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Narcissists

How to Overcome the Spirit of Narcissism and Break Free from Narcissistic Abuse Forever

Introduction

D ealing with a narcissist is not something that anyone looks forward to. The trick is that most people don't realize they are dealing with a narcissist until it is too late. While there is only about one percent of the population that are considered narcissists, they often appear in different roles in our lives and can leave us confused, self-conscious, and unsure about ourselves.

While most people feel compassion and empathy towards others, it would help out someone if it was for the greater good, this is not something that you will see with a narcissist. Narcissists are skilled manipulators who can use people to get what they want without ever feeling bad or guilty about it. They can be the most charming person for a minute, as long as you are giving them attention or providing them a benefit in another way, and then they can turn against you and use your secrets against you when you don't agree with them.

There are many reasons why someone may be a narcissist, but they often work the same. They have to be right, and they have to be superior to everyone else, or they start to get mean. They will call you names, defend their stance (even when it is wrong) to the last minute, and will find a way to make you doubt yourself. It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you have with the narcissist, having one as a friend, a coworker or boss, a partner, a parent, or even a child, they are always looking to feel superior and get ahead, and your feelings mean nothing to them.

This book will spend some time talking about the narcissist and how you can learn to recognize them. Often we are really deep into a relationship with them before even realizing that there may be a problem. And then getting out of that relationship will often prove a bit problematic. This guidebook is meant to help you with this, providing tools to recognize the narcissist and to even get you out of that relationship safely and effectively.

Narcissists are skilled manipulators who know how to get exactly what they want and many times it is easy to get caught up with them without even realizing what is going on. It is easy to excuse their behavior or assume that it is no big deal, but this is just what the narcissist wants. And while you are busy defending that behavior, the narcissist gets further ahead, and you start to get pushed down lower.

If you are dealing with a narcissist in your life, it is time to get help. This guidebook is meant to help you by giving the tools to get out of that relationship, no matter what kind it may be, and move on with your life so you can be confident and independent again. Take a look through this guidebook and learn the ways to end the relationship, how to reach the road of recovery and so much more.

Chapter 1: Understanding of Narcissism

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arcissism is a mental disorder where the person who displays the symptoms will have an inflated sense of how important they are, a huge need to be admired by all, and no empathy for how others feel. They are always looking to get someone to pay attention to them and think that they are the most important person in the room; if you happen to criticize them, they will react in an ugly way. But if they hurt your feelings, they won't even comprehend this issue. They show no empathy for others, and many don't even understand when they cause harm to others.

This personality disorder can cause a lot of problems in various areas of the sufferer's life including with their finances, work, school, and especially in their personal relationships. The narcissist is going to be unhappy and disappointed when they aren't given the admiration and special favors they believe that they should receive from others. While they like to be admired by others, they will often be ignored and avoided because others don't like them.

The core of a narcissist is going to be their preoccupation with their self and the things that they want and prefer, with little care or consideration about what others enjoy. Everyone of us has a little bit of narcissism in us; this is how we care about ourselves and make sure that we stay healthy. But extreme narcissism is when the person tends to move towards cutting off others and even becoming emotionally isolated. There are many degrees of narcissism that you can find as well, and this is part of what makes it so difficult to understand how it works.

The narcissist is going to be someone who is totally absorbed in themselves. They are the center of the universe in their world. To an extreme narcissist, the other people in their lives are just things to be used, not people to love and care about. If they feel that someone will give them the attention that they want, will help them get a promotion or something else, they will be charming to get what they want. But once that person has helped them out, the narcissist will drop them in no time.

Often this narcissism is going to come about because of a major trauma in the sufferer's life. They may seem to be socially skilled, but they have issues with attachment. Often we can think of these people still being stuck as a child, back when the trauma happened, although they usually have a bit more skill that comes in handy to get people to react the way they want.

In some cases, the narcissist is going to have the ability to change their identity depending on the situation. Sometimes they will look like a tough person, one who can intimidate and scare those around them. Other times they are going to be the nice one, the one that everyone gets along with. Some will even have the ability to act like they care about a situation or person, but in reality, they do not. You can find narcissists that are liable, those that are the comedian, those that are the life of the party, and so much more.

But while this person is going to seem like a lot of fun and someone who wants to be in your life, if you try to ask them personal questions or get close, the narcissist will always find a way to avoid them. They will sidestep your questions and often make you forget what you were asking. These people will rarely answer personal questions, and if you do keep pestering them with these questions, they are going to decide you aren't worth the trouble and will take steps to exclude you.

The narcissist can convince you that they care about you and want to be friend with you, but they are more interested in controlling you. Some are fine with just getting you to follow them and will keep on acting in whatever way will help them to maintain the control. Some will do it to get attention because they like to have all that admiration on them. And some will do it to reach success or for some other purpose. But once you stop reacting the way that the narcissist wants you to or you are no longer useful in your original role, the narcissist will become distant and wants nothing to do with you.