Victor Ebegbuna - A Quick Guide to Successful Parenting

Victor Ebegbuna

P ublished by Victor Ebegbuna

2020 Nigeria

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Table of Content

I NTRODUCTION

Chapter 1 .

Discipline in the home

Morality

Screen Time

Chapter 2.

Academic Pressure

Tech Toys

Boosting Your Child's Self-Esteem

Chapter 3.

Make time for your kids

Be a good role model

Love your Kids and show them through actions.

Practice Kind and Firm Positive Parenting

Chapter 4.

Communicate With Your kids and Help Their Brains Integrate

Make Your Parenting Style flexible and adjustable

Parents as Digital Role Models

Chapter 5.

Make use of Shortcut by Utilizing known researches

Remember Your Parenting Goal in keep things in perspective

Know your personal Needs and Limitations

Conclusion

Introduction

A LL PARENTS DESIRE to be the best parents as much as they can be, but there are always other conflicting ideas on how a child should be brought up, most of these conflicting ideas often come from family members (most especially in-laws), friends, and occasionally neighbors. Its usually hard to know who and what to trust.

In this book, we would be discussing several tested and trusted ways by which we could give our child/children the best of parental care and upbringing without losing yourself.

While trying to bring up your child/children in the best possible ways, you shouldnt abandon yourself, your spouse, and your personal development. So you should learn how to juggle between various responsibilities, such as flipping between the needs of your child/children, spouse, other members of the family, and yourself.

Raising kids successfully is one of the most tasking and challenging jobs to do in life yet it is one of the most rewarding jobs, seeing your kids turning out to be successful and of good and quality characters and behaviors. But most times, most parents dont put in the same energy they put into their daily jobs in bringing up their kids in the best possible ways.

Good parenting would mean making quality decisions in the best interest of your child to help in bringing out quality characters such as kindness, empathy, decency, honesty, dedication, self-reliance, etc. it would also be a way of protecting them and keeping them away from anti-social behaviors, depression, bad peer pressure, alcohol, drug abuse, etc.

To be a good parent doesnt mean you have to be perfect in everything, no one is perfect, and no child is perfect, so there is no way you would be able to perfectly mold your child into a perfect human, it is very important to keep this in mind in other not to frustrate your expectations from your kids as a parent. Successful parenting is not about achieving perfection in everything, but you must learn how to set goals and standards firstly for yourself and then for your child/children. You would mostly serve as their role model and they would most likely learn a whole lot from you most especially when they are still very much younger.

CHAPTER 1

D ISCIPLINE IN THE HOME

Discipline is a necessity in every home, household, or family. The major goal of having discipline in the home is to help the kids in choosing behaviors that are acceptable, which would also help them develop self-control. The kids may on several occasions test the limits you create for them, but those limits are needed for them to grow into responsible adults.

Establishing rules in the home would help the kids understand your expectations from them and then develop self-control.

Some rules may include No hurting teases, No watching of TV or playing of video games till all homework is done, etc. And you might also want to put a system in place whereby there would be one or two warnings after which would be followed by consequences such as loss of privileges, etc. The common mistake that parents often make are a failure to follow up with the given consequences.

Most times, kids tend to be uncivil as they are growing up, so most times, one of the major jobs of parents is to constantly correct them as often as possible over and over again, in most cases, over the same issues. This would require lots of patience and consistency as you would need to enforce the same rules over and over again. Its important to sometimes allow them to let them have their ways and for you to also get some timeout so as not to stress yourself out over the kids.

You dont have to always have the moral wins all the time as your kids might constantly misbehave, one of the key ways to handle such is by distraction. You could look for a way to distract him/her from whatever he/she is doing maybe into something more productive to you or for him/her to avoid the battles.

To some parents, spanking could bring a short/temporal compliance which sometimes is the much-needed relief for parents. Nevertheless, this method might never correct or teach your kids whats right from whats wrong, but rather it will only teach your kids to be scared of consequences but not actually teaching them the difference between right and wrong. Your kids would only be motivated to avoid being caught, instead of actually resisting from doing wrong.