A sprawling exploration of the psychic frailty that leads to self-delusion and self-aggrandizement, andimportantlya compassionate, helpful guide for avoiding that path (or reversing it).
Fortune
Dr. Tasha Eurichs new book is a sometimes uncomfortable, always powerful eye-opener to what it takes to be truly successful. Insightful, penetrating, humane, and holistic in her approach[her] advicethat we should challenge our own beliefs about who we are, and enlist others to do the sameshe knows is hard. But its the hard things that are worth doing, that will lead to sustainable success in individuals, organizations, even nations. Insight shows us how.
800 CEO Read
Think of the most cluelessly un-self-aware person you know: your boss, annoying neighbor, brother-in-law. How can we avoid being that person? And teach our kids to avoid being that person as well? Eurich summarizes the fascinating science about self-insight, butperhaps more importantlyshe studies admirable individuals who are self-aware in a way that is applauded by their peers. Youll benefit from knowing what they know. Buy a copy for yourself and buy another to leave, anonymously, on your bosss desk.
Chip Heath, coauthor of the New York Times bestsellers Switch and Decisive
Self-knowledge is key to a happy life, but it can be hard to know ourselves. Its easy to get distracted by the way we wish we were, or what we think we ought to be, or what others think we should be, until we lose sight of whats actually true. In Insight, Tasha Eurich shines a spotlight on people who have managed to gain insight into themselves, and she suggests groundbreaking strategies and tips for seeing ourselves clearly. This book is a powerful resource for anyone seeking to live a happier, more successful life.
Gretchen Rubin, New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before
As an executive coach for almost four decades, I have seen firsthand how important it is for leaders to be self-aware. Tasha Eurichs Insight lives up to its title, offering effective tools for leaders to gain this critical perspective.
Marshall Goldsmith, executive coach, business educator, and New York Times bestselling author, ranked one of the top leadership thinkers in the world by Thinkers50
If I had to name the secret ingredient to the success Ive enjoyed in my career, I would say that it all boils down to a commitment to self-awareness. In this groundbreaking and thought-provoking book, Tasha Eurich shows how we can all seize that single greatest opportunity for continual growth, improvement, and performance. Its the book I wish Id had when starting out in business and the book Id recommend to anyone who wants to cultivate the kind of self-knowledge that is the bedrock of personal and professional success. Very insightful indeed!
Alan Mulally, retired CEO of Boeing Commercial Airplanes and the Ford Motor Company
Required reading for every human being that will be expected to interact with other ones in their lifetime.
Tiffany Dufu, author of Drop the Ball
Copyright 2017, 2018 by Tasha Eurich
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Published in the United States by Currency, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.
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Originally published in hardcover and in slightly different form in the United States by Crown Business, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York, in 2017.
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To Mama, Noni, and my beloved S.P.
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It is most perilous to be a speaker of Truth. Sometimes one must choose to be silent, or be silenced. But if a truth cannot be spoken, it must at least be known. Even if you dare not speak truth to others, never lie to yourself.
FRANCES HARDINGE
BRAVER BUT WISER PLEDGE
In the spirit of my happiness, my success, and my most important relationships, I commit to work on seeing myself clearly.
To devote time and energy to my self-awareness journey.
To discover who I am, what I want, and what matters most to me.
To have the courage to seek feedback on my own terms.
To free myself from the limitations of the past and act on what I learn.
To take changes one step at a time and celebrate my successes.
To appreciate that there will always be more to learn.
To show myself patience, compassion, and acceptance along the way.
To take the pledge, go to www.Insight-Pledge.com.
1
THE META-SKILL OF THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY
The toughest coaching session of my professional career began with me staring, for what seemed like an eternity, at the top of a senior executives bald head. That head belonged to Steve, a construction company boss with a bleeding balance sheet. Hed been in the job for just four months when his CEO asked me to come in and help him.
That morning, Id taken the elevator to the eighth floor, waited in the reception area, and was finally shown to Steves palatial office by an assistant whose voice shook slightly when she announced my name. As the door closed silently behind me, Steve didnt look up from his computer, acknowledging my presence only with a long sigh and an aggressive flurry of mouse clicks. Which left me standing there, awkwardly staring at his head and admiring the contents of a presentation cabinet. It included a large award in the shape of a demolition ball, and that really said a lot about the situation.
Im not easily unnerved, but as the seconds dragged by, I began to feel the challenge that lay ahead of me as a sensation of mild nausea. It didnt help that I was holding a red folder bulging with interview notes that told me just how volatile this man could be.
Should I take a seat? I finally ventured.
Please, Dr. Eurich, he sighed impatiently, still not looking up. Whatever makes you comfortable.
As I sat down and opened my folder, ready to begin, Steve pushed his chair back. Finally, he looked at me. Let me tell you a thing or two about my operation here. Then, with the restlessness of a caged tiger, he began pacing up and down behind his desk, sharing his ambitious vision for the business and his hardball leadership philosophy. I was impressed with his energyI also knew that our work together would require all he could muster.
Steves department, he told me, was in trouble, although I already knew that. His predecessor had been fired because of cost overruns, so his in-the-red business unit needed to drive growth while finding efficiencies wherever possible. There was no room for failure, but Steve had no doubt that he was just the man for the task. His self-proclaimed leadership skills included setting high expectations, rallying his troops, and being tough but fair. I know Ill face challenges in this role, he confidently stated, but I also know how to get the best out of my people.