THE
EVERYTHING
GUIDE TO
RAISING
A TODDLER
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Raising a small child is one of the most creative adventures you can have. Through the amazing growth of your toddler you will discover everything about life once again for yourself. Whatever you took for granted is suddenly not true from the perspective of this wondrous small person. Your toddler has unusual names for things, quirky categories, and strange and mysterious ways of accomplishing ordinary tasks. Guiding your toddler through this stage of childhood will require more energy than you would ever think is humanly possible, but the result is worth ita three-year-old who is more conversational, more sociable, more self-disciplined, and in general, quite a pleasant member of your family.
This unique, rewarding responsibility gives you a role in forming the character of the next generation! Have some fun, and realize that at the same time you are creating incredible memories for your family. Take lots of photos and note the details in a baby book or blog, as these short months are irreplaceable.
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THE
EVERYTHING
GUIDE TO
RAISING
A TODDLER
All you need to raise a happy,
healthy, and confident toddler
Ellen Bowers PhD
This book is dedicated to Janet, who taught me most of what I know about children and everything I know about being a mother.
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Contents
Acknowledgments
I wish to express a sincere thank-you to Adams Media editor Brett Shanahan for bringing this project to my inbox. Thank you to my friends and family who tolerated my disappearance for a few weeks. I am grateful to the wealth of the Glendale and Pasadena libraries for supporting material. I am grateful to my parents for having unique, enriching views of what it is to raise happy, competent people, to college professors who tolerated my incessant requests for independent studies approaching child development across several disciplines, and to my daughter, Janet Robison, for her knowledge and resources in the areas of technology and early childhood. Thank you to Susan Friend and Jenn Wood for their helpful suggestions, and a warm thanks to two more people for very special supportOrchid Black and Harriet Kaiser.
Introduction
The toddler years are far from terrible! In fact, toddlerhood can be one of the most awe-inspiring and magical times in the lives of both parent and child. All a parent needs is a little direction to change these often trying years into terrific memories. Todays toddlers grow up in a world entirely different from the one their parents grew up in, and certainly more different from their grandparents world. Your eighteen-month- to three-year-old child observes people using cell phones every day and learns from observation that interesting things happen when a finger touches the screen. Life happens faster when surrounded by digital technology.
The cashier at the fast food restaurant notes the order on a touch screen and instantly the meal appears. Touch a particular spot on the phone and you can talk to Grandma. Anything you want to know you can look up on the Internet. For months you have been sending digital photos of your baby to friends and family over the phone or Internet. Everything seems to happen at the flick of a finger.
It is clear that your toddler will grow up comfortable with media of all sorts. You undoubtedly have one to four televisions in your home, one or two computers, and mostly likely cable or satellite TV. You have a cell phone and numerous other electronic devices. How can you mix all this with being a parent? This guide will help you find a middle ground between the past child-rearing methods and the new. You wont have to completely reinvent the wheel, but you can enjoy your toddler with a modern flourish and flair.