Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life
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Thomas Fletcher
Negotiating Fatherhood
Sport and Family Practices
Thomas Fletcher
Leeds Beckett University, Leeds, UK
Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life
ISBN 978-3-030-19783-4 e-ISBN 978-3-030-19784-1
https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-19784-1
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Firstly, to Manda, William and Henry for creating new and exciting memories on a daily basis.
Secondly, to my sport family who have provided so many memories. Up the Wizards!
Acknowledgements
This book has been a very long time in the making. Im sat at my computer in the middle of a stormy night in March and I am absolutely exhausted. When I embarked on this project I thought it would be a piece of cake. Thats probably exaggerating things a bit but I took the view that I had already written a PhD and when I began that I didnt really know how to write. A decade on and I think my writing skills have progressed quite a bit so, how hard could it be to write a book? As it turns out, its excruciatingly hard and I dont think I would have finished it if it wasnt for a number of people. Firstly, my wife, best friend and soul mate, Amanda. Your enduring faith and patience with me has been overwhelming. All those days where you came home, asked a perfectly innocent questionhows the book goingto be met with such hostility and pessimism. Thanks for putting up with me. Thanks too for putting up with my obsession for sport. This is perhaps the one thing we are poles apart on. Secondly, to my boys, William and Henry. My wonderful, beautiful, inspiring boys. You are the motivation for writing this in the first place and you are the reason I have persisted with it. Thirdly, to my mum and dad who supported me unconditionally; I wanted for very little. It may seem strange to some people, but thanks too must go to my dogs, Lizzie and Ruby. They have provided me with hours and hours of company when otherwise, I would have been working alone. Their gentle snores are the sound of my work space, and I love them for it. Id like to acknowledge some work colleagues too. To Kate Dashper, Damion Sturm, Davide Sterchele and Ellie May; thanks for being so cathartic when I needed to let off steam. Thanks for knowing when to ask how I was getting on and when not to. Thanks to all my participantsmy sport familyfor their brutal honesty and putting themselves out there. Hopefully you will recognise your voices and agree that I have done them justice. Finally, to colleagues at Palgrave, especially Amelia Derkatsch for providing so much support and flexibility throughout.
March 13, 2019
Thomas Fletcher
Contents
1. Locating Sport in Family Practices
Becoming a parent is, by and large , a wonderful experience. It is also a hugely challenging experience. My wife and I have two fabulous sons, aged 3 and 6 respectively and we love them to pieces. But there are times when we crave to be apart from them. This is certainly not the same as wishing they were not in our lives; this could not be any further from the truth. Sometimes we just need some alone time ; time to recharge, time to reconnect with ourselves and one another and, dare I say it, time to catch up on the things we did before we had children. These things I refer to are more often than not highly mundane, like taking the dogs for a long walk (without having to stop off at the playground en route, or without having to carry scooters up that hill), washing the cars (without the assistance of little helpers), or even having a soak in the bath (without the inevitable banging on the door). And a lie in at the weekend, well forget about it. Personally, what I crave the most is time to devote to playing and, to a lesser extent, watching sport . My wife and I have been together since the age of 15 and for the next 17 years I played sport pretty much guilt free. Like many of the participants in this book, sport is an incredibly important part of my life. I have been a student of the sociology of sport since I was 18 years old. My PhD took sport as its starting point and I have chosen a career educating young people about sport and its social significance. But two young children later and I struggle to carve out even a modest amount of time to follow the world of sport, never mind actively participate in it.