Daniel J. Siegel - Parenting from the Inside Out

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Parenting from the Inside Out shows parents how to understand and integrate the experiences from their own childhood into a nurturing style of parenting that promotes healthy communication, meaningful attachment, and trust.

SAL SEVERE, PH.D., author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!

This is an excellent book, with a positive, humane, and compassionate message. I applaud the emphasis on emotional connection and communication between parent and child and the thesis that as you understand and connect with yourself, you can better connect with your child. This book will be deeply interesting to parents, as well as useful for them.

L. ALAN SROUFE, PH.D., professor, Institute of Child Development, University of Minnesota, Minneapolis, and author of Emotional Development: The Organization of Emotional Life in the Early Years

Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzells illuminating and inspiring book presents a practical model of parenting that nurtures an empathic dialogue within oneself and with ones children. Consequently, parenting becomes not just something that we do but something that is very much a part of who we are. As a parent of seven children, Ive given this book a permanent spot on my night table.

KATE CAPSHAW SPIELBERG

This is must reading for all parents. Parenting is the most important job in the world, and this book makes it more understandable and easier.

HAROLD S. KOPLEWICZ, M.D., director, The NYU Child Study Center and author of More Than Moody: Recognizing and Treating Adolescent Depression

A new and thought-provoking approach to parenting.

ELLEN GALINSKY, president, Families and Work Institute and author of Ask the Children

Every parent should read Parenting from the Inside Out. Full of fascinating information about brain development that is not readily available in any other parenting books, this book will make watching your children learn and grow even more interesting than it already is.

BETTY EDWARDS, author of Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain

Anyone who feels doomed to repeat his parents errors should pick up a copy of this book. Readers learn to explore and resolve issues from the past, freeing them to be their best selves, flexible and fully engaged.

JESSICA TEICH, author of Trees Make the Best Mobiles: Simple Ways to Raise Your Child in a Complex World

Parenting from the Inside Out is an extraordinary tool for parenting. The gift of the book is that it is a beautiful reminder to be more compassionate with our children and, equally important, with ourselves. It reveals that its never too late to heal your old wounds and re-parent yourself. By doing this, you are allowed to be more present and joyful in your childs journey. Parent and child both emerge more whole and more loving.

JESSIE NELSON, director, producer, and screenwriter

The unique structure of this book gives us a rare opportunity to reflect on the parenting we received as children, to keep what works, and to rethink how we would like to parent our own children. These fascinating insights can alter the way we think about our own past experiences and their effects on who we are today.

SIR RICHARD BOWLBY, BT., chair of trustees, Centre for Attachment-Based Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy

This book uniquely pairs the clinical experience of a psychiatrist with the deep wisdom of a nursery school teacher whose daily practice is enmeshed in the minute-to-minute frustrations, joys, despondency, and exhilaration that constitute the experience of every child. Together Siegel and Hartzell delicately peel back the many layers of parenting to reveal the pure nature of the relationship that is at its core.

NEAL HALFON, M.D., M.P.H., professor of pediatrics, community health sciences, and policy studies, UCLA; director, UCLA Center for Healthier Children, Families and Communities; and editor of Child Rearing in America: Challenges Facing Parents with Young Children

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ALSO BY MARY HARTZELL, M.ED.

Communicating with Your Child: Building Self-Esteem and Avoiding Power Struggles (compact disc)

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Siegel, Daniel J., date.

Parenting from the inside out: how a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive / Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., with a new preface by the authors.Tenth anniversary edition.

p. cm.

Includes index.

ISBN 978-1-101-66269-4

1. Parenting. 2. Self-perception. 3. Parent and child. I. Hartzell, Mary. II. Title.

HQ755.8.S53 2014 2013037883

649'.1dc23

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