Jasmine Han - I’m Not Perfect. I’m a Mom.

What do you get when you mix two crazy moms, two semi-clueless husbands and three wacko kiddos? A damn good book full of hilarious stories!

The list of things we would do to avoid a tantrum, get five extra minutes of sleep, ensure that our children who are fussy eaters get some kind of nutrients into their bodies, avoid being late (or at least, not too late), restrain ourselves from punching our husbands in the throat, control our tongues (or not, and instead stir up trouble) when judged by our friends, other moms or even our own mothers, is endless. This book is about some of our crazy experiences.

As first-time moms, we have lost count of the number of times that we have emailed, messaged or called friends just to ask, I just did thisis it normal? Surprisingly, most of them have done the same thing or something similar; if not, they at least laugh and say that it is completely understandable.

This book reassures you that we have been there and probably done that, and that we are just as crazy as the next mom! By no means have we done it allneither of us had difficult pregnancies or even a difficult or special-needs childbut as first-time stay-at-home moms, we do have stories that are funny and sad, and are just that of any crazy and normal parent. Enjoy!

It was love at first sight at the poolside. Shelly was taking a walk around her condo and found Jasmine and her kiddo at the pool having a swim lesson. The next thing we knew, we were having lunch together, and talking about delivering babies as well as baby poop.

But it was not until we encountered the perfectly neurotic mom (PNM) that we really got to know each other. We went to a playgroup to participate in kiddo fun and Jasmine, the nice woman that she is, asked the PNM and her cute kiddo to join us for lunch. We sat at low-rise tables since the restaurant did not have high chairs. As our two kiddos proceeded to spill water, drop ketchup-covered French fries all over the floor then run around the restaurant, PNMs poor kiddo was forced to sit down on the bench and listen to white noise from her moms iPhone. Yeswhite noise in the middle of a chaotic restaurant while the rest of us ate and the other kids played. According to PNM, it supposedly calmed her kiddo down. But no, her kiddo was bored and pissed, and just wanted to play with the other kids.

Lets not forget that this PNM also had on full makeup, tight pants, properly set hair, manicured nails and white shirtin the middle of summer in Singapore (its always summer in tropical Singapore), at a kids play date.

A few days later, when we were chatting, the topic of PNM was brought up. Jasmine put into words what we both thought: She needs to remove that bamboo stick from up her butt. Jasmine then let Shelly in on a little secret of hersmany PNMs she meets are not phone worthy, meaning that she never actually adds their telephone numbers to her phone. She pretends to type in their numbers, but never has any real intention of calling them. Poor thingsthey never made it into Jasmines Little Black Book of Acceptable Moms.

With such straight up honesty between each other, we ended up becoming great friends. The floodgates opened and we were able to talk to each other about anything. And so the stories began.

As we began to share our parenting stories of our daily lives and the obstacles we faced, we began to notice that we regularly said, This is funnyit should be in a book! We finally agreed that we would write that book and share the real stories of our lives as crazy moms with wacko children. Please enjoy, please laugh and most of all, please relate, or it will officially solidify our misgivings that we really are the two craziest moms in existence.

As many of our stories and experiences are similar, we decided to combine them into one book. For the protection of our children and husbands, we have given our family members pseudonyms. The book is written from the perspective of one narrator, a mommy, her husband Tom and their two children, John and Jane. Telling our stories with a collective narrative voice enables the reader to read the book without mixing up two families. All stories are based on actual events that have happened in our roller coaster lives as moms.

I woke up at 5am, just before I was to load up the car and make the 12-hour drive to visit my family for the week. There was a chance I was pregnant as I had used an ovulation predictor kit and I knew my seduction that month had been on the right day and time.

I was testing early, but there was a chance that I might be pregnant. I whipped out the fancy digital pregnancy test that had come free with the ovulation predictor kit. I prefer the digital test, since there was no debating a test that clearly said pregnant or not pregnant, rather than squinting at the teeny weeny faint line while trying to figure out if it was really there. Three minutes later, or more like one minute later, the test clearly announced, pregnant. Even though this had been planned and I was already 33 years old, I just about crapped in my pants and my stomach was all knotted with excitement and fear. I had to share the news with my husband, Tom, immediately.

He was sleeping peacefullyduh, it was 5ambut I shook him awake and handed him the test. So long as he could read, he could decipher the test as it clearly said pregnant.

As I laid the test on his chestplease note that the cap was covering the end I had peed onI said, Tom, wake up! Look at this! Read it!

Picking up the test, he mumbled, What is this? It is dark in here; I cant see anything.