Julaine E. Field - Understanding Girl Bullying and What to Do About It: Strategies to Help Heal the Divide

Understanding
Girl
Bullying
and What to Do
About It

This book is dedicated to Bailey, Kennedy, Karlena, Meredith Julia, and Mason. We hope you grow to be joyful, confident, secure, loving people.

Understanding
Girl
Bullying
and What to Do About It

Strategies to Help
Heal the Divide

Julaine E. Field
Jered B. Kolbert
Laura M. Crothers
Tammy L. Hughes

Copyright 2009 by Corwin

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Understanding girl bullying and what to do about it: strategies to help heal the divide / Julaine E. Field [et al.].
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-4129-6487-6 (cloth)
ISBN 978-1-4129-6488-3 (pbk.)
1. Bullying in schoolsUnited States. 2. GirlsViolence againstUnited StatesPrevention. 3. Violence in womenUnited StatesPrevention. I. Field, Julaine E.

This book is printed on acid-free paper.

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W e would like to thank the countless clients, students, and families who have invited us into their lives to hear their stories and to walk with them as they take steps toward change. We are humbled by their courage to explore the messiness of relationshipsto feel the anxiety, pain, anger, and frustration involved in being honest while engaged in conflict. To our female students and clients, we respect your willingness to take risks and speak out about a challenging issue that many suggest is merely a part of girlhood. We thank you for your insights in helping to generate approaches to help counter and emotionally manage the consequences of the rather complex issue of relational aggression.

We would specifically like to thank the generous students, teachers, and administrators at Valley High School for allowing us to do some of our initial research to explore this issue. We would also like to acknowledge the wonderful seventh- and eighth-grade girls at Laurel Junior/Senior High School and Michelle McClelland, school counselor extraordinaire, who participated in the pilot of the Goodwill Girls curriculum. Also, a special thank you goes to the peer reviewers who took the time to review our manuscript and make it stronger:

Jennifer Betters
School Counselor
Verona School District
Verona, WI

Carol Dahir
Associate Professor of Counselor Education
New York Institute of Technology
New York, NY

Deborah Hardy
Chairperson of Guidance
Irvington School District
Irvington NY

Philip Kavanagh
District Guidance Director
Lakeland Central School District
Shrub Oak, NY

James L. Moore III
Associate Professor, Counselor Education
Coordinator, School Counseling Program
Director, Todd Anthony Bell National Resource Center on the African American Male
The Ohio State University
Columbus, OH

Tricia Pea
Principal
Cienega High School
Vail, AZ

Julia V. Taylor
Author of Salvaging Sisterhood and G.I.R.L.S.
(Girls in Real Life Situations: Group Counseling Activities for Enhancing Social and Emotional Development)
Professional School Counselor
Wake County Public Schools
Raleigh, NC

Finally, a heartfelt thank-you to our beautiful families, friends, and mentors whose support, encouragement, creativity, and kindness enrich our lives every day.

Julaine E. Field, PhD, LPC, is an associate professor in the Department of Counseling and Development at Slippery Rock University of Pennsylvania. Dr. Field is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Pennsylvania and currently works at a crisis shelter that serves victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Her previous counseling experience includes working as a school counselor, mental health counselor, college counselor, and in private practice. She teaches graduate courses in the areas of group counseling, youth counseling, human sexuality, and courses related to school counseling. Dr. Field obtained her doctorate at North Carolina State University in Raleigh, NC. Dr. Field has authored publications related to counselor advocacy, gender identity, and relational and social aggression and has presented at international, national, and state conferences. She is involved in various womens initiatives on her campus and surrounding community.

Jered B. Kolbert, PhD, LPC, is an associate professor in the Department of Counseling and Development at Slippery Rock University of Pennsylvania. Dr. Kolbert is a certified school counselor and LPC in Pennsylvania, and he is a National Certified Counselor (NCC). Dr. Kolbert teaches graduate-level courses in counseling, including family counseling, life-span development, school counseling practicum, and a professional orientation course for school counselors. He has also taught at the College of William and Mary in Virginia and Virginia Commonwealth University. Dr. Kolbert obtained his doctorate in counseling from the College of William and Mary, Williamsburg, Virginia. He has worked as a school counselor, marriage and family counselor, and substance abuse counselor. Dr. Kolbert has authored publications in nationally refereed journals on a variety of topics, including evolutionary psychology, bullying, relational aggression, gender identity, and moral development.