Pawelski James O. - Happy together: using the science of positive psychology to build love that lasts

An authoritative, engaging guide to being happy together! Filled with personal stories, practical recommendations, and scientific research from positive psychology!

Angela Duckworth, New York Times bestselling author of Grit, founder and CEO of Character Lab, and Christopher H. Browne Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of Pennsylvania

Suzie Pileggi Pawelski and James Pawelski provide practical, evidence-based advice about how each of us can make the most out of our romantic relationships. Intimate relationships can be the source of lasting joy or excruciating heartache depending on how theyre managed. Happy Together is the definitive guidebook on how to navigate this most important aspect of our lives. I wish I wouldve had this book twenty years ago. Read it... you can thank me later.

Larry King, Peabody Awardwinning television and radio host

Happy Together is one of the most powerful books on relationships I have ever read. Loaded with ideas and research, this book unlocks the keys to building a healthy relationship that will strengthen both partners and create more well-being for many others in the process!

Tom Rath, #1 New York Times bestselling author of StrengthsFinder 2.0 and Are You Fully Charged?

Suzie and James masterfully show that happily ever after doesnt come from a perfect, problem-free life. Rather, it comes from knowing how to adapt with your partner to the range of joys and adversities we all experience. Weaving together empirical research, philosophical wisdom, and real-life examples, Happy Together demonstrates the central importance of emotional agility for romantic relationshipsand shows you how to cultivate it with your partner.

Susan David, #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Emotional Agility, cofounder of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital, and psychologist, Harvard Medical School

Suzie and James beautifully weave ancient wisdom with modern research, personal stories with universal truths, the art of love with the science of love. Relationships are potentially the number one predictor of happiness. This book can help you to realizeto make realthis potential. Read it, together or alone, read it now.

Tal Ben-Shahar, New York Times bestselling author of Happier and Being Happy and Harvard University lecturer

I loved it! Happy Together is a pioneering book filled with helpful advice and engaging exercises that will make your relationship stronger and more fulfilling. Every couple needs to read it!

Jon Gordon, Wall Street Journal bestselling author of The Energy Bus and The Power of Positive Leadership

I believe the main purpose in life is to grow in our capacity to give and receive love. Happy Together is a must-read for anyone seeking this purpose in their romantic relationship.

Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason

Falling in love is easy. Falling in love with the right person is harder. And staying in love is harder still. But its possible. In their clear, engaging, and thoughtful book, Suzie and James Pawelski combine the wisdom of Aristotle with the empirical research of modern psychology to show us how. Combining poignant anecdotes (including many tales from their own relationship), research findings, and lots of very practical advice, in Happy Together, the Pawelskis provide both a how to and a why to guide that will help people nurture and sustain lasting loving relationships. It takes work to stay in love, but its worth the effort, and Happy Together is a luminous roadmap for that effort.

Barry Schwartz, bestselling author of The Paradox of Choice, Why We Work, and Practical Wisdom with Kenneth Sharpe

With the high-level perspective of decades in the field of happiness, and the intimate understanding of the challenges of long-term intimacy from their own relationship, Suzie and James Pawelski have created an accessible playbook for anyone seeking what we all seek: deep and meaningful love that lasts. Together, they teach us that there is no quick fix to happiness togethernor should there be. Rather, with a little bit of work and a lot of will, there is indeed a way to bring out the best in ourselves and those we love most. Youll be happy you read this book.

Larry Smith, creator of the Six-Word Memoir project and New York Times bestselling book series

A philosopher, a psychologist, and a journalist walk into a bar. Grab your partner and walk in after them! Because as this book shows, what they know can help you live happily ever after.

Yakov Smirnoff, comedian, actor, and writer

As a movie producer, Im well aware that movies can contribute to the illusory simplicity of happily ever after, but movies can also show us that nothing worthwhile can be accomplished without effort. The movie hero who wants to achieve something has to do something, to take action over and over again in order to reach his or her goal. Suzie and James have written a book that gives us science-based steps to take to accomplish that happily ever after and to show couples how to become the heroes of their own love storyfrom first kiss till death do they part.

Lindsay Doran, producer of Sense and Sensibility and Nanny McPhee

Reading Happy Together is like a visit to a romantic relationship gym. The book is a beautifully written guide on how to use the principles of positive psychology to develop and to enhance intimate relationships. The authors, both positive psychology experts, also frankly share their own marital experiences to show, rather than tell, couples how to grow together. This book will make an imaginative gift to any couple planning on making a life together or wishing to enhance an already established relationship.

George E. Vaillant MD, professor of psychiatry, Harvard Medical School and author of Triumphs of Experience

If your marriage occasionally disappoints you or is not quite up to your expectations, the Pawelskis bring advice from the field of positive psychology to help you enrich your relationship. Recognizing the strengths of both partners, savoring and gratitude, and knowing that love is an action verb are highly related to the most rewarding partnerships. The authors offer both an excellent description of how to improve ones relationships, and also exercises to practice these activities.

Ed Diener, leading positive psychology researcher and Gallup senior scientist

Wishing for your happily ever after is never enough. Thankfully, science can step in to offer real hope. Happy Together is an accessible guide that can help any couple cultivate positive emotions rather than just wish and wait for them. Take it to heart and use the science of well-being to create a lifetime of happiness together.

Barbara Fredrickson, PhD, author of Love 2.0 and Positivity

In this groundbreaking book, Suzie and James Pawelski explore the how of being happy together. Based on scientific research, framed by ancient wisdom, informed by their own insights and experience, and presented in a clear and engaging style, their book is a practical and powerful guide to building love that lasts.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, professor of psychology, University of California, Riverside, and author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness

Theres no more fitting, knowledgeable, or loving couple than Suzie and James to share with the world how to achieve and experience the happily ever after weve all dreamed about. They detail with wit, warmth, and personal examples how a romantic team is at its best when each player helps the other reach his or her highest potential. The Pawelskis insightful application of positive psychology and accessible style make