Tobias Beck - Unbox Your Life ; Curbing Chronic Complainers, Living Life Liberated, And Other Secrets To Success

Praise for Unbox Your Life

Unbox Your Life will help you do just thatunbox your life and in the process discover your lifes mission. Personal discovery and sense of self-worth is the foundation of any healthy relationship which is why the private victory must precede the public victory. This book is a must-read for anyone looking to build relationships t hat last.

Sean Covey, President, FranklinCovey Education and New York Times bestselling coauthor of The 4 Disciplines of Execution

Tobias shares his struggles and triumphs with raw honesty. This book is a gem. It will help you form amazing relationships, not only with others, but also with yourself.

John Strelecky, author of The Why Caf and The Big Fiv e for Life

Tobias Beck is a remarkab le coach.

Daniel Animati, entertainer and TVhH ost ( Pro7 )

Tobias Beck

Unbox Your Life!

Tobias Beck

Unbox Your Life!

Curbing Chronic Complainers, Living Life Liberated, and Other Secrets to Success

Mango Publishing

Coral Gables

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Unbox Your Life!: Curbing Chronic Complainers, Living Life Liberated, and Other Secrets to Success

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication number: 2020933910 ISBN: (print) 978-1-64250-278-7, (ebook) 978-1-64250-279-4 BISAC category code: SEL016000, SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / Happiness

Printed in the United States of America

Table of Contents

From a young age, I had somehow found it hard to fit in. Even in kindergarten, Ms. Zenker had called my mother and instructed her to pick up [her] son imm ediately!

What on earth could such a little boy do to be sent home? Well, Id been sleddinglike all the other students. However, after sliding down the mountain, contrarily to every other child who took their own sled and pulled it up again, I had five girls pull mine back upwith me still sitt ing in it.

This was the first in a series of expulsionsanother one in primary school, and five more in high schooluntil I was issued an official certificate for learning disability that granted me permission to be stupid. Failure became the story of my life, a story that was told to me so often by others that I began to believe it myself.

The system didnt want me. It chewed me up and spat me out again.

After achieving poor results in my school exit exams, I became a flight attendant and later found myself, via a rather circuitous route, studying psychology. I wanted to find out what was wrong with me. Around the same timecall it coincidenceI ended up with a position in a telemarketing company, which also allowed me to discover some of my strengths. Talking was my thing. The system had never made that clear to me, but I found it out by myselfalbeit after more than twe nty years.

I became my own guarantor of success, and built up relationships with over a thousand sales partners. Eventually, I became vice president of the company. I had a penthouse with a pool on the roof, a girlfriend who worked as a model, and a custom Mercedes SLK AMG, which I drove through the streets as if I were the king of Wuppertal.

I really thought I had it all. And I diduntil I didnt.

Mistakes were made and, after reaching the pinnacle of success, the empire Id built collapsed within a week. My monthly salary and sales partners, my savings, my penthouse, my car, and, you guessed it, my girlfriendeverything was gone.

Was that it? I asked, sobbing, sitting on the loft bed of my childhood bedroom. Above me hung the David Hasselhoff poster I had taped there a s a child.

With newfound modesty, I put myself to work. I slowly got to my feet and embarked on a personal journey to gain happiness and find out what success rea lly means.

I engaged in life-changing conversations with the giants of personality development: Tony Robbins, T. Harv Ekert, Les Brown, and many more. I did my training and put in the hours. I realized that we fight the way we do because we equate success with mater ial goods.

Moments, not stuff became my new motto. Changing lives instead of making money became my new mission. Giving back to society instead of taking became my ne w passion.

From all the adventures, experiences, and conversations Id had, I derived my personal life principles. As I did so, I found that more and more people approached me and wanted to hear about it. A number of these people encouraged meor, more accurately, kicked my ass for weeksuntil I sat down and finally put Unbox Your Life on paper.

In my everyday life, I am a speaker, not a writer. As such, this book is authored in a rather cheeky, unconventional, and entertaining style. It is as far as you can get from literary perfection. Marcel Reich-Ranicki is probably turning in his grave.

Unbox Your Life is bold. I am very much aware of how polarizing it might be. This book is intended to wake you up, scare you a little, and sensitize you. It is based on fifteen years of personal experience in the field of personality development and behavioral psychology. Under no circumstances does it claim to be technicall y correct.

I have made it my mission to make as many people as happy and successful as possible. For me, chronic complainers, the people from whom we aim to free ourselves, are those who can never be happy and think the world is out to get them, despite having it relatively good. No matter your culture, skin color or creed: do not let the energy vampire in you gain the upper hand. Help those who are trul y in need.

For me, this is what Unboxing Your Life rea lly means.

On the plane to Munich, I glanced at the man sitting next to me and a pair of dead eyes looked b ack at me.

The aircraft is always late on this route, he said.

Id only sat down a minute before, and Id never seen this man in my life. Yet his words immediately made me want to ring the bell for the s tewardess.

You may be wondering why, so let me ask you this: Do you know people for whom everything is hard work? People who look for hair in their soup, who are too hot in the summer and too cold in the winter, people who just know that the pharmacy leaflet heralds bad news, people who let small details ruin their day, and seem to exist merely to rain on yo ur parade?

Know what I mean? Great. And do you know what I call these chronic complainers? Well, read and learn.

I pressed the button above my seat, and the stewardess appeared. Whats wrong? she asked me.