Rebecca Watson - I Want Sex, He Wants Fries: 5-Step Plan to Beat Low Testosterone & Get Your Sex Life Back On Track

5-Step Plan to Beat Low Testosterone & Get Your Sex Life Back on Track

Rebecca Watson

DISCLAIMER: This book is not intended to be a substitute for medical advice; in fact, one of its primary purposes is to help you find the medical professionals who can help you.

In this book I offer information based on my work with individuals and couples struggling in low testosterone marriages; however, not everything works for everybody.

Before implementing any of the medical suggestions in this book, please check with your doctor to make sure theyre right for you.

Readers hold the author harmless for negative outcomes based on following the suggestions in this book. Each marriage is different and not every strategy in this book will be right for you and your marriage.

Copyright 2015 Rebecca Watson

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To all those low T couples struggling to hold their marriages together

Hang in there, theres light at the end of the tunnel.

F or the good wife, who enjoys sex, having a low T husband is its own private hell.

Theres no good way to talk to your friends about your husbands sexual problems. It just invites a barrage of the most personal questions, for which you really have no answers. Your friends and family arent able to help, he doesnt want to talk about it, and the resources out there for the wives of low T husbands are nearly non-existent. In addition, low T tends to sneak into a good relationship unannounced, veiled in a fog of small excuses, white lies and confusion. Half the reason you cant talk about it is youre just wondering if the real problem is you.

When I first met Rebecca, her husband had already started testosterone therapy, but the six years of confusion and repeated sexual rejection had torn her apart. There was treatment for him, but not treatment for her.

Which is why in desperation she contacted me via my blog, and spilled the entire story. The pain. The doctors. The rejection. The awkward failures. The gnawing temptation to just walk away from the pride-swallowing siege and start over.

I read her email over and replied. I finished my email with

I think youve done the right thing in holding up your end of the marriage and giving him a fair warning and getting him into treatment. For what its worth, Im proud of you.

For me it was a throwaway line. Im proud of you. It sounded good, so I said it. For her, it was a lifeline in the midst of feeling thrown away.

I actually cried when I read that. I didnt realize how much I needed to hear it. It has been so hard to keep going in this marriage, and my husband hasnt been able to give me a lot of support because hes struggling himself to come to terms with the whole situation.

I would love to say that my email magically fixed everything, but it did mark a turning point. In the early days, there were still some remarkably emotional and dramatic moments, but she also showed so much heart I always felt like she was going to make it through.

Then as her own pain started to subside, her compassion for others started to shine. There was no requirement that she help anyone else but herself, but she stayed in the game anyway. She became my first moderator on my forum. Then a year later, she joined me as a life coach and now specializes in low T couples.

Why you need this book:

(1) Rebeccas knowledge of testosterone is encyclopedic, but she always keeps it simple to understand, and easy to put the next step into action. You arent going to get lost in jargon.

(2) She knows what its like being in your situation. Shes cried alone in the bathroom wearing lingerie too. This isnt an academic exercise for her, she genuinely cares that you get the help you need.

(3) She understands that it all doesnt just end with riding off into the sunset after your husband gets on medication. Theres so much that comes after that to relearn your relationship that your doctors simply wont know about, even assuming there was time in a 15-minute appointment to cover it.

(4) Theres nothing else out there for wives. To be sure, there are some dry medical tomes about testosterone, but nothing else really acknowledges the wifes perspective and struggle. Shes written the book she could have used all those years ago.

So think of Rebecca as your big sister who went through it all before you. She cant magically fix low T, but she will probably save you a couple of years of trial and error, maybe save your marriage, and definitely save your sanity.

Athol Kay

Professional Married Guy

F irst and foremost, I want to thank Athol Kay for his unfailing mentorship and support as I wrote this book. He encouraged, edited, pushed, prodded and poked; and cracked the whip when I slacked off.

He gave of his time, his effort, and his energy. He never lost faith that I would complete this work, and for that he has my utmost gratitude. This book would not exist without him.

I also want to thank the women in my life who encouraged and supported me in the writing of this book. My mom, Shirley Watson, whose courage in starting a new career in the second half of her life inspired me to take on this challenge. She has provided love and support every step of the way. My sister, Debra Watson, and sister-in-law, Nancy Inman, who spurred me on. My lovely niece, Danielle Marrazzo, whose enthusiasm for this project buoyed my spirits. My friend, Helen Hart, who continually lifted me up in this endeavor and whose technical support was invaluable.

I am thankful for my dad, Charles Watson, whose unflinching example of honor, integrity and strength kept my feet on a straight path when they wanted to stray.

A huge thank you to Kathleen Alkema, whose edits made this book tighter, cleaner and easier to read; and to Brian Rideout and Jennifer Kay for generously sharing information and technical support.

My special thanks goes to the men and women Ive worked with who are struggling in low T marriages. Their courage and commitment in the face of adversity is heartwarming. They have entrusted me with their stories and struggles and I have learned so much from them. My hope is that this book justifies their trust.

To my children, who gave up hot meals and clean clothes so that I could finish this book. They were willing to forego the time and attention of their mom and fill in the gaps, and for that I am grateful.

Watching their peacefully sleeping faces kept me from giving up during a dark place in my marriage. I am so much richer for having them in my life.

And finally, to my husband, Ron.

From the moment I asked him about writing this book, he has given constant encouragement and support. Hes offered suggestions and feedback, and listened patiently while Ive read chapters aloud. Hes helped me understand the point-of-view of the guy who is sharing this struggle with his wife, and his input has been invaluable.

Moreover, he had the courage to allow me to share our very personal story with others not an easy thing to do.

He never lost hope for our marriage even at a time when I did. He had the perseverance and strength to prevail and for that, I am very thankful.

Are you tired of lying awake at night, listening to your husbands peaceful, even breathing, hoping that this will be the night that he (finally) initiates sex? Are you longing for him to look at you again with that glint in his eyes that reminds you that hes a man and youre a woman? Do you have to hold back tears as you walk through the lingerie department, looking wistfully at all the pretty things, but knowing that your husband wouldnt bother to glance up from the TV even if you paraded in front of him stark naked?