John Green - Do You Love Me?: The Astrology of Relationships

Relationships life is all about relationships. We may come into this life alone and leave it alone but in between those two events we have many, many relationships. Good relationships, bad ones, ones between lovers, ones with parents and siblings, with bosses and colleagues, friends and enemies. Throughout our life, we experience myriad relationship types and, as astrologers, we look to the heavens to understand the nature of these relationships. We want to understand why we have fallen in love with a particular person and why that love then withered and died. Why we make friends with certain people or have an instant dislike of others. Why a particular work colleague just rubs us up the wrong way. Synastry is the technique by which we can gain an insight into these questions. It is a simple technique, one that compares the chart of one person with that of another. You can be shown the basics of what to look for astrologically in synastry in just a couple of hours. Unfortunately, it doesnt stop there because you then have to work out what it all actually means. Thats the harder part and thats why I wrote this book.

This book is for the astrological student looking to understand the nature of relationships in their own life and for their clients. I hope to explain the basics of synastry, give you some guidance in how to approach relationship astrology and hopefully help you understand a little more about the relationships you will encounter. It isnt a cookbook; whilst I will give some interpretations along the lines of What does it mean that his Sun is on my Saturn?, that isnt the key to understanding relationship astrology. You need to look deeper into each individual chart for that and so I wrote this book to try and explain that, because I hadnt found a book which described synastry in that way.

We will take a long look at the nature of romantic relationships as I have found these are the relationships most clients particularly want to understand, but we wont be ignoring other relationships. Synastry techniques can be used in many ways so that with a shift of emphasis we can also understand our dealings with family, friends, colleagues and even the country we live in.

Primarily, though, this book is about love relationships. Its amazing how even the most ethical astrologers among us tend to throw caution to the wind when theres somebody new in our life. You know the high-minded phrases we spout, like No, I would never look at anyones chart without their complete permission, seem to disappear when somebody new comes into our life and we innocently ask Whens your birthday? Whats the time you were born? Oh, no reason, just interested. And we go home, open up our astrology program, and proceed to dissect their life. We want to know what makes others tick, what they feel about us, why we feel the way we do about them. We want to know the answer to the question Do you love me?

This book is based on a series of online seminars I gave on synastry to a select group of my students during June and July 2014. The audience questions asked in the text are from them and I think including these helps to answer some questions that might be on peoples minds as they read this book.

I have been asked in the past if understanding relationship astrology means that I have perfect relationships. No. It isnt that simple. Synastry wont help you have a perfect life, but it will help you understand the dynamics that are going on within your relationships, and it may help you to save one that you feel is in difficulties. Now lets make a start