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Dr. Smolen, a seasoned pediatrician and pediatric blogger, provides parents current, research based information to help them make informed decisions about family life. He provides practical tips and strategies for parents in the 21st century: Food - optimal nutrition and consequences of poor choices. Screen - the influence of quantity and type of screen time. Chores - responsibility shapes character. Money - value and management. Balance - academics, extra curricular activities, and unstructured play. Knowledge is power. Become a better parent and make it easier!

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Can Doesnt Mean Should

Essential Knowledge for 21st Century Parents

Paul Smolen, MD

Edited by Wendy and Benjamin Smolen

Copyright Copyright 2015 by Paul Wendy Benjamin Smolen Can Doesnt Mean - photo 2

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Copyright 2015, by Paul, Wendy, Benjamin Smolen

Can Doesnt Mean Should

Essential Knowledge for 21st Century Parents

Paul Smolen, M.D.

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Published 2015, by Torchflame Books an Imprint of Light Messages

www.lightmessages.com

Durham, NC 27713 USA

SAN: 920-9298

Paperback ISBN: 978-1-61153-138-1

Ebook ISBN: 978-1-61153-136-7

ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise, except as permitted under Section 107 or 108 of the 1976 International Copyright Act, without the prior written permission except in brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

Introduction

T odays parents face decisions that no parents have previously had to face. The dizzying pace of change and innovation in the 21st century makes raising children a scary endeavor. Our great grandparents grappled with decisions unaffected by the intrusion of modern life and technology into the family. Todays parents must cope with the realities of modern life. These include the scary world of the Internet; the lure of smartphones and tablets; the seductive and violent media messages that our culture promotes; the availability of highly processed but minimally nutritious foods; the new phenomenon of children having access to large amounts of money; and hyper-competitive academic and extracurricular environments. How do parents learn enough about these subjects to make the right decisions for their children and family?

My Goal:

Most parents today can provide much of what modern life has to offer, but the real question is should they? That question is the crux of this book. In the subsequent chapters, my goal is to give parents knowledge and insight into the issues presented to empower them to determine what is best for their families. My goal is to help parents navigate the minefield of the can/should decisions they face. Knowledge and the confidence to make the best decisions for our families are the keys to unlocking the great parent in all of us.

My Qualifications:

I have practiced pediatrics for 36 years; I have spent my entire adult life with young children and families. I log about 5000 office visits a year, so over the course of my career I have had more than 160,000 patient encountersand those were just during daylight hours! My experience as a seasoned pediatrician has given me a unique vantage from which to observe parents struggle with the can/should dilemmas inherent in life today.

My job involves recognizing serious disease when it presents itself, but also listening, observing, advising, counseling, directing, cheerleading, and encouraging. I have had the opportunity to be part of thousands of conversations about the subjects addressed in this book, including: what is the optimal nutrition for children; does screen time have an influence on children; what is the role of chores and household responsibilities in shaping the character of children; and how do parents find the right balance between academics, extra-curricular activities, and free unstructured play? Each of these scenarios entails can/should decisions. I can do or provide this or that, but should I, and if so, how much and under what circumstances?

I have paid close attention to the myriad of parents and families with whom I have had the privilege to be associated. I have an extremely intimate, front row seat to the workings of families with their attendant strengths, weakness, challenges, and difficulties. Over the long course of my practice, I have gained a tremendous respect for parents. In my opinion, it takes character, physical strength, a loving heart, and determination to be a successful parent. Consider just a few of the tasks that parents must master:

  • Feeding and protecting their children.
  • Providing shelter for their little ones.
  • Shaping their childrens character.
  • Setting limits for childrens behavior both inside and outside the home.
  • Teaching children right from wrong.
  • Demanding honesty and accountability in their children.
  • Fostering a sense of community and service to others.
  • Creating opportunities for their children to thrive.
  • Getting their children educated and capable of a self-sustaining life.
  • Helping their children find their own lifes interest and talents.
  • Setting a good example for children to follow.

As the sun begins to set on my career, it is time to articulate my perspective on many issues that parents will face. Much of this book will consist of my opinions, but they are based on observation and experience. I include science and facts whenever possible to help you in your own thought processto help you with your own can/should decisions.

Acknowledgments

I would like to thank those that inspired and helped me create this book: my wife Wendy and my son Benjamin, both of whom provided advice, superb editing skills guidance, support, and patience throughout the books creation; my nephew Seth Jaffe, the rocketman barrister who helped me with technical advice; Stephen Valder M.D., John Plonk M.D., Anne Gessner PNP, Ashley Grimm RN, Annie Beth Donahue, Charlotte Rouchouze, Dean Brodhag, Stephanie and Sophie Gardner, Megan Schlie, Ellis Chase, Michele Orwin, and David Ross-- all of who graciously contributed effort to the creation of this book.

Chapter One
Parenting Then and Now

The New Reality of Parenting: Change at the Speed of Light.

T he pace of change in todays world is mind-boggling; our great grandparents would barely recognize life today. Even our language would baffle our grandmothers. Can you imagine saying, Hey, grandma, Im running down to the Quick Pick to grab some munchies and an energy drink. Be back in a flash. Oh, what a hundred years can do to language, culture and lifestyle. Never before in human history has change occurred at such a rapid pace.

In many respects, children at the turn of the century had a drastically different childhood experience than those born today. Children born in 1900 were likely to be raised in a rural setting, surrounded by farms, mostly in single-family households and raised by two parents. A childs days were often long and hard. Children were an important source of labor for their families and communities. As part of their families, their living expenses were already paid, they were strong, and they had good stamina. Todays school calendar is a reflection of just how important their labor was to a family and community. Children worked both at home, on farms, and in the growing industrialized world. With their days divided up among household chores, schoolwork, and work in their communities, children in 1900 had little free time. Summers did not provide vacation or free time; rather they provided time to work.

Education beyond basic high school was rare. Family and church were the major influences as their minds developed. Most families had limited access to world news or opinion. Of course, conventional radio and TV did not yet exit. Many children may not have ever had the opportunity to travel more than 25 miles from home their entire lives. Photography was in its infancy and out of reach for most families. Pictures of people and events were rare and precious in 1900.

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