In memory of Mary OFlynn, a vibrant and dynamic spirit who was taken far too abruptly from this universe. Rest happy, Mary.
Introduction
W hether youve tried every diet out there or you want to lose weight for the first time, this book is for YOU. In fact, this book is for anyone who wants to lose weight and keep it off for ever. It is estimated that nearly 60 per cent of adults want to lose weight. Some are mums wanting their pre-baby figure back; others are older people fighting the gradual thickening around the waist that can come in middle age; others have been struggling with weight gain all their lives, or are yo-yo dieters or binge-eaters. Some people are several stone overweight; others are just feeling a bit plump after overindulging during Christmas or their summer holidays. Whatever your situation, this book will help you to achieve your weight-loss goals, and provide you with the tools to keep the weight off, for good.
Thats a big claim to make, so what makes this programme different from the diets youve tried in the past? The difference is that diets are short-term measures that are virtually impossible to maintain permanently, so no matter how much weight you lose, you will no doubt put some or all of it on again, or maybe even more than you lost to start with! This approach, however, works by reprogramming your brain with regard to food, exercise and lifestyle, and once this has been achieved, you will always be able to keep your weight under control.
In this book I will help you to discover your personal attitude towards food, then understand how this has led to your current weight. I will then guide you through the process of changing your thought patterns to enable you to achieve your weight-loss goals and keep the excess pounds off for good.
Dotted throughout the book are 25 simple yet practical exercises that will help you reprogramme your brain so you can change any negative beliefs you have about your weight into positive ones. Theyll also help you to discover what type of eater you are, for example, whether youre an Addictive Eater or a Lazy Eater, and will teach you invaluable tools that will help you to stop comfort eating and banish cravings for good. The exercises are an essential component of this book so I encourage you to complete them as fully as possible. You can complete them in this book or, if you prefer, copy them into a personal journal.
Its invaluable to know that you are not alone in your endeavour to lose weight, so in this book I have included case studies of six men and women who I have been working with in a control group to lose weight specifically using the techniques I describe here, as well as the stories of some other weight-loss clients I have worked with over the years. Their results have been remarkable and I will share the secrets of their success with you. Youll be able to learn directly from each of them as they tell us what really made the difference for them, and be able to apply their tips to your own situation. I also share the secrets of other weight-loss clients who have been coached by me in the past so you can learn from them too.
Theres no point learning how to control these bad eating habits if you dont then replace them with a better, healthier diet to help you get the best out of your body. Lets face it: you rely on your body for everything so its important to look after it. Its rather like having a beautiful sports car and putting the wrong fuel in it: it wont work effectively and can even damage the engine. So I will offer you lots of useful tips and advice on how you can become healthier without cutting out everything you love.
The final stage of the programme involves the dreaded E word exercise! To keep your weight down, the equation is simple: you need fewer calories going in than are going out. However, with so many of us leading hectic lives, eating on the run, working in sedentary occupations and not making time to get our bodies moving, the equation is often the other way round. But dont panic Im not going to make you go to the gym five times a week! What I will do, though, is help you to discover things you enjoy that also help you to shed the pounds, whether thats taking long walks in the countryside or learning to salsa. The trick is to find activities that you love to do. Ill show you how to turn your exercise procrastination into motivation to get out there and do something.
You may be wondering who I am to be able to make such ambitious claims? Im a certified trainer of neuro-linguistic programming NLP and aspire to become one of the few female Master Trainers of NLP in the world. NLP is the technique upon which this book is based and it involves reprogramming your mindset to enable you to achieve things you may have previously felt were unattainable. I explain it in more detail in Chapter 1: NLP and Weight Loss.
Im the author of three best-selling books, Change Your Life with NLP, Change Your Business with NLP and Still 25 Inside, and I run The Change Corporation, through which hundreds of men and women have been trained using NLP techniques. Many of those came to me in the hope of losing weight and went on to achieve great success in their weight-loss goals.
But what makes me uniquely qualified to help you is that Ive also been in the position youre in now, and have learned how to use NLP to keep my own weight at a healthy level. I took the skills that I had used in my business to reprogramme the way I thought and felt about myself, build my self-esteem and focus on what I wanted from life. Im now the ideal weight for my height and feel better than ever before and am excited about sharing my secrets for successful weight loss with you.
So now all thats left to do is to take those first steps on the road to your ideal weight!
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NLP and Weight Loss
S o how will NLP help you to lose weight?
NLP is a technique that works by changing your mindset, focusing and motivating you until you believe you can achieve whatever it is you want, in this case weight loss. It empowers you to face your weight challenges head-on and gives you the necessary tools to transform yourself.
In the early 1970s, a linguist, John Grinder, and a mathematician, Richard Bandler, studied individuals who were the best in the world at what they did to find the answer to the question: What makes the difference between world-class and mediocre performance? They discovered that those people who were at the very top of their professions all held the same sense of self-belief and positive, can-do attitude, whereas people who only performed averagely tended to rely more on luck than judgement! Grinder and Bandler proved that there is a clear relationship between our brains, the language we use and the results we are able to achieve. From their observations, they were able to create strategies and techniques to help others achieve fast and sustainable results in various areas of their lives. They called this approach to change Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, and since then hundreds of thousands of peoples lives have been changed permanently using this technique.
You might ask why NLP has been so successful. Unlike other approaches that tell you WHAT you need to do, NLP is a HOW-TO technology, meaning you are not just following a set of instructions you are in control of the changes you are making. For most people, things happen and they react instinctively at a subconscious level. However, NLP gives you the tools to react differently by choice, to become more aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. You will then be ready to take responsibility for your health and fitness once and for all. You will also be able to apply the tools you learn in this book to other areas of your life, such as your career or relationships.
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