Heidi Murkoff - What to Expect the First Year

WHAT TO
EXPECT THE
FIRST YEAR

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Que se Puede Esperar Cuando se Esta Esperando
(What to Expect When Youre ExpectingSpanish edition)

The What to Expect Baby-Sitters Handbook

What to Expect the Toddler Years

Heidi Murkoff

Sharon Mazel, Arlene Eisenberg &
Sandee Hathaway, B.S.N.

TO EMMA AND WYATT, RACHEL, ETHAN, AND ELIZABETH
FOR THE MAGICAL, MEMORABLE FIRST YEARS EACH OF YOU GAVE US

TO OUR PARTNERS IN PARENTING, ERIK, HOWARD, AND TIM,
WITHOUT WHOM WE COULDNT HAVE MADE IT THROUGH THOSE FIRST YEARS

Copyright 1989,1996,2003 by What to Expect LLC
Book illustrations 2003 by Judy Francis
Design copyright by Workman Publishing

What to Expect is a registered trademark of What to Expect LLC

Front cover illustration: Tim OBrien based on a photograph by Fiona Alison/Getty Images
Back cover illustration: Tim OBrien based on a photograph from Banana Stock/Photolibrary
Cover quilt: Lynn Parmentier,Quilt Creations, www.quiltcreations.net Quilt photography: Davies + Starr

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproducedmechanically, electronically,
or by any other means, including photocopyingwithout written permission of the
publisher. Published simultaneously in Canada by Thomas Allen & Son Limited.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publishing Data available upon request.
ISBN 978-0-7611-5212-5 (pbk)
ISBN 978-0-7611-5079-4 (hc)

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Note: All children are unique and this book is not intended to substitute for the advice of your pediatrician or other physician who should be consulted on infant matters, especially when a baby shows any sign of illness or unusual behavior.

If theres anything harder than writing a book, its rewriting a book. Like reinventing the wheel (how can we do it better?), it takes a lot of reevaluating, a lot of revisiting, and a lot of second-guessing (What works well already? What used to work but doesnt anymore? What never really worked in the first place? What could workwith a little work?). It also takes a lot of help, from a whole bunch of people. From friends, colleagues, academics, health care professionalsand some special folks who fit into all four categories at the same time; some who have supported us from the first draft of the first edition, others who have only recently joined the team; many more wonderful people than we could possibly list here, that is, without running even farther over the expected page count in this second edition than we already have. We gratefully thank all of you, including:

Suzanne Rafer, a wonderful editor and even better friend, who has gamely waded through thousands and thousands of What to Expect manuscript pages over the last twenty years, shepherding sentences gone astray (and puns gone bad), deftly deleting words (the extraneous ones, that is), relentlessly waving her pink flags until we surrender to her better judgmentfor everything you do, and for always being there.

Peter Workman, a publisher of uncommon (at least these days) character, skill, and most of all, faithfor standing behind us from the humble beginnings of What to Expect. We share every success with you and with

Lisa Hollander, for making every book look its best, and Barbara Balch, for giving her a hand with this one; Judith Cheng, for another beautiful cover (and another memorable baby), and Judy Francis, for her adorable (and illuminating!) illustrations. Anne Cherry, for smoothing out the kinks in the manuscript. Robyn Schwartz, for good humor and fast reflexes. Carolan Workman, Suzie Bolotin, David Schiller, Jenny Mandel, Sarah Edmond, Jim Eber, Kate Tyler, Bruce Harris, Pat Upton, Saundra Pearson, Beth Doty, and all the other wonderful members of the Workman familylots of hugs and kisses to each and every one of you, for all your hard work, support, and love. Thanks also to all of you who worked on the first edition but have since moved on.

Sharon Mazel, for absolutely everything you do (and for the amazing speed with which you do it all; it probably helps that you never sleep): favorite e-mail companion (youve got mailagain!), tireless researcher (who takes her research seriouslyand has Kira and Sophia to show for it) and writer, steadfast gatekeeper of TMIyoure half of our onetwo punch, and I treasure you. Thanks, too, to Dr. Jay Mazelnot just for sharing Sharon but for offering endless after hours medical adviceand to the four (and counting?) Mazel girls: Daniella, Arianne, Kira, and especially timely Sophia. Special thanks to the girls pediatrician, Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, who patiently answered the hundreds of First Year questions Sharon snuck into well-baby visits. And Aliza Graber, for getting us organized.

Dr. Mark Widome, Professor of Pediatrics at The Penn State Childrens Hospital and star of both pediatric practice (we envy those kids in your care!) and the Today show, and our extraordinary medical adviser. Not only for your invaluable knowledge, wisdom, and insights, which make us look good, but for your humor, empathy, and compassion, which make us feel even better. Your attention to detail (through every word on every last page of manuscript) always went above and beyondand we cant thank you enough.

Lisa Bernstein, Executive Director of the What to Expect Foundation, for your determined dedication to the health and well-being of all babiesand always, for your love, support, and friendship. (And, of course, to Zoe, Teddy, and Dan Dubno.) Marc Chamlin, Ellen Goldsmith-Vein, and Alan Nevinsfor protecting me, standing up for me, and most of all, for caring about me. Medora Heibron, for her invaluable insights on adoption. All the dedicated, wonderful people at the American Academy of Pediatrics, whom we can always count on for the most up-to-date (and most balanced) facts and positions. And to the countless AAP members who have answered questions, offered feedback, and helped make this book the best it could be.

With love, to my husband, best friend, partner in parenting, partner in business, and partner in life, Erik Murkoff, for making everything possible. I couldnt begin to do it without you, and Id never want to try. And to Emma and Wyatt, my inspiration and (real live) guinea pigs; I love you guys.

To two of the best husbands and fathers around, Howard Eisenberg, and Tim Hathaway, to those amazing Hathaway kids, Rachel, Ethan, and Liz. And to Mildred and Harry Scharaga, Victor Shargai, and John Aniello, for your love and support.

To Arlene Eisenberg, for everything; your legacy lives on in the hearts of so many. Well always love you and miss you.