Al Sheridan - Childfree: Guide for Understanding. 50 popular questions with answers + 50 short life stories

Despite the mention of the experience of many different real childfree people in life stories, names are the products of the authors imagination. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead is purely coincidental.

Lets BEGIN! 5 basic questions for start

Q 1. DO CHILDFREE PEOPLE hate children?

Life story:

Anna, 29, works as an economist in a small firm. All her colleagues are much older than her, they have families, they like to talk about children. Anna had normal relations with her colleagues, until one day she was told that it was time for her to have children, and Anna answered that she was not going to have them at all. After that, her life turned into hell.

Every day the employees of the company discussed her behind her and spoke publicly about how much she was wrong. They were indignant at the fact that people like Anna hate children. They said that they would never let their children close to Anna, because she could harm them!

Anna is a non-conflicting person, therefore, unable to convince her colleagues that she does not want evil to children, she eventually asked the director to transfer her to an unused room so she could work peacefully. It helped her, but she still gets upset when she sees after work, as her colleagues tell their children not to approach her - 'that evil aunt'. On such evenings she tries to pretend that she does not notice this, but, turning around the corner, she usually wipes away her tears and goes to a big kid's store to buy another toy for her beloved five-year-old niece Christina.

The answer

People who hate children are called childhate . Only a small part of childfree people are also childhate. Most childfree people do not have anything against children in general, they can play with them, but they just do not want to have their own children.

Q2. What is the meaning of life, if not to have children?

Life story:

Caroline is 32 years old. From an early age she adored listening to fairy tales and reading books, she early began to compose her stories and share them with friends. After school, she entered the university and graduated from the English language and literature department.

Now she has eight books published, and she finishes work on the ninth. According to one of her books, the film was shot, and Caroline was very pleased with the reviews. She is going to participate in the scripts contest of television series and does not understand why her neighbors regularly ask her when she is going to have children. And why is it so difficult for them to understand the answer never.

Her neighbors think that all the nonsense, except for raising children, but Caroline sees a lot of other activities for which it is worth living. She agrees with the opinion that if you do not see the meaning of life other than children, this does not mean that others do not see it, either.

T HE ANSWER

Some people believe that life does not make sense without their children. Good for them! But there are also those who consider creative, travelling, friendship, career or helping others to be the most important in their life.

Q3. Do not religious people know that they are obligated to have children?

Life story:

Maria grew up a very calm child. She studied well at school, then studied history in college. But gradually she realized that she preferred a different path, and she came to the monastery and became a nun.

She was never interested in children, but she always loved nature very much and with great pleasure grew flowers. At first, she did it on the windowsill in her bedroom, then in just a couple of years she created several beautiful flower beds on the territory of the monastery.

Most of all, Maria loves to observe the rapture on the faces of people who go to the monastery for an excursion and see her flowers. Even the most gloomy adults start smiling, photographing flower beds and thanking nuns for such beauty.

The answer

Many religions really support families with children and provide indications that women should give birth to children. But these wishes are not strict orders. Otherwise, in Christianity, for example, there would be no such respect for childless monks and nuns.

Q4. Why do childfree people refuse to recognize that everyone should have children?

Life story:

Jean and Sophie, 33 and 34, work in a large organization that deals with the design of buildings and bridges. They are childhood friends, studied programming together at the Technological Institute and came together to work for this company.

As employees of the technical department, they are responsible for the electronic workflow of the company and ensure the smooth operation of the corporate chat. This is the most disgusting part of their job - to see numerous gossips and how other company employees discuss their personal lives, the fact that they are both not married, and that they still do not have children.

Jean and Sophie are even more irritated by the attempts of employees to discuss during their working hours in the chat their young children and the numerous unpleasant physiological details associated with them. They sincerely do not understand why this should be done at work, and why such employees believe that the whole company should know about how many times their little Carl went to the toilet.

Jean and Sophie have not answered anyone in the chat for a long time, they do not show their colleagues how much they do not like being gossiped, because they know that it's useless. But they have already decided that after the end of the contract they will change their place of work.

The answer

Childfree people refuse to recognize that everyone should have children, because they respect the right of every person to choose their own way and manage their lives. They also respect private life and believe that a person's personal life is not something that outsiders should discuss.

Q5. Why do childfree people behave so aggressively?

Life story:

Nikolina always loved and was proud of her only daughter Elma. By the age of 30, Elma was able to earn enough money to buy a small flat and move to another city. She sent her mother photos and videos, often communicated with her via Skype and seemed pleased.

But over time, Nikolina began to notice that her daughter was becoming more and more nervous, that she was smiling falsely, and sometimes showed herself on a laptop screen with red eyes, as if she had recently cried. Feeling anxious and wishing to make her daughter a surprise, Nikolina came to her city. Since Elma was at work, Nikolina decided to spend this time in the park, which she saw on the pictures sent.