Heidi Murkoff - What to Expect the Toddler Years

Heidi Murkoff
Arlene Eisenberg
Sandee Hathaway, B.S.N.
Sharon Mazel

Foreword by
Morris Green, M.D., F.A.A.P.
Perry W. Lesh Professor of Pediatrics
Indiana University Medical Center

Copyright 1994, 1996, 2009 by
What to Expect LLC
Book illustrations copyright 1994, 2009 by Marika Hahn

What to Expect is a registered trademark of What to Expect LLC.

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproducedmechanically, electronically, or by any other means, including photocopyingwithout written permission of the publisher.
Published simultaneously in Canada by Thomas Allen & Son Limited.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is available

ISBN 978-0-7611-5214-9

Material in What Your Toddler May Be Doing Now:
Adapted from the Denver Developmental Materials, W. K. Frankenburg, M.D.
By permission of the author. Height, Weight and Head Circumference Charts, pages 86265:
Developed by the National Center for Health Statistics in collaboration with the National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention and Health Promotion (2000).

Book design: Lisa Hollander with Janet Vicario
Front cover illustration: Tim OBrien based on a photograph by Penny Gentieu/babystock Back cover illustration: Tim OBrien based on a photograph from Getty Images Cover quilt: Lynn Parmentier, Quilt Creations, www.quiltcreations.net
Quilt photography: Davies + Starr
Book illustrations: Marika Hahn

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Note: All children are unique and this book is not intended to substitute for the advice of your pediatrician or other physician who should be consulted on toddler matters, especially when a child shows any sign of illness or unusual behavior.

To Elizabeth, the toddler we could always turn to; and to Emma, Wyatt, Rachel, and Ethan, whose toddler years are gone but certainly not forgotten.

To Howard, Erik, and Tim, our partners in parenting, and our very best friends.

Much like the eight toddlers weve had the pleasure of parenting, What to Expect the Toddler Years has presented us with countless challenges. And in the four years that it has taken us to research, write, and produce it, weve been lucky enough to work with many wonderful people who have assisted us in facing those challenges. Now, with the book in hand (make that two hands; at 900 plus pages, one hand wont do), wed like to take the opportunity to express our thanks to those who have helped put it there:

All the readers of our previous books, not only for their input, insights (keep those cards and letters coming!), and their loyalty (so greatly appreciated), but for their patience as they waited (and waited, and waited) for this books arrival.

Elizabeth Hathaway, toddler-come-lately, for obligingly posing for countless knock-knee photos, for always doing everything by the book, and for generally being the right age at the right time.

Dr. Morris Green, our esteemed and distinguished medical advisor, who never flinched (at least visibly) at the endless piles of paper we sent him, who painstakingly crossed our medical ts and dotted our medical is, who brought not just scientific knowledge, but great sensitivity to the task, and who worked at laser speed no matter how busy he was on other projects.

Suzanne Rafer, our intrepid editor and good friend (shed have to be), who waded through the sea of manuscript with her usual grace, style, sense of humor, and more flags than the United Nations will ever see.

The entire Workman team and extended family, but especially Lisa Hollander and Janet Vicario for their artistic expertise; Judit Bodnar for perceptive copy-editing, and Joan L. Giurdanella and Rob Sternitzky for attentive proofreading; David Schiller for copy that lets readers tell our books by their covers; and Peter Workman for his wisdom, understanding, and patience.

Marika Hahn for adorning the book with so many adorable toddlers.

Dr. Mark Widome for his invaluable support and assistance, particularly on matters of toddler safety and first aid. And the many others whove lent their expertise, including Carole Marcus, M.D., J. Rutt Reigart, M.D., Kathy Leonard, M.D., Al Mooney, M.D., Shelly Bazes, C.N.P., W. K. Frankenburg, M.D., Beverly Bresnick, Cate DAmboise, Sara Jacobs, Ann Wimpheimer, Alan Friedman, Sue Kellerman, Wendy Sax, Barbara Braun, Susanna Morgenthau, Mimi Gelb, Eve Coulson, Aliza Cotton, Michael Rand, and the moms and dads whove plied us with questions at our parenting groups and seminars.

The terrific staff at the American Academy of Pediatrics, including Michael Copeland, Carolyn Kolbaba, Leslee Williams, and former staff member Michelle Weber, for helping to keep our books accurate and up-to-date.

The editors of Contemporary Pediatrics for invaluable assistance whenever called upon; Juliann Goldman of C.S.P.I.; and N.A.P.N.A.P.

Tameka Hall and Niurka Zameta, crackerjack assistants, who kept up with filing mountains of articles from journals and newsletters, checked phone numbers, and otherwise kept our office going.

Abby and Norman Murkoff and, as always, Mildred and Harry Scharaga for unflagging support.

Safety Warning

Selecting Shoes for the Walker

Parting Tips

Introducing Cows Milk

How to Wean From the Breast

Generalizing

Other People Have Feelings, Too

Toys for Tots Early in the Second Year

Containing the Clutter

Buy Right

CHAPTER THREE: THE FIFTEENTH MONTH

Keep It Cool

When the Cows the Culprit

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep

Birthmarks, A Year Later