Tobias Beck - Unbox Your Relationships: How to Attract the Right People and Build Relationships that Last (Relationship Advice, Friendships)

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Unbox Your Rel ationships

Tobias Becks book, Unbox Your Relationships: How to Attract the Right People and Build Relationships that Last , is the perfect antidote for people looking to improve relationshipswith themselves and others. In this book, Tobias shows you how to take control of your destiny by successfully managing your closest relationships. Insightful, funny at times, and creative, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to live their best life by connecting with the world aro und them.

Scott Miller , Wall Street Journal bestselling a uthor and former Chief Marketing Officer, Frankli nCovey Co.

Tobias Beck has written a book that will have you thinking about relationships outside of the box. Unbox Your Relationships: How to Attract the Right People and Build Relationships that Last is essential for those looking to feel more connected with the world around them. Beck not only shows you how to make the most out of your personal relationships, he also shows you exactly what kind of person you are and why you matter. Read this book if you are looking to improve how you relate and connect to your friends, your partner, your colleagueand yourself.

MJ Fievre , author of the poetry collection Happy, Okay? and the bestselling Badass Black Girl b ook series

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Unbox Your Life will help you do just thatunbox your life and in the process discover your lifes mission. Personal discovery and sense of self-worth is the foundation of any healthy relationship which is why the private victory must precede the public victory. This book is a must-read for anyone looking to build relationships t hat last.

Sean Covey , President, FranklinCovey Education and New York Times bestselling coauthor of The 4 Disciplines of Execution

Tobias shares his struggles and triumphs with raw honesty. This book is a gem. It will help you form amazing relationships, not only with others, but also with yourself.

John Strelecky , author of The Why Caf and The Big Fiv e for Life

Tobias Beck is a remarkab le coach.

Daniel Aminati , entertainer and TV H ost ( Pro7 )

UN
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Your Relationships!

How to Attract the Right People and Build Relationships That Last

By Tobias Beck

Coral Gables

Copyright 2021 by Tobias Beck.Published by Mango Publishing, a division of Mango Publishing Group, Inc.

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Unbox Your Relationships: How to Attract the Right People and Build Relationships That Last

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication number: 2021938177 ISBN: (print) 978-1-64250-650-1, (ebook) 978-1-64250-651-8 BISAC category code SEL040000, SELF-HELP / Communication & Social Skills

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Table o f Contents

Have I loved?

Have I helped others to love?

Have I raised others up?

Have I left footprints on others hearts instead of leaving them empty?

Older people sometimes ask curious questions that I, as a community service worker at the tender age of eighteen, did not understand m uch about.

Who were these others, and was life not about making the most of my own journey? No, I came to learn; this was not the case. Life is about so much more. We, as individuals, are not the cornerstone of our existence.

If theres one thing thats now become clear, its that our relationships with others are our only constants in lifewhether we want th em or not.

Since the beginning of time, we have been programmed to connect with other people. But in a world where any and every wish can be satisfied with the swipe of a smartphone, its easy to forget this. Next time you make a decision that deliberately leaves your options open, I invite you instead to take responsibilityfor someone, something, anything. People are not products to be consumed and then left empty. Our hearts can handle plenty, but they cannot simply be regenerate d at will.

Start by choosing a film on Netflix and watching it through to the end instead of checking the reviews to see if theres anything better. Ride it out; breathe; feel it. Give things a chance instead of drawing rash co nclusions.

We live in an age in which thousands of young people are permanently preoccupied with the quest for self-realization. But this is, for all intents and purposes, a relatively new thing: at no other time in history have we had the opportunity to shape our lives according to our own visions and values, and it has never been available to more than a small, privileged section of the population. Moreover, in this desperate striving to be all that we wish to be, we too often forget the foundation of our existence: family. Family means so much more than similar geneticstheyre the people with whom we feel at home and by whom we are loved unconditionally, simply for being w ho we are.

Perhaps the people Im describing are no longer or have never been in your life. If this is the case, please dont set this book to one side. Understand that even if you feel alone, you never are. The people you are looking for are also looking for you; you simply need to open your heart and let others into your l ife again.

We live in a world that strives for perfection and forgets that relationships are not a filtered Instagram snapshot. Relationships exist alongside and because of us and, as such, are also like us: unique, flawed, and constantly changing. This is a good thing. Perfection is far too static a state for the colorful emotional world in which our relationships reside. We need relationships to be happy, yet it is this dynamic emotional world that makes it so difficult for us to establish them in the fi rst place.

In the first part of this book, Ill take you on a journey of discovery to yourself and the people in your life. Well explore together how you can achieve fulfilled relationships with yourself and others, despite each one of them being as unique and individual a s you are.

In the second part of the book, Ill introduce my animal-based model of the four basic types of humans: whale, shark, dolphin, and owl. This model has already inspired millions online, saved marriages, turned offices into creative spaces, resolved disputes, and engendered understanding. You should be looking forward to getting to know the animal inside of you because rest assured, one exists. There might even be more than one at the same time! Once youve discovered your animal, youll also find out how its linked to a certain millennia-ol d mystery.