Lieberman - The Emotional Life of the Toddler

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New Praise for The Emotional Life of the Toddler

The Emotional Life of the Toddler is a wise and kind book about a fascinating and sometimes exhausting stage of life; it will help parents understand and appreciate all that is happening as their young children develop, and it will also help them navigate the complexities of life with toddlers.

Perri Klass, MD, professor of journalism and pediatrics, NYU

Alicia Lieberman is a toddler whisperer, illuminating the art and science of this important period of life in informative ways that will enable parents to gain important insights into the mind and behavior of their child. With clear and concise summaries of research findings highlighting developmental milestones of this age woven with practical examples families face in everyday life, this second edition of her classic work is a gift to parents and children alike.

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, clinical professor, UCLA School of Medicine

Dr. Alicia Lieberman is a brilliant clinician and one of the most sage voices of our era in the field of early childhood development. As we learn more and more about the critical nature of the earliest years in forming the foundation of lifelong health, this second edition of The Emotional Life of the Toddler could not come at a more important time. Clear and wise, The Emotional Life of the Toddler is an essential guide for clinicians, parents, caregivers and anyone who has a little one in their lives. For me, a pediatrician and the parent of a toddler, this book is a blessing.

Nadine Burke Harris, MD, founder and CEO, Center for Youth Wellness

A gift to allnot only to todays parentsbut to all those who work with toddlers and their parents. From tantrums to screen time, from toilet training to traumaand so much more, Lieberman illuminates every aspect of toddlerhood with understanding, empathy, care, experience, research, and wisdom, while at the same time respecting cultural differences and values and the fast-paced lives of todays families.

Robie H. Harris, celebrated childrens book author of Its Perfectly Normal and Its So Amazing

This publication contains the opinions and ideas of its author. It is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed in the publication. It is sold with the understanding that the author and publisher are not engaged in rendering medical, health, or any other kind of personal professional services in the book. The reader should consult his or her medical, health, or other competent professional before adopting any of the suggestions in this book or drawing inferences from it.

The author and publisher specifically disclaim all responsibility for any liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, which is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use and application of any of the contents of this book.

The names and identifying characteristics of the children and families mentioned herein have been changed.

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Lieberman, Alicia F., author.

The emotional life of the toddler / Alicia F. Lieberman.

Second edition. | New York : Simon & Schuster, [2018] | Includes bibliographical references and index. LCCN 2017035054 | LCSH: Toddlers. | ToddlersPsychology. | Child rearing. LCC HQ774.5 .L54 2018 | DDC 649/.122dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017035054

ISBN 978-1-4767-9203-3

ISBN 978-1-4767-9204-0 (ebook)

To my parents,

Dr. Manuel Fridman

Dr. Rosa Asrilevich de Fridman

To my son,

Michael Morris Lieberman

And to my grandson,

Samuel Joseph Lieberman

Roots, branch, fruit

Raices, rama, fruto

(Second Edition)

Twenty-five years have passed since the publication of this books first edition, and much has happened in the world and in my life during this time. I am now the grandmother of a much cherished toddler. Being with him during the many facets of his rich emotional life renews my appreciation for how deeply toddlers feel and how urgently they need us to understand them. Observing his loving parents as they balance their commitment to him with the multiple demands of their adult lives teaches me how much has changed and how much remains the same for young children and those who care for them. I hope the new edition of this book continues to be a trusted companion for parents and caregivers of today as they find their own ways of raising toddlers in an increasingly fast-paced culture. The magic of small, everyday moments with young children continues to be close at hand when we can create the space for it.

My gratitude to all those I thanked in the introduction to the first edition remains strong. That gratitude now extends to more recent partners who join in creating concentric circles of collaboration around the central goal of helping young children and their families. At the UCSF Child Trauma Research Program, I am fortunate to have the invaluable presence of Nancy Compton, Miriam Hernandez Dimmler, and Chandra Ghosh Ippen in the leadership of our training program, our community initiatives, our national and international dissemination, and our research. Our team of caring and talented clinicians is steadfast in its commitment to developing, implementing, and improving our treatment models: Laura Castro, Gloria Castro, Markita Mays, Griselda Oliver Bucio, Vilma Reyes, Maria Torres. We could not succeed in our research goals without the skills and devotion of Emily Cohodes, Luisa Rivera, Tuesday Ray, and Aru Gonzalez. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network, under the leadership of Robert Pynoos and John Fairbank, gives us a community of practice to help children whose lives are marred by violence and adversity. My friends and partners William Harris, Frank Putnam, Lisa Amaya-Jackson, and Karen Putnam are generous with their wisdom as we endeavor to translate knowledge into action.