Sandy Brown - Porn Addict’s Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life

For both of you:

What Is Addiction? , by Gabor Mat

https://youtu.be/T5sOh4gKPIg

We Need To Talk About Sex Addiction , by Paula Hall, TEDxLeamingtonSpa

https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw

Porn Addiction Resources and Accountability Software for Devices:

http://www.covenanteyes.com/

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/

For husbands:

Terry Crews, actor and former professional football athlete talks about his porn addiction in his six-part video series, Dirty Little Secret.

https://youtu.be/I4krRkO4sHc

Wild at Heart, by John Eldredge

Facing the Shadow, by Patrick Carnes, Ph. D.

Suggested Reading for Wives:

Loving What Is, by Byron Katie

www.thework.com

A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson

The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse , by Barbara Steffens

Facing Heartbreak, by Stephanine Carnes, Mari A. Lee, and Anthony Rodriquez

Mending a Shattered Heart, by Stephanine Carnes

Partners: Healing from His Addiction , by Dr. Doug Weiss

Moving Beyond Betrayal, by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

Where would a girl be without her mom? I dont think I would have had the courage to write this book if it werent for my mom, Lois Brown, who taught me that I could do anything I set my mind to. She always believed in me when I didnt believe in myself. My mom taught me many valuable lessons growing up, the most important being: No matter how hard life gets, dont let it keep you down; pick yourself up, face your fears, and move forward courageously.

I have carried this lesson my entire life, and it helped me survive the pain of my husbands betrayal. Without my mom, I might not be here now, showing other women how to survive betrayal and take their life back. Thanks, Mom. I love you a bushel and a peck.

It goes without saying I wouldnt have written Porn Addicts Wife if it werent for my husband Ted, and his porn addiction. What initially felt like the worst thing that had ever happened to me, turned out to be the best thing for me. Having to fight my way through the pain of betrayal helped me to grow and heal in ways I would never have imagined. For the first time in my life I am doing what I need to do to make my dreams come true. Recovery has made us both stronger people and our marriage gets better and better because of it.

Thank you, Ted, for committing to do whatever it takes to repair our relationship. If you hadnt, our story would be much different. I respect your dedication to recovery, and I can see the results of your hard work. It is a blessing to see you become a stronger, healthier and happier man. You are an example for our sons to see that when a man takes responsibility for his mistakes, he becomes a better man. You, Ted, are becoming a better man and because of it, I love you more each day.

Big thanks to Jana Rockne, who steered me in the direction of becoming a Life Coach. This was something I had dreamed of some time ago but I thought it was too late for me. Jana helped me realize it is never too late to follow your dreams.

I have to thank my coach, Lea Ann Mallet, for helping me discover my superpower. We often overlook our qualities and strengths that make us unique. Lea Ann helped me realize that my experience as a porn addicts wife was more than just a rough patch in my life; it was a gift that needed to be shared with women who were suffering as I did, and that by sharing my path to recovery, I could make a difference in their lives.

The Universe truly works in miraculous ways. I sincerely believe that God puts in our path the people we need at just the right time. Maureen Doyle, my new friend, fellow coach, and author of When Your Ex Doesnt Follow The Rules, is one of those people for me. Because she made the bold decision to write a book, I was inspired to entertain the idea that I too might do the same, sometime in the distant future. She introduced me to Angela Lauria, and as they say, that was all she wrote. Thank you, Maureen, for showing me the way and for walking with me on this incredible journey to becoming an author. Your support and encouragement along the way have meant the world to me. Oddly enough, during this process, there was a few times when I needed your sage advice to deal with my ex who doesnt follow the rules. God blessed me when he brought you into my life. Forever friends we shall be.

This brings me to my publisher, Angela Lauria. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You spent so much time with me on our initial calls when I thought I was just researching the possibilities of writing a book. You convinced me not to wait because there were women who needed my book, now. Thank you for encouraging me to believe that with my book, I could make a difference in the world. This experience has transformed my life. You are brilliant at what you do and I thank you for providing your outstanding team that makes up Difference Press. You all ROCK!

Oh what a difference an editor makes. Thank you, Maggie McReynolds. You are a consummate pro! Through your wisdom and guidance, I became the author I had always dreamed I would be. Thank you for getting me here. I couldnt have done it without you.

I would be remiss if I didnt thank the extraordinary sexual addiction specialist, Tom Shelder. I cannot praise you enough for your dedication and service to your clients. You have helped my husband transform his life, and because of your work together, Ted and I have been able to save our marriage. I cant express how much it means to have my husband back! You have made a difference in our lives as you do in the lives of so many others. And you keep on giving. Thank you for your contribution to my book, I know your wisdom will make a difference in the lives of my readers.

To my amazing sons, your encouragement has meant the world to me. Most boys your age would be embarrassed that their mom was writing a book about porn addiction, but not you guys! I cant tell you how much it means to hear you say, Im proud of you, Mom. It makes me cry just thinking about your words. You guys make me so proud to be your mom. You are my sunshine and I love you to the sun and back.

Thank you, Morgan James Publishing. It has been a pleasure working with your team in getting my book to print and into the hands of those who desperately need it. Special thanks to David Hancock, CEO & Founder for believing in me and my message. To Megan Malone, thanks for all your guidance and help in making this process seamless and easy. Many more thanks to everyone else, but especially Jim Howard, Bethany Marshall, and Nickcole Watkins.

Sandy Brown brings over 20 years of personal development experience to her work with clients worldwide to create happier lives. She sees her own life as a work in progress and, through her own relationships, has learned to embrace both the good and the bad as opportunities for personal growth.

At the heart of Sandys work is her belief that healthy relationships are the key to a happy life, and that our most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. When our relationship with Self is strong and clear, it positively impacts our relationships with everything else, including money, food, exercise, work, and others. Sandy believes that happiness is an inside out job.

#1 International Best Selling Author, Certified Life and Relationship Coach specializing in Betrayal Recovery, Sandy shares that it is her own experience in surviving the betrayal of her husbands porn addiction that inspired her to focus her practice on helping other women to do the same. Through her own recovery and her experience with clients, Sandy has developed a process of recovery to empower women at a time when they feel all is lost.