Janet Hall - Masturbation

By DrJanet Hall

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Masturbation is one of19 titles

in Dr Janet HallsSensational Sex Series!

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Dr Janet Hall,speaker, hypnotherapist, author of many books and audio recordings,is your guide in the art of sensational sexual success.

Dr Jan is oneof Australias leading experts in understanding the psychology ofsexual behaviour. Her gift is to make psychological informationuser-friendly, easily understood, and easy to apply.

For overa lifetime, she has given people clarity and direction from herRichmond Hill Psychology Centre in Melbourne, Australia and onlineat www.sex-therapy.com.au .

Enlighteningand entertaining, Dr Jan affirms, encourages, and empowers you tomake changes that will have long term positive effects for the restof your life.

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If you like this book then youll LOVE the audio version of How To Be AMaster Of Masturbation available here:

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Why?

Because itseasy listening for you to revise the important information you readabout (and the audio has bonus hypnotic suggestions for you toachieve your goal- you can listen over and again and programyourself for easy and rapid success!)

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Whats in a Name?

Masturbation the touching of ones own genitals. Is it a pleasure, or asin?

Its certainlybeen a topic of contention in society, plagued with misconceptionsand old wives tales; including the warnings that your hand willshrivel up and fall off, or youll grow hair on the back of yourhand, or your hair will fall out.

As well as thestandard joke about the little boy who was told by his mother thatif he masturbated he would go blind, and he flashes back, Well geeMum, cant I just do it until I have to wear glasses?

Society suredoesnt set us up to feel safe to enjoy it. Even the name is a turnoff. Masturbation. Say it ten times and it still doesnt soundpleasurable. Its a harsh sounding word isnt it? It sounds a bitlike a serious illness.

And in factthe word is a corruption of a Latin and Greek root that puttogether, literally means, to defile yourself with your hand.That doesnt sound like much fun, does it?

At least menhave come up with some more boys club expressions which wrylyacknowledge the universality of masturbation. These include thingslike Mrs Palmer and her five daughters, wanking, a hand job,jacking off or jerking off.

But women tendnot to even admit to masturbating, as evidenced by their lack ofterms for it. A woman would be likely to call it masturbation orat best she might say she was fingering herself or givingherself a hand job.

And the truthof it is that most women never even admit to doing it, much lessnaming it in public.

Why We Masturbate

The doggonereal truth is that masturbation is pleasurable and that most of usindulge in it, if not consistently, then in spurts of enjoyment,depending on our beliefs, the context of our life and presence of,or availability of a partner.

In reality,the more sexually active you are, the more likely you are tomasturbate, even if you do have a partner. Kinsey, the worlds bestknown sexpert, found people who masturbated early in life led morerigorous sex lives than those who didnt, and continued them longpast when the average person stopped having sex.

Surely mankindwas meant to masturbate. You can see very young children playingwith their genitals and obviously enjoying it. And kindergartenteachers are consistently embarrassed when the group is sitting onthe mat and theres a little boy who is blissfully rubbing himself,either through his pants or with his hand up his shorts leg, or alittle girl who is rubbing her panties, or even more sneakilyrocking up and down on her crossed legs, with her foot exerting agentle pressure on her crotch.

Men, ofcourse, are far more likely to masturbate because theyre handlingtheir apparatus at least four times a day for urination. Andtheyre also usually blessed with a morning erection, which somemen see as a good enough demand for attention to the penis andpleasurable release.

But the downside of the ready cues for masturbation that men get is the hasteand secrecy with which they typically go about giving themselveshand relief, because masturbation is frowned upon by society and apublic masturbation performance would be certain to attract moral,if not legal, outrage. And little boys live in dread that theirmummies will walk into their bedroom or the bathroom and catch themwith a jolly roger and they will be judged as naughty and rude andbad.

Women,however, may not consciously masturbate until theyre living awayfrom their parents. The thought may have been there, and they mayhave even practised it on a few occasions, but in general, womenfear exposure even more than men and are very careful about whenand where they masturbate.

I read aboutone sex therapist who prescribed self-stimulation for a woman whowas having difficulty in achieving orgasm with her partner. Thewoman did her homework and joyfully reported considerable successat her next session. However, she said there was one question thatwas troubling her, Was I masturbating? Well said thetherapist, I prefer to call it self-exploration. Thankheavens! said the woman, I was afraid I was masturbating.

Do you seewhat kind of social stigma this practice has? And compared to aman, whose body is constantly reminding him that he does have apenis, usually a girl has to put some conscious attention intofondling her genitals.

The mind is apowerful instrument and can easily pretend that the fondling is notreally happening. Especially if there is no direct contact with thehands and instead perhaps the genitals are being rubbed againstsurfaces such as against a hairbrush handle or under a running tap.In this case, shes not masturbating is she?

But, in fact,there is an infinite number of ways that women can choose tomasturbate; and indeed, if we could be flies on the walls of everywomans space through her lifetime, wed probably witness all sortsof weird and wonderful ways that women masturbate.