Tonya Dalton - The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less

PRAISE FOR THE JOY OF MISSING OUT

If youve ever said yes to an obligation when you really wanted to say no, read this book. If youve ever felt like your to-do list is longer at the end of the day despite your best efforts, read this book. If youve ever wished there was a twenty-fifth hour in the day, read this book. If youre ready for more joy and less fear, read this book.

JON ACUFF, New York Times bestselling author of Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done

In a world that continually tells you to do more, this book gives you permission to do less. Tonya shares why missing out is exactly the right choice to make and encourages you to live a life aligned with whats important!

LEENA RINNE, vice president of Consulting at Franklin Covey Company

We all have dreams and desires to live a life of great relationships, meaningful work, and purpose. Yet the demands of time, the needs of others, and our own expectations of who we should be, overwhelm us and muddy the waters. Tonya Daltons thoughtful system to get back in control of your life is workable and simple. She helps you become focused on the truly significant and gives you the courage to prune back those to-dos that are holding you back from the person you were made to be.

JOHN TOWNSEND, New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries and People Fuel

One of the biggest challenges we face today is overwhelm and a constant feeling of being busy. Tonya Daltons The Joy of Missing Out is the antidote we have been waiting forempowering us through productivity to live our best lives.

JOHN OLEARY, bestselling author of On Fire and host of the Live Inspired podcast

The Joy of Missing Out will give you permission to want what you really want and to chase after it without apology. I cant think of a better, more experienced, or more productive person to learn this from than Tonya Daltonthe champion of JOMO.

LINDSAY TEAGUE MORENO, entrepreneur, speaker and author of Boss Up!

Many things in life are worth missing out on. This book is not one of them. Pick this book up if you want to discover what your deepest-held priorities should be, get to know yourself better than you have before, and actually act on whats important every day. I loved this book and couldnt put it down.

CHRIS BAILEY, author of Hyperfocus and The Productivity Project

Feeling effective is more satisfying than feeling busy. In this gentle and encouraging book, Tonya shows you how to focus your mind and your time on what matters and how to stop worrying about everything else.

LAURA VANDERKAM, author of I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time

The Joy of Missing Out didnt tell me to be less ambitious and slow down, instead it gave me the tools I needed to have purpose and clarity about my to-do lists. Tonya helps you take all the pieces floating around in your life and be intentional about them. If the words busy and overwhelmed frequent your vocabulary, do yourself a favor and read The Joy of Missing Out.

JESS EKSTROM, founder of Headbands of Hope and author of Chasing the Bright Side

Tonya is like the fairy godmother of productivity for the modern woman. In a world where we feel pressure to do it all but end up empty inside and achieving nothing at all, Tonya swoops in with a fresh message that gives women permission to get off the hamster wheel. Instead of doing everything, she gives us a practical and inspirational guide on how to reconnect with what truly matters most, how to architect the lives we desire on our own terms, and how to establish bliss in the middle of our messy, busy lives.

MARSHAWN EVANS DANIELS, Godfidence coach, TV personality, reinvention strategist for Women, and founder of SheProfits.com

In this important and necessary book, Tonya Dalton gives us the greatest gift we could ask for: permission to be ourselves by relieving us of the pressure to be anyone else. The Joy of Missing Out will allow you to rediscover what really matters to youand help you say no to the things that dont.

JEFF GOINS, bestselling author of The Art of Work

Tonya

HAS TAUGHT ME...

Testimonials from real women, like you, who have worked through the four steps covered in this book.

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Epub Edition August 2019 9781400214358

Library of Congress Control Number: 2019946663

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To John, Jack, and Kate: true joy can be

found in the moments I spend with you.

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JOY OF MISSING OUT

Also Known As: JOMO

Noun

1. The emotionally intelligent antidote to busy; intentionally choosing to live in the present moment by embracing open spaces of unrushed time

Example: She wanted more Joy of Missing Out in her life, so she intentionally left her computer in her office, eliminating the temptation to check in with work during family time.

2. An intense feeling of delight and happiness caused by centering your life on what is truly important and letting go of the shoulds and have tos in life

Example: She decided not to be weighted down by social pressure and chose to find the Joy of Missing Out by saying no to accepting another board position out of guilt.

SYNONYMS: unhurried purpose, intentional, priority-centered

ANTONYMS: busy, hustle, frazzled, knock stuff out, having a full plate

CONTENTS

It was a beautiful spring morning, but I was too busy to notice the trees beginning to bud or the clear blue sky. I was on a mission. I had already run the elementary school gauntlet known as carpool and was doing my best to keep it all together as I raced the clock, trying to get Kate to preschool drop-off in time. I hustled her inside the narrow hallways, barely avoiding the still-wet, two-day-old finger paintings lining the walls.