Bobbi Dempsey - The Everything Great Sex Book: Your complete guide to passion, pleasure, and intimacy

THE
EVERYTHING
GREAT SEX
BOOK

2nd Edition

Your complete guide to passion,
pleasure, and intimacy

Bobbi Dempsey

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THE EVERYTHING GREAT SEX BOOK

Dear Reader,

I am thrilled that you have chosen this book. I hope it will serve as a useful tool in your journey toward a happier and more fulfilling sex life.

By improving your intimate relationships, you improve your life overall. You have already taken an important first step. By seeking out resources such as this book, you are making the effort to ensure your sexual relationships are the best they can be. While great sex often happens spontaneously, that doesnt mean you dont need to practice or prepare. A little legwork beforehand can greatly improve your bedroom experiences. As a bonus, your partner will appreciate your efforts to help both of you achieve more satisfying sexual experiences.

Everyones bedroom tastes and desires are different, so you wont find any right or wrong answers here. Think of this book as a starting point, from which you can go off on sorts of creative and exciting directions.

Welcome to the EVERTHING Series!

These handy, accessible books give you all you need to tackle a difficult project, gain a new hobby, comprehend a fascinating topic, prepare for an exam, or even brush up on something you learned back in school but have since forgotten.

You can choose to read an Everything book from cover to cover or just pick out the information you want from our four useful boxes: e-questions, e-facts, e-alerts, and e-ssentials.

We give you everything you need to know on the subject, but throw in a lot of fun stuff along the way, too.

We now have more than 400 Everything books in print, spanning such wide-ranging categories as weddings, pregnancy, cooking, music instruction, foreign language, crafts, pets, New Age, and so much more. When youre done reading them all, you can finally say you know Everything!

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PUBLISHER Karen Cooper

DIRECTOR OF ACQUISITIONS AND INNOVATION Paula Munier

MANAGING EDITOR, EVERYTHING SERIES Lisa Laing

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This book is dedicated to all the passionateromantics out there.

Contents

Acknowledgments

The author wishes to thank Gina Panettieri, who made this project possible, and Katrina Schroeder, who made sure it was a positive experience.

Top 10 Benefits
of Great Sex

Physical health. Statistics show that you will live longer and stay in better shape if you are having great sex. Learning proper breathing techniques and doing your Kegel exercises will add quality of life as well.

Mental health. Great sex contributes to a better sense of personal growth, strengthens the connection you have with your partner, and has a calming effect in your life.

Emotional health. Happiness and satisfaction with life come with having a great sexual connection.

Knowing that you are a great lover will make you glow.

Your lover will greatly appreciate the bliss in your relationship.

Very cost-effective marriage therapy. Practicing the communication techniques included in this book will greatly enhance your relationship skills.

Long, luxurious, sexy, creative, affordable dates. You and your partner will learn to cherish your time together and make every moment count.

Ongoing development of your creativity muscles. The more you engage in great sex, the more you think up new, interesting positions, techniques, and places in which to have it.

Knowledge advice, and ideas to share with your friends. You can pass on tips to your friends to help them improve their relationships as well.

Youll have a lot of fun!

Introduction

AS GEORGE MICHAEL ONCE sang, Sex is natural, sex is fun. While both statements may be true, it may not always feel that way. Yes, sex is a natural, biological process as old as mankind, but for many people especially those who are self-conscious in the bedroom sex (good sex, at least) may not seem to come naturally. And if you are worried, anxious, self-conscious, or otherwise distracted, sex probably wont be much fun, either.

The good news is, great sex isnt an impossible feat. In fact, it may be much more attainable than you may think. It may take a little bit of effort and perhaps a little practice (which will be fun, I promise!) but before you know it, your sex life will be better than you ever dreamed possible.