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Advance praise for Passed and Present

After a loved one dies, nearly all of us are confronted with the same uncertaintywhat to do with their belongings, the shirts, pants, jewelry, papers, and all those important and insignificant odds and ends. After my parents died, I could have really used Passed and Present. In this simple and handy book, Allison Gilbert provides surprising opportunities for transforming would-be clutter into cherished keepsakes. This book will do for remembering what Marie Kondo has done for tidying up.

CLAIRE BIDWELL SMITH, BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF After This and The Rules of Inheritance

What a wonderful book! Passed and Present is an invaluable resource, a bona fide primer packed with all the ideas and habits we need for remembering loved ones. This is a book about loss, and also about celebration; about the past, the present, and a future that embraces happiness, the people we miss, and all they still mean to us.

GRETCHEN RUBIN, New York Times BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF Better Than Before, Happier at Home, and The Happiness Project

Passed and Present encourages us to remember in a whole new way. Allison Gilberts sensible, no-nonsense approach provides so many fresh ideas that readers will find inspiration on every page.

CHRISTINA BAKER KLINE, New York Times BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF Orphan Train

Perhaps no one who experiences a terrible loss needs to learn how to grieve. But perhaps everyone needs to learn how to create a memorial without creating an obsession. Allison Gilberts thoughtful book meets a need that most of us might not have even realized was there.

JACQUELYN MITCHARD, BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF Two if by Sea and The Deep End of the Ocean

Allison Gilbert understands not only the need for remembrance but also the profound power of shared stories and mementos. In Passed and Present she offers a freshand most welcomeapproach to salving grief and staying connected after loss.

DAWN RAFFEL, BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF The Secret Life of Objects

We now recognize that grief is not about closure and moving on. In fact, keeping a healthy continuing bond with those we loved and lost is normaland helpful. Allison Gilberts Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive offers a wonderful guide for sustaining that bond.

DR. KENNETH DOKA, SENIOR CONSULTANT AT HOSPICE FOUNDATION OF AMERICA AND PAST PRESIDENT OF THE ASSOCIATION FOR DEATH EDUCATION AND COUNSELING

Ive been lucky to trace my roots with DNA testing. My ancestors are from Nigeria, Cameroon, and the Congo. I didnt know these details until recently, and the discovery has driven me to appreciate those I love and those Ive lost even more. Most people dont know I lost my father when I was young. I wear his ring all the time. Allison Gilberts Passed and Present is an important and timely book. Her creative ideas for remembering arrive at just the right moment in history, guiding millions of us who are yearning to recognize and pay tribute to our past.

DON LEMON, ANCHOR, CNN TONIGHT WITH DON LEMON

Allison Gilberts Passed and Present poignantly urges us to recognize the importance of staying connected to loved ones who have died. Flying in the face of all the clichs out there about letting go, it wisely counsels us to remember mindfully and lovinglyand offers the tools to do so.

MEGHAN OROURKE, AUTHOR OF The Long Goodbye

There has never been a book like Passed and Present. Allison Gilberts eloquent and inviting writing style provides readers with practical and meaningful suggestions for maintaining a continuing connection with loved ones. This is a book everyone, including those of us who work professionally with the bereaved, will read and recommend again and again.

FREDDA WASSERMAN, CLINICAL DIRECTOR OF ADULT PROGRAMS AND EDUCATION, OUR HOUSE GRIEF SUPPORT CENTER

Passed and Present isnt a book about grief, its a celebration of our loved ones and of life itself. Allison Gilbert gives us Forget Me Notspractical, useful, necessary tips for survivors of loss to preserve our memories and live a joyful life. A must for everyone who has suffered loss, which is everybody.

ANN HOOD, BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF Comfort: A Journey Through Grief

In a world that urges us to move on, or put this behind you, the bereaved often struggle with a common challenge: how to remember the people they cant imagine living without. With a wide range of creative and compelling suggestions and activities, from food to music and beyond, theres something in Passed and Present for everyone.

DONNA SCHUURMAN, SENIOR DIRECTOR OF ADVOCACY & TRAINING, THE DOUGY CENTER FOR GRIEVING CHILDREN & FAMILIES

How we remember those we love is as important as what we remember. Allison Gilbert offers creative, resonant ways to keep relationships alive in a positive way with those we love who are no longer here.

ROSANNE CASH, FOUR-TIME GRAMMY AWARD-WINNING SINGER/SONGWRITER AND DAUGHTER OF JOHNNY CASH

In Passed and Present, Allison Gilbert has given us a remarkable gift. By recognizing a newfound thirst for looking back, she leads us step by step in ways to honor our loved ones and rejoice in our ancestors. This book is necessary and simply wonderful!

BENILDE LITTLE, AUTHOR OF Welcome to My Breakdown, Good Hair, AND Who Does She Think She Is?

I was 13 years old when my dad died. As his first born, I inherited all of his belongings but was clueless how to preserve them. I admit to dumping nearly everything in boxes. Thirty years later, Passed and Present has given me reason to open them and begin anew. Gilberts book is so innovative that it blew my mind. Its more than just making mundane scrapbooks; her novel ideas include using digital technology to bring loved ones into our high tech world. My son will now have a crystal clear image of the grandpa he never knew. Passed and Present is a treasure.

CHERYL WILLS, ANCHOR, NY 1 NEWS, AUTHOR OF Die Free: A Heroic Family Tale AND The Emancipation of Grandpa Sandy Wills

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For your loved ones... and mine

Copyright 2016 Allison Gilbert

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form without written permission from the publisher, except by reviewers who may quote brief excerpts in connection with a review.

Names: Gilbert, Allison, author.

Title: Passed and present : keeping memories of loved ones alive / Allison Gilbert.

Description: Berkeley, California : Seal Press, [2015]

Identifiers: LCCN 2015040212 | ISBN 9781580056137

Subjects: LCSH: Bereavement. | Reminiscing. | Souvenirs (Keepsakes) | Memorialization.

Classification: LCC BF575.G7 G54 2015 | DDC 155.9/37--dc23

LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2015040212

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