decorative chest harnesses, and bind faces? Does crafting gags, crotch ropes, and speed bondage get you going? Are you excited about incorporating power exchange with your bondage? Delighted that the exercises in the book will help you work on connecting with your partner, not just your rope? Fantasticyoure in the right place.

This book is not meant for your bookshelf, to gather dust and only be pulled out for titillation value (though feel free to be titillated!). It was designed to play with, engage with, and help you connect with your partner(s). Its meant to be flipped open and consulted, shoved in your toy bag, and shared with friends. Make notes or sketches in the margins if that grabs you. Use it for what you authentically are called to do. Get excited.

Then take that excitement, and lets explore More Shibari You Can Use!

We are called to rope bondage for a thousand different reasons. Why we are into rope or restraint can dramatically affect our choices of the ties and poses we play with.

But thats not all. Our purpose determines how long we will engage in a scene, the type of rope we will use, and even the wardrobe (or lack thereof) we will wear. Our whys allow us to understand where we are coming from, where our partners are coming from, and each of our needs, wants and desires.

The reasons individuals are drawn to rope are myriad, including but not limited to:

• Restraint
• Sensuality
• Fun
• Trust
• Beauty
• Excitement
• Naughtiness
• Struggling
• Experimentation
• Dominance
• Fetish Play
• Connection
• Sacredness
• Sex Positions
• Firmness
• Softness
• Endurance
• Submission
• Playing Dress-Up
• Partners Interest
• Ferocity
• Desire
• Teasing
• Pain
• Silliness
• Contortion
• Being Artistic
• Tantra
• Touch
• Playfulness
• Sexy Photos
• Taboo
• Something New
• Yoga/Stretching
• Performance
• Exhibitionism
• Suffering
• Tactile Experience
• Role-Playing
• Feeling Pretty

If your partner is into rope, that might be enough of a reason to explore bondage.

There is no right reason to be into bondage. As a pair of individuals (or triad, or group of friends) exploring rope, you will likely have a variety of reasons you want to tie or be tied. Maybe your reasons today are different than what your reason will be tomorrow. It is important to know not only why you are into rope, but why your partner is as well.

Communicating what we are into, our desires, our limits, our concerns, and our delights is referred to cumulatively as negotiation. Styles of negotiation can include:

• Curling up in bed and sharing fantasies
• Looking at pornography together and letting each other know what turns you on
• Examining someones erotic toy bag and asking questions
• Sending notes or pictures back and forth over the internet
• Having a phone conversation or twenty
• Filling out a negotiation form/checklist (either to help you figure out your own desires, or to share the form with a partner)
• Discussing your interests over a nice dinner or coffee
• Attending classes and talking about what you are each into, then asking questions of each other afterwards
• and more!

Lets say two players share their desires with one another. One says they are turned on by speed bondage, and the other says they are delighted by being made beautiful. Does that mean they arent compatible? Not at all. It means that they, as a pair, get to explore possibilities such as some of the ideas shown here on these two pages.

Speed-release corsets ()

Texas handcuff () pulled up through the crotch