Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist licensed in California. She is author of The Gift of ADHD and Listening to Depression, which was selected by Health Magazine as one of the best therapy books of 2006. She is also author of the forthcoming Gift of Adult ADD. Her work has been featured in Newsweek, the Wall Street Journal, the Chicago Tribune, and Publishers Weekly as well as newspapers across the country and local and national radio and television. She specializes in the treatment of ADHD and depression and the psychology of pregnancy and motherhood; she speaks regularly on her areas of expertise. Honos-Webb completed a two-year postdoctoral research fellowship at University of California, San Francisco, and has been an assistant professor teaching graduate students. She has published more than twenty-five scholarly articles. Visit her website at www.visionarysoul.com.
Go ahead and put these practical guidelines to work. Then you can smile at the miracle of wonderful transformation in you, in your childs ADHD, and especially in your child. Thank you, Dr. Honos-Webb, for your gift to what ADHD can be.
Alvin R. Mahrer, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and author of The Complete Guide to Experiential Psychotherapy
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The gift of ADHD activity book : 101 ways to turn your childs problems into strengths / Lara Honos-Webb.
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This book is dedicated to Ken, Kenny, and Audrey Webb for giving me the gift of waking up happy every day.
Contents
Acknowledgments
I cant find the words to express the love and gratitude from the depths of my heart to Karen, John, Ed, Chrissty, Grace, and Catherine Honos for their love and support. Thanks to Carole and Bill Webb, Anna, Rosanna, and Dale Chalfant for their constant encouraging presence and occasional babysitting. Thanks to Bill Webb for creating the design of the bingo cards in the book.
Id like to thank all the same folks and mentors I acknowledged in the first book with New Harbinger Publications, The Gift of ADHD, especially Tesilya Hanauer, Melissa Kirk, Heather Mitchener, Lorna Garano, Troy DuFrene, and Earlita Chenault, who I appreciate more and more with each book. Im grateful to Carole Honeychurch for her masterful edits and making me look good.
Thanks to my mom-buddies and their husbands and children for nourishing my family and soul. I cant express in words my admiration for how hard you work for so little recognition, and my devotion to you for the much-needed and never-frequent-enough moms nights out. Thanks to Rose Pacini, Jeannie Lopez, Wendy Whittles, Lisa Cloven, Margareth Click, Kiran Berrien Lawrence, Jen Chaney, Tiffany Welker, Sharon Beernink, Neetu Machaiah, and Christine Lydkis.
Thanks to Marc Celentana, Cy Estonactac, and Jenny Yeaggy for fond memories of must-see TV and other adventures.
I will be eternally grateful to Dick and Alison Jones and their family for their remarkable generosity of spirit. Without the lifelong support of John Thomas, I could never have made so many of my dreams come true. Thanks to Kira Mann, lifelong friend and now hipster party buddy, for reaching out to me with all your support over the last few years. Im grateful to everyone at the Detroit Country Day School, for the lifelong support network. You have provided me with a launching pad that made everything else that came after refreshingly easy in comparison (with the possible exception of childbirth).
Id like to thank Kelly Howell for her friendship, support, and breakthrough healing technologies. Im forever grateful to Carol Adrienne for her coaching and continued support. Thanks to Dr. Al Mahrer for being an inspiration and just the revolutionary the world needs now. Thanks to Deborah Harper for inviting me into the world of podcasting.
Thanks to Kim McCoy for being a kindred spirit, to Stephanie Vlahov for climbing the Mt. Everest of you-know-what, and to Renie Oxley for reminding me that to get to the next level I have to speak to my truthit worked!
Thanks to all of my clients for sharing your mystery with me. You are my primary inspiration.
To the most important people in the world: Molly McCann and Nino Kakulia for their loving care of Kenny and Audrey.
Introduction
The 101 activities presented in this book are based on the change in worldview I put forth in my first book, The Gift of ADHD: How to Transform Your Childs Problems into Strengths (2005). That change in worldview can simply be described as focusing on the gifts and strengths that children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) have in abundance. The shift is much more radical than simply finding strengths because its about actually seeing ADHD as a gift. The very same behaviors, traits, and expressions that get labeled as symptoms can, through a different lens, be seen as strengths that have an important contribution to make to our communities and culture.
Getting What You Focus On
Even if you find yourself doubtful about the premise that ADHD can be seen as a gift, there is little doubt that adopting such a belief would help transform your childs problems into strengths. Any serious student of human behavior will agree that whatever you focus on in your life, you will get more of. Research on optimistic explanatory stylestaking credit for good behavior and outcomes while looking for environmental causes of bad behavior and outcomeshas shown that finding benefits and focusing on them will increase mental and physical health and can even increase the length of life (Giltay et al. 2006). So this is no Pollyanna fancy; rather, it is serious science affecting life and health.
With this simple principle in mindin life, you get more of what you focus onyou can make dramatic changes in the life of your ADHD child with some simple activities that apply this principle. It breaks my heart to think of what can happen to a child when you focus primarily on perceived deficits and disorders. Imagine the dramatic transformations you could see when you withdraw your focus on these weaknesses. Now think of how this change will accelerate when you intensify your awareness and attention on the strengths of your child. We will examine this dynamic more closely and learn skills to bring it to the fore later in the book.
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