CRITICAL CONVERSATION
30 DAYS TO MASTER SMALL TALK WITH ANYONE:
BUILD UNBREAKABLE CONFIDENCE, ELIMINATE YOUR FEARS AND BECOME A SOCIAL POWERHOUSE
Copyright 2016 by Jack Steel- All rights reserved.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
DAY 1
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS?
Ask yourself a few questions about how you really feel;
- Have you for once started a conversation?
- Have you ever being worried about how to break the ice in certain situations?
- Have you tried engaging in a conversation only to find out that youre still not fit or missing the point?
These problems are more familiar than you imagine, this is just the way people place public speaking on their list when talking about their greatest fears, getting to meet new people is also prominent. It is an important part of man experience that is rarely as it looks. You probably met the person at work or in school, the smooth talker who goes around to communicate with anyone at any time. He glides around from subject to subject, and he is able to engage the interest of one or more people. You check out how easy this is, and you begin to wonder why it is not the same for you. You discover there are two major enemies stopping you from springing up a chat with people; the awkward laugh and silence. You always feel people wont find you interesting because you think the awkward laugh and silence at strategic times is to fill the void that is in the conversation, you feel as though you can fill the void, but you arent sure on how to go about it. That moment when you notice a shift in the persons attention, probably to look at their watch or snap out to think for an excuse to disengage from the conversation, you always know that there is something you can do to fill up the loophole or any to salvage the conversation, but you still have doubts on what it may be.
Some people try to justify themselves by concluding it was just a small talk and so no need to prolong it. You have to understand that each little subject you are able to bring up can result in a greater conversation and meaningful dialogue that can extend to more successful relationships; either on personal basis or business.
This book has been designed for anyone who desire and is ready to improve his/her communication with others. Whether personal or business basis, the relationships you keep are essential, and it all starts with conversations. The art of engaging in conversation and talk is built on a foundation of getting familiar with small talk because a conversation without facts and figures is not worth having. Engaging in successful conversation means being able to build a stronghold with the other party, and the main key to this is effective small talk. Our goal is to help you make use of the tools to make this happen for yourself. In the latter part of this book, youll get to confront and conquer barriers that are holding you back from success in business and your personal life, youll be able to get over natural shyness, youll have the chance to improve the flow of your conversations, and also make use of many other techniques to be perfect conversationalist by talking small.
Signing up for this guide will be the greatest step youll take, you are here because you want to be a more effective and engaging communicator. You have a very special being inside you, and youre ready to unveil this being to the world. In the following lessons of this book, youll learn how to guide this being out and present in the best possible light. It all starts with taking the primary step in a conversation and opening with an interesting small talk. Some people conclude that youll need talent to become a good conversationalist, well I would say this is so untrue. Tomorrow youll know more about why this is untrue and also have an idea on how to get started on the path to become a small talk professional. Stay with us!
DAY 2
WHAT ARE WE TALKING ABOUT?
Lets start the day by asking ourselves what small talk really is? You may have an idea based on the daily use of the term, but for you to understand the concept better, we are going to dig deep into the term. Small talk is actually not well defined the way you think, although it might mean different things to different people. You might even decide to check up on online dictionaries to get the definition of small talk, but most times those definitions are more of help to discover misconceptions of the term than the exact definition.
The official urban dictionary defined small talk as useless and unnecessary conversation proposed to fill the silence in an awkward situation. Commonly results in feelings of loneliness and social discomfort, usually initiated by comments regarding the current weather, weather pattern of the past/future few days or major weather disturbances in the recent past.
Have you wondered what makes this incorrect? First of all, lets review urban dictionarys official definition of big talk; Grandiose ideas or vacuous threats not acted upon. The definition of both terms are very incorrect and also very limiting. There is a perception that small talk is meaningless and useless when the truth is that it is often an important component of human interaction.
Youll get a clear understanding after reading my story; some years back, I met a celebrity in an unexpected location two different times, both times he was someone I admired and definitely wanted his autograph. I met him in a coffee shop the first time, I decided to skip the small talk and move on to asking for his autograph, I saw it as the most polite and effective way to ask, I thought engaging in small talk would be a waste of time since he could not spare from his busy schedule.Besides, I thought asking for his autograph straightaway would be flattering. To my greatest surprise, he turned me down with a bit of profanity to emphasize his point. When I bashed on him the second time, it was in an elevator; I knew that I needed the autograph, but the previous experience I had with him taught me not to ask about it. Instead, I just started by asking if he had seen the basketball game from the previous night. We both shared allegiance to the same club; it didnt take much time before we found common ground. To my greatest surprise, this time, he offered to give me his autograph without asking. The small talk I started, in this case, was productive and useful, and that ignoring the small talk at first was not only rude but also ineffective.
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