Jackson Seller - Psychology: the Psychology of Likability: Learn the Secrets of Human Behaviour

Our lives improve only when we take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

Walter Anderson, Editor, Parade Magazine

Hi, Im Jack Seller and firstly Id like to say a big thank you for purchasing The Psychology Of Likeability.

Many hundreds of hours has gone into research and writing of this, and I did it because I want to make a difference and to make your life better.

I wasnt always a well respected success coach, or likeability specialist. Actually the reason why I know so much about this stuff, and how to make YOUR life better as a result of it, is all because I used to be such an unconfident introvert.

That experience for over half my life, of being bullied in school... Of having to work really hard to get peoples respect in adulthood, struggles with my relationships, and with my struggles to get myself noticed at work, and to make new friendships... All of that struggle really was a gift.

It was a gift because it gave me the opportunity to learn and appreciate the power of Auto Magnetism and to be able to share it with you in this book.

Dont get me wrong I did have a few close friends...who have stuck by me through thick and thin over the years.

But what Ive gained is more than just a large number of friends... Its an aura of respect and personal magnetism that follows me wherever I go.

My opinion gets respected at work, my wife respects me and what I have to say, and my friends and colleagues look up to me.

And I want that to happen to you. Honestly the world is a super amazing place and it looks a whole lot better when you have Auto-Magnetism that Im going to share with you.

Firstly, please read the quote that Ive just shared with you at the top of this page, from Walter Anderson. I shared it because its super important.

Honestly, the greatest things in life come from stepping slightly outside your comfort zone, and sometimes on this journey you might just have to be honest with yourself and realize that in order to change for the better, you might need to take a chance with what I have to share with you.

So, what Im saying is... If you are serious about becoming more successful in life.. . ...If youre serious about becoming a person who exudes personal charm and charisma... Then you need to take ACTION with what you learn in this book.

Up until now, any lack of respect anyone has shown you, any lack of ability at forming friendships, any difficulty getting your opinion across at work... None of this has been your fault.

You did the best that you could with what you know.

And this is the journey that you were meant to be on. Accept it, embrace it, love yourself as you are RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW. Because in order for other people to love you, you have to love yourself as you are right now.

When I started training myself in Auto-Magnetism, I started off with a couple of affirmations.

I used affirmations because they are a great way to reprogram your brain to take on a new belief system.

Its like dropping a drop of red dye into a bucket every day. Sooner or later that bucket will turn red.

The same is true with affirmations (or meditation if that is better for you). With affirmations you just say the same thing over and over again for 5 minutes a day, every day, for 60-90 days. Until youve imprinted a new belief or habit upon your brain.

So I started with these two affirmations... I love the way I am An d Im genuinely interested in other people

What was really important about doing the affirmations was that I transferred these beliefs to my subconscious mind. So that even when my mind is wandering, at a split seconds notice, my brain just naturally operates this way now.

I DO love myself and accept myself as I am right here, right now.

And I AM genuinely interested in other people at a subconscious level. Im not trying to manipulate people by asking them questions about themselves, or by joking around with them about something funny they just did...

...All that just naturally came by rewiring my brain to think that way at all times. Even when Im not aware Im doing it.

Other affirmations Ive used on myself include Im supremely self-confident and I love taking risks and Every day in every way Im getting better, better and better Now the fact that in a relatively short space of time I turned my whole life around for the better, and have achieved permanent change in my whole life outlook, proves something very important...

Likability is not a genetic trait.

This is very important because I used to just think that I was born with low social skills. But the fact that Ive been able to totally not onl y improve my social skills but become the kind o f person who people GRAVITATE to, has proven to me

that this stuff can be learned and its my mission to share it with you.

No one is born as the next President of the United States. Not everyone is a future movie star or Fortune 500 CEO from birth.

You know that nerdy guy from high school wh o shows up at the reunion with a $1000 suit and a super model wife?

That's a guy who perhaps was never innately likable he learned how to do it. He learned what people want to hear and see and then delivered it with precision.

He learned how to make a killer first impression, and then keep it going day after day. You can do the same thing.

You just need to sit back, relax and take a good hard look at what people like in other people and what's holding you back.

Take, for example, pre-schoolers in a 1992 study conducted at George Mason University. The study set out to determine if pre-schoolers were likable based on earlier likability or pro-social activity.