Julie Hall - Inheriting Clutter: How to Calm the Chaos Your Parents Leave Behind

Praise for Inheriting Clutter

Maybe the most practical book Ive read in years. This should be on every [adult childs] must-read list. A sound, down-to-earth, well-written manual for one of the most difficult subjects to discuss with your parents... and Im including the birds and the bees lecture decades earlier.

BOB HAMER

Veteran FBI Agent and Author, The Last Undercover

Julie has created a masterpiece on how to help your parents and yourself deal with several very stressful and emotionally charged issues. Julies storytelling of examples garnered over years of working with families guides her readers and creates scenarios that they can easily relate to in their own lives. As a certified financial planner, all of my clients will be given a copy of Julies book as required reading. This book is the most comprehensive and thoughtful work on a difficult and complex aspect of life. A must-read for [adult children] dealing with everybodys stuff!

ADOLPHUS W. DUNN III

CPA, CFP, AEP

As a personal family lawyer, Ive had to deal with much of the fallout over the issues Julie addresses in her book. Most of us will, at some point, have to care for our parents and their stuff, and it can be an overwhelming burden, but with the information Julie shares, we can avoid many of the potential problems. Julies book provides fantastic insight that helps us anticipate difficulties and find workable solutions.

ALEXIS MARTIN NEELY

Americas Personal Family Lawyer, www.PersonalFamilyLawyer.com; and Author, Wear Clean Underwear: A Fast, Fun, Friendlyand EssentialGuide to Legal Planning for Busy Parents

It was sharp-witted Benjamin Franklin who observed that in this world nothing is certain but death and taxes. Now, through the wisdom of Julie Hall, you can add a third: dealing with the aftermath of your parents death. Inheriting Clutter is an exceptionally well-written and wise book. Both parents and adult children need the wake-up call that Julie so deftly and confidently offers. It speaks with the voice of experience and comforts with a deep empathy for this painful period of life. Mostly, it offers reassurance that at a time of deep grief, adult children can and must be prepared for lifes third certainty. There is no doubt in my mind that this book is essential reading for both older parents and adult childrenand it will be especially beneficial if they read it together.

ARCHIBALD D. HART, PHD, FPPR

Clinical Psychologist; Senior Professor of Psychology and Dean Emeritus, Graduate School of Psychology, Fuller Theological Seminary; and Author, Thrilled to Death

Inheriting Clutter is an engaging and comprehensive treatment of the end-of-life dynamics between aging parents and aging children. While this book is complete with helpful summaries and checklists, the author also uses engaging anecdotes that exemplify the importance of the process. I will recommend Inheriting Clutter to my estate planning clients.

MALVERN KING

Partner, Pulley, Watson, King & Lischer, P.A., Attorneys at Law

If Boomers want a jump on what to expect as the lives of their parents wane, if Boomers want a blueprint for how to handle their parents stuff and more, and if Boomers want anecdotal commentary that presents practical guidance for things they never thought of, then this little jewel is worth the time it takes to read and the modest cost to own.

A. FRANK JOHNS

Booth Harrington & Johns of NC, PLLC

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Published in Nashville, Tennessee, by W Publishing Group, an imprint of Thomas Nelson.

Previously published under the title The Boomer Burden: Dealing with Your Parents Lifetime Accumulation of Stuff.

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Hall, Julie.

Inheriting Clutter: How to Calm the Chaos Your Parents Leave Behind / Julie Hall.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-0-7852-3369-5 (pbk.)

Epub Edition May 2020 9780785233701

1. Administration of estates. 2. Estate planning. 3. Baby boom generation. 4. Aging parents. I. Title.

Printed in the United States of America

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For all my clientspast, present, and future.

If it werent for you and your families,

I would never have become The Estate Lady.

Thank you for sharing your lives so I could learn

how to serve you in a greater capacity.

CONTENTS

Have you ever heard the saying, When the student is ready, the teacher appears? These are my teachers, to whom I offer my deepest heartfelt appreciation for listening to my stories, understanding the great need for this book, helping me open doors with unbelievable speed, and answering more questions than a roomful of preschoolers could possibly ask.

To my literary agent, Bucky Rosenbaum, and your wife, Joann: Our meeting was not by chance. Helping you and your in-laws during your personal time of need was a privilege. Thank you for seeing the importance of this work and helping me get this book published so my experience can serve others. Thank you for planting the seed.

To my editorial consultant, Lyn Cryderman, who listens more attentively than anyone I know: I thank you for your unwavering support and understanding of how to get whats inside my brain out on paper. I thank you for your gentle guidance along the way. Having already been where the reader is headed, you were invaluable in helping me get the message out there.

To my acquisitions editor, Debbie Wickwire: Your excitement from the moment you saw the proposal has been contagious! Your belief in the critical need for this book and in me is more appreciated than you will ever know.

To my publisher, Joey Paul: Thank you for your kindness and understanding that there is a tremendous need for this book. I am grateful to you and to everyone at Thomas Nelson for this opportunity.