Lindsay Sealey - Rooted, Resilient, and Ready: Empowering Teen Girls As They Grow

Praise for Rooted, Resilient, and Ready

As a mom of three children quickly becoming teenagers, I want to prepare them for the inevitable changes and pressures they will face as they grow up. Lindsays book is not only perfect timing but refreshingly positive.

TAMARA TAGGART former CTV News broadcaster

While not shying away from even the trickiest of subjects, Lindsays knowledge, caring, and passion comes through on every page. Drawing from experts, personal vignettes, and Lindsays wealth of experience, Rooted, Resilient, and Ready offers practical, thoughtful advice. A must-read for every parent, teacher, coach, and therapist who has the privilege of helping girls navigate into adulthood.

DR. AARON LAUTZENHISER R. Psych.

Lindsay shows parents how to understand their teens and guide them to a positive self-image where they truly believe they can be anything.

ALLISON CEPLER co-founder and president of Girl Expo Canada

A wonderful and empowering work, essential not only for mothers, but also for grandmothers, aunts, teachers, and mentors of young women. Filled with beautiful imagery as well as case studies threaded throughout, this book teaches us how to instill teenage girls with roots for becoming resilient in an ever-changing, often quaking, society.

KATE BARRETT, MD

I know how important it is for myself and girls to be strong and know their worth. This book is a perfect guide for girls, young women, and parents to learn the tools of self-confidence and empowerment. I know Ill use it as I become stronger and continue to grow.

SPENCER LITZINGER host of YTVs The Zone

Lindsays heart for girls shines through in this book, as does her desire to spur girls on as they are becoming. She encourages parents to cultivate connections with their daughter in new and creative ways, taking on the role of observer, listener, and eternal learner. It is a wonderful resource for parents and adults who are longing for the girls in their lives to be rooted, resilient, and ready for all that awaits them now and in the future!

LAURA DANGELO author of A Month of Mindful Moments

In Rooted, Resilient, and Ready Lindsay inspires with terrific anecdotes and suggestions to help our daughters feel grounded in a fast-changing world. Affirming yet challenging, this book is an important resource for anyone who wants to see our daughters and students grow into strong, successful, and happy young women.

JASON BORKOWSKI elementary school principal and father of four daughters

This book is full of insight and advice that can actually be put to use! As a parent of a teenage daughter myself, I found this book to be instrumental in empowering me to be a better mother!

DELIA PERRY creator and host of the podcast Girls 4 Greatness

Lindsays practical tips on how to better communicate to teenage daughters to support them during these challenging years assure me that I can take this on!

DR. ADRIENNE CHAN, DR. TCM

A moving, powerful book about all the issues that our young women face. This brilliant book is a wonderful guide and support for professionals, families, and young girls navigating this crazy world.

JEN EAYRS youth and family worker, TAP (Tupper Alternative Program)

As a healthcare practitioner working with teens, Rooted, Resilient, and Ready is now the textbook I refer to. It serves me as a guide for talking to and connecting to teens, especially in todays world.

DR. ERIN TEWINKEL, ND

Lindsays insights shine an empowering light on young girls and parenting. I truly wish Rooted, Resilient, and Ready was published when I was a young girl.

ROBYN LIECHTI author of The Making of a Grateful Heart

As a mom who wants to raise her daughter with a strong sense of self, Rooted, Resilient, and Ready has given me the tools to step into these teenage years alongside my daughter with confidence.

SUSAN ELSTOB mom and founder of islapearl.com

Lindsay Sealey shows her mastery of emotional intelligence and deep experience working with girls and parents in this work of great importance. Rooted, Resilient, and Ready is heartfelt, devastatingly honest, reassuringly hopeful, and an essential tool for every mom and dad.

PETER SALVADOR Director of Education & Events, Factors Group of Nutritional Companies Inc.

To Kelvin
Adventuring through life with you, step by step, is a profound privilege.

Copyright 2020 by Lindsay Sealey

Foreword copyright 2020 by Shelby Rowland

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, without the prior written consent of the publisher or a licence from The Canadian Copyright Licensing Agency (Access Copyright). For a copyright licence, visit www.accesscopyright.ca or call toll free to 1-800-893-5777.

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ISBN 978-1-928055-44-0 (paperback)

ISBN 978-1-928055-45-7 (EPUB)

ISBN 978-1-928055-46-4 (PDF)

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Cover and interior design: Setareh Ashrafologhalai

Author photo: Lindsay Faber

Front cover photograph: iStock.com/martin-dm

Back cover photograph: Shutterstock.com/Waseef Akhtar

Girls photos taken by Lexa Bergen with the exception of Emilys photo (Amanda Chan) and Mishas photo (Edward Chang)

Published by LifeTree Media Ltd.

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Distributed in the U.S. by Publishers Group West and in Canada by Publishers Group Canada

CONTENTS

FOREWORD

ONE SATURDAY AFTERNOON I went to my neighbourhood bookstore to purchase additional copies of Lindsay Sealeys Growing Strong Girls. After reading my copy in just a day, I knew two things: I loved it and I had to share it with the other parents I know. Suddenly a thought popped into my mind: I should send Lindsay a message and see if she would sign a copy for me. Standing in the middle of the bookstorea stack of books under my arm, chai latte in one hand, and my phone in the otherI messaged her via Instagram. She answered right away, and said yes.

It was in this moment, and then over the course of the years to come, that I learned about Lindsays character. She says yes a lotto making time for people, to listening and offering ideas and insights, and to investing her time in growing strong girls and strong parents.

In my work with gracies gals, I hear again and again that girls are anxious and worried about becoming teenagers. Why do I feel this way? they ask themselves. Whats wrong with me? They tell me, I should feel that way instead. I am not enough. I will never be enough. I cant keep up. I dont fit in. Girls are sometimes feeling lost, and as their self-belief dwindles, so too does their security. At gracies gals, we focus on building girls up. We show them that they can turn their perceived weaknesses into triumphs, and teach them to view their experiences as successes and strengths, no matter what. We support them on their way to finding that everything they need is already within them and theres nothing wrong with who they are. However, many young girls feel overwhelmed by the need to keep up. As adults, many of us struggle with the same feelings of not being enough. We dont expect to handle those uncomfortable feelings without anxiety or fear. Why would we expect girls to do so?