Praise for Your Better Instincts
Deeply considered and personal, Dr. Stacy Irvines book is one of the most contemplative Ive ever read about health and instinct, and how we can be our best selves by being ourselves.
Dave Bidini author and musician
Your Better Instincts takes an idea that is as old as time and makes it new, relevant and actionable for today. This book feels like a conversation with a trusted, wise and (very) fun friend who is gently reminding us how to lead a life well lived.
Bruce Sellery money columnist, CBC Radio and Cityline
A fascinating voyage into the human psyche that puts words to the things we cannot see but that move us nonetheless.
Dr. Deborah MacNamara author of Rest,Play,Grow and clinical counsellor
Your Better Instincts will help you turn off the noise out there and tune in to the wisdom inside yourself. Dr. Stacy Irvine is a sage for anyone who wants to live their best life. This book will teach you to trust yourself and find your inner confidence.
Lynda Reeves founder, House & Home magazine
Your Better Instincts explores an ancient conceptinstinctwith a unique perspective. It allows us to better understand how we can thrive in and contribute to our planet in a positive way. When we realize that these instinctual pathways are designed with purpose, it becomes easier to find our own happiness within the journey.
Dave Salmoni animal trainer, television personality and producer
As a person who relies on her instincts, I would like to dedicate this book to my family... who could rightfully argue I may rely on them too much. Also, my patients and clients, and the athletes I have coached over the years. You have had to endure way more than a normal amount of my enthusiastic ideas, opinions and theories on too many things to count!
I would also like to acknowledge and thank my parents, Sharon and Dale Fyke, for instilling in me the confidence to trust my inner powers and strengths. This confidence allowed me to enter any arena, observe, learn from and sometimes even compete with the best, while embracing both the failures and the wins.
Finally, to all the nature explorers and animal lovers out there, I hope you will enjoy reading this book as much as I enjoyed writing it!
Copyright 2021 by Dr. Stacy Irvine
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This book is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of physicians. The reader should regularly consult a physician in matters relating to his/her health and particularly with respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.
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Introduction
Time to Alter Our Course
I am writing this introduction as we begin our seventh week of isolation during the COVID - 19 pandemic. I hope I am not stirring up horrible memories for you. In Canada, it seems we have weathered this life-changing event fairly well so far, while some countries have experienced devastating death tolls along with massive economic turmoil.
Totum Life Science, a health and sports medicine business that I co-own with my husband, has been closed for the duration of this time. Our lives, as well as the lives of our many employees, have been thrust into a stressful waiting game. We have no idea when it will be safe to reopen, or what that will look or feel like. Even in just the first few weeks, the number of small business closures in our neighbourhood was shocking. Our time in isolation has been one of extreme stress, with lots of tears and emotional outbursts. We do our best to contain these expressions within the walls of our house. Our three children are all too aware of what is happening because our home is now our office, and the continued conversations with the bank and landlords can be heard by all.
Together, the world has celebrated birthdays, weddings and even Earth Day in isolation. I mention Earth Day because the repeated narrative that day was something along this theme:
We were warned that a pandemic was coming, and we did nothing to change our way of life. Today we are suffering the consequences.We have also been warned for many years that climate change will destroy our planet. After surviving this pandemic, will we continue to ignore these warnings about our environment? Or will we decide to make some difficult changes and find a different path?
Along with the pandemic, we experienced a rise in race-related and Black Lives Matter protests in response to the murder of George Floyd. There have been many lessons learned from our time in isolation, along with a constant streaming of videos, jokes, TikTok dances and protest chants that are constantly sent to our inboxes and social media feeds. One video that went viral early on was called The Great Realisation, a poem (now book) by Tomos Roberts that was read as a bedtime story. This poem was set in a time post pandemic, and it described how humanity learned to appreciate what was important and improved ourselves and our future as a result. Many of us can relate to Robertss inspiring words, and I was amazed at how much the sentiment was familiar and inspiring to me as I was writing this book. Here are a few lines that particularly resonated with me.
, of poverty and plenty.We noticed families had stopped talking. Thats not to say they never spoke. But the meaning must have melted and the work-life balance broke.And the childrens eyes grew squarer, and every toddler had a phone.Wed forgotten how to run. We swapped the grass for tarmac. Shrunk the parks until there were none.
The tone of the poem then changes to describe how, because of our time in isolation, we slowly began to change: sometimes you get sick... before you start feeling better and your old habits became extinct.
One of the lines actually got me to stand right up out of my chair almost cheering (also because, during this time, I found myself sitting way too much on Zoom meetings, conference calls and so on, so I embraced any excuse to stand and move):
But while we were all hidden, amidst the fear... We dusted off our instincts. We remembered how to smile.
I felt as though Roberts was talking directly to me! How did he know I was busy toiling away at this book, trying to find a good way to explain to everyone how important our instincts are to our ability to thrive in life?
This simple, brilliant line and the concept of dust[ing] off our instincts captures exactly what I hope this book can be for everyone. Our instincts are a part of us and always have been. Over the last couple of centuries, much of humanity has created structures and systems that allow us to ignore our instincts, and not even attempt to develop them to their full potential. The goal of this book is to help you understand how important it is to honour your basic human instinctsfor the sake of your health, your performance and ultimately your happiness. Your instincts will serve you through good times, bad times and even pandemic times.