Heidi Murkoff - What to Expect: The Second Year: From 12 to 24 Months

FROM 12 TO 24 MONTHS

Heidi Murkoff
and Sharon Mazel

Foreword by Mark D. Widome, M.D., M.P.H., Professor of Pediatrics,
The Pennsylvania State University

Workman Publishing New York

To Erik, my everything
To Emma, Wyatt, and Russell, my greatest expectations
To Arlene, with so much love, always and forever
To my WTE familyand the moms, dads, babies, and toddlers everywhere

Copyright 2011 by What to Expect LLC
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Published simultaneously in Canada by Thomas Allen & Son Limited.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publishing Data is available
eISBN 978-0-7611-6364-0

Cover design: David Matt
Book design: Rae Ann Spitzenberger & Lisa Hollander
Cover illustrations: Tim OBrien based on photographs by Deborah Ory
Cover quilt: Lynn Parmentier, Quilt Creations
Quilt photograph: Davies + Starr
Interior illustrations: Karen Kuchar

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your pediatrician or other physician who should be consulted on toddler matters,
especially when a child shows any sign of illness or unusual behavior.

(Or, Ta-Ta)

I NEED HELP. There, Ive said it... I need help, and lots of it. And as luck would have it, Ive not only got that help in spades, Ive got the best a girl could hope for. Starting, as always, with the man Ive been blessed to wake up beside for 29 yearsmy partner in love, life, business, and pleasure, my DH and my BFF, Erik (though occasionally that man is a six-pound chihuahua named Harry, who manages to snuggle his way to the sweet spot between Erik and me-just like Emma used to do back in the toddler day... though she didnt shed).

And theres more help where that comes from... plenty more. The WTE family of books has grown, but happily so has the number of wonderful, talented, committed WTE family members who have pitched in to help it grow. Some have come, helped, and moved on (and when they do, I try not to take it personally), others have stuck by me since WTEs conception. Thanks a lot, or as the toddlers say, ta-ta to:

Arlene Eisenberg, my first partner in WTE and my most important one. Your legacy of caring and compassion lives on forever-youll always be loved and always be remembered.

Sharon Mazel, youre the wind in my sail, the answer to my questions, the chocolate on my peanut butter-and always, the yin to my yang. How could I live (or work) without you? Love to you, your ever-patient doctor husband, Jay, and the four girls whove somehow raised themselves (really well): Daniella, Arianne, Sophia, and Kira.

Suzanne Rafer, true friend, exceptional editor, awesome author advocate, whose critiques are always as sharp as her pencils (and hey, Ive even stopped erasing some of them!). Not surprisingly-after all these years of passes, were both wearing glasses.

Peter Workman, for his dedication, passion, and commitment, and for creating the house that became WTEs home.

Everyone else at Workman who has helped deliver my latest baby (I guess that makes you my doulas): Bob Miller, new fearless leader, for your finesse with facilitating and your excellence in expediting. David Matt, for always going, well, to the mat for me-and for sharing an artistic vision that, lets face it, definitely doesnt come cheap. Lisa Hollander and Rae-Ann Spitzenberger, my two favorite designing women, for your talent- and patience. Painting genius Tim OBrien for bringing the worlds cutest toddler, Gigi, to life (and to Gigi, for the smile you bring to my face every time I see yours), and to Anne Kerman for finding Gigi. Lynn Parmentier for your crazy beautiful quilt. Karen Kuchar, for capturing perfectly that quintessential toddler cuteness (and for your astonishing grace under deadlines). Peggy Gannon for always going with the flow and keeping the flow going. And my other phenomenal friends at Workman, including Suz2 (Suzie Bolotin), Erin Klabunde, Walter Weintz, Page Edmunds, Jenny Mandel, James Wehrle, Joe Ginis, Steven Pace, Marilyn Barnett, Jodi Weiss, Emily Krasner, Beth Wareham, Barbara Peragineand the entire sales and marketing team.

Dr. Mark Widome, for your vast wealth of medical expertise, your deep pockets of wisdom, your endless reservoir of patience, passion, and good humor-plus, can you write a fabulous foreword, or what? Im not sure whos luckier-the students you teach, the children you care for, the parents you counsel, or me (Im just glad theres enough of you to go around!).

Steven Petrow (MG), Vince Errico (Dimples), Mike Keriakos, Ben Wolin, Jim Curtis (CSOB), Sarah Hutter, and all my wonderful friends and partners at Everyday Health, for making our vision of WhatToExpect.com a reality. Thanks, also, to the amazing WTE community of moms-not only for making our site the special place that it is, but for sharing your bellies, babies, and toddlers with me every day. With a special shout (and XO) out to my Facebook and Twitter family-thanks for always being there for me.

Two other men I dont wake up with but couldnt face a day without: Marc Chamlin, for your keen legal eagle eye, your business smarts, your unflagging friendship and support; and Alan Nevins, for your masterful management, phenomenal finessing, endless patience, persistence, and handholding (well always have Cairo). And to the newest member of the WTE team, someone who has a great name and even a greater gift of communication: Heidi Schaeffer-thanks for getting the word out!

The mamas of my other baby: The What to Expect Foundation, Lisa Bernstein (mama, also to Zoe and Oh-that-Teddy) and Ruth Turoff (mama, also to the beautiful Bluebell), for spreading mom power to those who need it most.

Emma (the toddler who started it all), Wyatt (the toddler who followed), and my newest son, Russell-youve made me one lucky mama, and I love you all so much.

And speaking of family that I adore: Sandee Hathaway, my sweet sister and friend; my endlessly adorable father Howard Eisenberg; my treasured in-laws, Abby and Norman Murkoff. And Victor Shargai, for your love, support, and DNA.

To AAP, for being tireless advocates for children and their parents, and to all of the practitioners who work every day to make little lives happier, healthier, and safer.

And most of all, to all moms, dads, and toddlers everywhere. Big hugs to you all!

WHAT HAPPENS ON the morning of the first birthday? Does yesterdays infant awake a fully formed toddler? Does child development pay some special respect to the Gregorian calendar? And, more to the point, must parents one day put aside their infant parenting skills, and open a new toolbox of skills for parenting a toddler?