Endorsements
Praise for Befriending Your Monsters
So many of us are trained to run away from our fears. But what if running toward them is what will actually lead to life? Luke brilliantly weaves together stories and theology in a way that is compelling and beautiful and inspiring for anyone desiring to grow more into the likeness of Jesus day by day.
Jefferson Bethke , New York Times bestselling author of Jesus > Religion and To Hell with the Hustle
We all know darkness, but few of us know the gift that exists within the darkness. Luke shows us a way through our fears toward the gift of our truest self in Befriending Your Monsters .
Fr. Richard Rohr , author of Falling Upward
Befriending Your Monsters helps you see that the darkness you fear might just also be a lifesaving warning. Lukes mixture of humor and wisdom helps you go where you dont want to go, so you can become all that God intends for you.
Ian Morgan Cron , coauthor of The Road Back to You
Fear can steal, but it can also save. This powerful book gave me practical tools to still my knocking knees, thaw my frozen feet, and face the monsters I didnt even realize were lurking under the bed. More than that, it invited me to excavate the unexpected gifts hidden in the dark places where fear often foments. In an age when monsters are multiplying, I cant recommend this book highly enough!
Jonathan Merritt , contributing writer for The Atlantic and author of Learning to Speak God from Scratch
Thanks to author Luke Norsworthy for giving us a great gift indeed by showing how we can face our fears, overcome the monsters that threaten us, and move forward into a life of virtue and vitality, a deeper, healthier life.
The Most Rev. Michael B. Curry , presiding bishop and primate, the Episcopal Church
Occasionally, an author finds a teaching opportunity amid the joys and concerns of a culture that allows for meaningful commentary regarding both what is and what could be. In a time when anxiety is falling on all of us, indiscriminately, and between necessary moments of grace, Luke Norsworthy has found a new and creative way to talk about fear. We need this book and, in particular, his gift for naming faith and its varied expressions as the appropriate antidote for a more holistic approach to our lives.
Suzanne Stabile , author of The Path Between Us and coauthor of The Road Back to You
Praise for God over Good
Luke Norsworthys inviting, accessible, and entirely enjoyable new book is an invitation to come to know God better. Or to come to know God for the first time. Highly recommended.
James Martin , SJ, author of Jesus: A Pilgrimage and The Jesuit Guide
Lukes insight and humor come through his stories and theology in beautifully carved pieces we can savor long after the reading is over. Part memoir, part preaching, part amazing storytellingits all a gift offered by a man of great faith who has chosen God over everything. Luke is an exceptional podcaster, pastor, writer, and friend. Read his book.
Becca Stevens , author, priest, and founder of Thistle Farms
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
2020 by Luke Norsworthy
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2020
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ISBN 978-1-4934-2341-5
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Dedication
To my four girls,
with gratitude for showing me the light.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Epigraph
Foreword by Annie F. Downs
Section I
Meeting Monsters
1. Fake Monsters, Real Fears
2. Into the Dark
3. Destroy
4. Deliver
Section II
The Three Universal Monsters
5. Comparison
5.1 The Prop More Than Me
5.2 The Pull Identity Crisis
5.3 The Point A Stable Scale
5.4 The Light Your Lane
6.1 The Prop I Need More
6.2 The Pull Never Enough
6.3 The Point Never Full
6.4 The Light Gifted
7. Success
7.1 The Prop I Am What I Do
7.2 The Pull Losing or Loser
7.3 The Point Not about You
7.4 The Light Lose Yourself, Find God
Section III
A Monster-Friendly Life
8. How (Not) to Dress for Your Monster
9. Where (Not) to Find Your Monster
10. What (Not) to Expect about Your Monster
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
Epigraph
We must abandon the common sense notion that the monsters we meet within ourselves are enemies to be destroyed. Instead, we must cultivate the hope that they can become companions to be embraced, guides to be followed, albeit with caution and respect. For only our monsters know the way down to that inner place of unity and wholeness; only these creatures of the night know how to travel where there is no light.
Parker Palmer
Foreword
I STILL CANNOT BELIEVE how much Luke likes sharks. The only panic attack Ive had in my life so far came because a fisherman caught a shark and showed it to me. Eyeball to eyeball. Tiny shark mouth jokingly touched to my arm and within seconds, I am panicked. Like block-out-what-just-happened-and-where-I-am kind of panic. Apparently I ran very fast on the beach to get away from the tiny shark, but sadly I dont remember it (which is disappointing because Ive always wanted to run fast).
I grew up thinking sharks were incredibly dangerous and life-threatening. Its not that I knew it personally; I just saw the same movies you saw and saw the same massive ocean you saw and knew it was too scary.
I read Befriending Your Monsters while lying beside a lake, a lake I grew up swimming in and playing around. And yet, sometimes when I jump off the two-story dock and land in the water, Im scared. Im scared of what is below me and around me, and I have to do some major self-talk not to lose my mind. Of course, there are no sharks in a man-made lake, but there is just no end to the stories my mind will tell me to keep me from doing the thing that is right in front of me.