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Notbohm, Ellen.
Ten things every child with autism wishes you knew / Ellen Notbohm. -- Updated & expanded ed.
p. ; cm.
Originally published: 2005.
Includes index.
ISBN: 978-1-935274-65-0
1. Autism in children. 2. Autistic children--Care. 3. Autistic children--Family relationships.
4. Child rearing. I. Title. II. Title: 10 things every child with autism wishes you knew
Praise for Ten Things Every Child
with Autism Wishes You Knew
The FIRST book you should read when your child is diagnosed. Written by a mum with fantastic insight into the world of autism, through the childs eyes, and having a son of her own with ASD really shines through in the book. It is an intelligent and empathetic book written FOR our children. Ellen Notbohm is an amazing mother and author! Have bought this book for ALL my family.
Trinny Holman
This book has become my Bible! Was like someone had switched on a light after reading it! Brilliant!!
Becky Gillingham
This book is the only one that explained my son 100%. Nobody, not even medical doctors, were able to explain to me what my son is feeling. I often used to say, I wish I could see through his eyes for just one day. This book made that possible.
Caroline Nel
After reading many autism books, this was the one for me. I laughed and cried my way through it. It gave me a sense of peace and relief to know I wasnt the only one who understood what was going on. It gave me relevant strategies and brought new concepts that were actually helpful. This book was about my son and I loved how positive it was!
Karen Maher
(Ellen) and Bryce are my heroes, and changed my life in ways I cant describe, (as) Ten Things changed our family.
Debi McCombs Garrett
This was the first and only autism book I read after diagnosis. Positive and inspirational, it made me think about it from my sons view and not a parents point of view. With every struggle or change or thought, I now always try to see it from his view and this enables me to think about how to help him in a different way.
Claire Coley
Absolutely Ten Things changed the way I looked at my sons behavior. Having it written from the childs point of view that really resonated with me and my husbandthe parts about sensory issues and how not to use metaphors when speaking. That was huge for us. I bought several copies and gave it to teachers as well. Whenever Im asked for book recommendations explaining autism, its the first book I suggest.
Kay Thomas
I recently used [a summary of Ten Things] as a supplement to an autism presentation I gave to firefighter/paramedics. It was a HUGE hit! Prior to this, I made my family members read it as well. What great insight for them to have! Thank you again.
Ray Di Lisi
I love this book, and made it available to [my sons] school team as well. For us, it reiterated and clarified that our son does the absolute best every day to manage his world, and that we need to acknowledge and be proactive in providing him the best possibilities in his day.
Lisa Todnem
It is as important as the Declaration on Human Rights in France in 1789, no less.
Jean-louis Jaucot
Your book Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew is both my four-year-old sons and my own favorite book at the moment. For me, its the insight and that its everything Ive ever wanted to tell the people around us, but did not have the words for. For him, its the fingers on the cover. We both thank you.
Siw Waag Halsen
Also by Ellen Notbohm
1001 Great Ideas for Teaching and Raising Children
with Autism or Aspergers
with co-author Veronica Zysk
Silver Medal, Independent Book Publishers Awards
Learning magazines Teachers Choice Award
Ten Things Your Student with Autism Wishes You Knew
with Veronica Zysk
Finalist, ForeWord Book of the Year Awards
iParenting Media Award
onlinecolleges.nets The 20 Essential Books About Special Education
The Autism Trail Guide: Postcards from the Road Less Traveled
Finalist, ForeWord Book of the Year Awards
Finalist, Eric Hoffer Book Awards
For Connor and Bryce
because they are doing such a good job of raising me
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W hen Childrens Voice published my article Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew in 2004, I could scarcely have anticipated the response. Reader after reader wrote to tell me that the piece should be required reading for all social-service workers, teachers, therapists, and relatives of children with autism. Just what my daughter would say if she could, said one mother. Screams wisdom throughout every word and sentence, said another. The article traveled from website to website, around the world: United States, Canada, France, Denmark, Hungary, Croatia. Iceland, Thailand, Poland, The Netherlands. Brazil, Venezuela. Australia, New Zealand, South Africa. Turkey, Morocco, Dubai, Iran, Singapore, South Korea, Taiwan, Japan. The sheer volume of interest and the diversity of the groups who found it relevant humbled me. They included hundreds of autism and Aspergers groups, but also support groups for chronic pain, obesity, assistance dogs, inner ear disorders, homeschoolers, religious school educators, knitting circles, food retailers. I have a strong sense that your message crosses over to many special needs, wrote a social worker in the Midwest.
Ten Things quickly took on a life of its own; why exactly was it resonating so loudly? I decided that the resonance came from the fact that the piece spoke with a childs voice, a voice largely unheard in the rising uproar about autism. The continuing, often-tumultuous dialogue is productive and welcome. But what could be more ironic than that the subjects of the discussion are widely exemplified by the inability to express and advocate for themselves? I had seen several articles that took related approaches: ten things teachers want parents to know, or what mothers wish their childrens teachers knew, what dads of children with autism need to know. When my editor, Veronica Zysk, presented me with one such adult-to-adult piece, I asked myself, who speaks for the child?
You do, came the self-reply.
Write the piece, Veronica urged.