Dreiblatt Michael - How to stop bullying and social aggression: elementary grade lessons and activities that teach empathy, friendship, and respect

I would like to express my greatest appreciation to my mother, Pearl.
Thank you for letting me live my dreams, which were not always in line
with the dreams you had for me. Your teaching, role modeling, and endless
supply of love helped me accomplish and enjoy all my adventures.
You are a great mother and a great personI love you.

To Dad, a true gentleman who taught respect and tolerance with tranquility,
dignity, and a sense of humor.

To Mike and KarenLong live our incredible TVeL.

My Lady JaneThis adventure has been wrapped around our adventure.
Thanks for being by my side, helping me grow, and growing with me.
All my love.

Steve Breakstone

To my parentsMy success is because of you my success is your success.

To Karen, the love of my life, my port in the storm.

To Tyler and Eric, for their humor, insights, love, and support.

To Steve, my wise and loyal friend.

To my past and future students and their families, for sharing their lives
with me if only for a while.

Michael Dreiblatt

To my parents, for their unconditional love and support;
you have never let me down and have always raised me up.

To my wonderful husband, who has dedicated his life to helping children
navigate a complicated world.

And to my children, whose presence in this complicated world is an endless
source of joy. I will love you always.

Karen Dreiblatt

Copyright 2009 by Balance Educational Services

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Breakstone, Steve.

How to stop bullying and social aggression : elementary grade lessons and activites that teach empathy, friendship, and respect / Steve Breakstone, Michael Dreiblatt, Karen Dreiblatt.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-1-4129-5810-3 (cloth: acid-free paper)

ISBN 978-1-4129-5811-0 (pbk.: acid-free paper)

1. Bullying in schoolsPreventionStudy and teaching (Elementary) 2. BullyingPrevention. 3. Aggressiveness in children. I. Dreiblatt, Michael. II. Dreiblatt, Karen. III. Title.

This book is printed on acid-free paper.

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We would like to thank the following people for their assistance in helping us create this book:

Jessica Allan, our editor, for her professionalism and expertise; Joanna Coelho, our editorial assistant, for her professionalism and for always cheerfully answering our many questions; Stacy Wagner, for believing in our project and signing us on with Corwin Press; Doris Bass, whose advice in pitching a proposal was invaluable; Jonah Spivak and Carrie ONeil at Spectrum Design, for their talent, friendship, and ability to take our amorphous thoughts and turn them into eye-catching design; Jane Glesne, Janet Phipps, Jim Quattrocchi, and Pat Gibbons, for their friendship, support, insights, patience, and willingness to read endless drafts of this book; our good-natured guinea pigs Tyler Dreiblatt, Eric Dreiblatt, and Kevin Kirk who offered their insights and suggestions regarding what works for kids and what doesnt; and, finally, the thousands of students weve worked with over the yearsyouve taught us so much.

Corwin Press gratefully acknowledges the following peer reviewers for their editorial insight and guidance:

Melissa Albright
Sixth-Grade Teacher
Wilsons Creek 5/6 School
Springfield Public Schools
Springfield, MO

Erin Barrie
School Psychologist
Regional School District #17
Haddam-Killingworth, CT

Sheila Fisher
Principal
Maria Weston Chapman Middle School
Weymouth, MA

Dana Hallgarth
Guidance Counselor
Liberty Early Childhood School Lakota School District
Liberty Township, OH

Cynthia Knowles
Substance Abuse Prevention Specialist
Livonia CSD
Dansville, NY

Amy B. Myers
Second Grade Teacher
North Hills School District
Pittsburgh, PA

Eva Varga
National Board Certified Middle Childhood Generalist
North Bend School District
North Bend, OR

Rhonda Williams EdD, LPC, NCC
Department of Counseling and Human Services
College of Education
University of Colorado
Colorado Springs, CO

Steve Breakstone, cofounder of Balance Educational Services, LLC, is a specialist in student discipline, bullying and violence prevention, behavior management, and effective communication styles. During his dynamic workshops, he uses his theatrical experience to role-play serious realities such as being bullied, being the subject of rumors, or being shunned by cliques. Steve is an expert in the Individuals with Disabilities Education Improvement Act (IDEA 2004) and Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act, offering easy-to-understand seminars to teachers, administrators, and attorneys.

Steve has served as the Director of Northstar Community Alliance where he worked to prevent and reduce substance abuse. He has also worked to prevent domestic abuse as the Youth and Community Educator with Project Against Violent Encounters. Steve is a past facilitator with FATHERTIME, a parenting program, and is a trained mediator.

In the late 1980s, Steve and his dog, Dixie, walked 3,000 miles from New Orleans to Washington state. In Washington, Steve worked nine years with people with developmental disabilities. He is the author of the book Washington WALKABOUT