Elena Miro - What Narcissists NEVER Tell You: The Secrets for Living Happily Even with a Narcissist, Psychopath, or Other Toxic Person in Your Life (Narcissists and their Secrets Book 2)

If youre living with a narcissist in your life, you are likely experiencing a variety of manipulation techniques that are commonly employed by toxic people to control those in their life. These techniques are frustrating if youre on the receiving end, and if you cant get that person out of your life, its easy to succumb to narcissistic victim syndrome, which can leave you confused and full of self-doubt.

I know what its like because I was married to a narcissist. I made the decision to leave him, but not before experiencing the gaslighting, narcissistic rage, and deception tactics they so commonly use in their everyday interactions. After leaving him, I was so stunned by what I had gone through that I simply had to learn more to understand it. I began researching narcissism, got a degree in psychology, and have now written several books on the subject.

Since that time, I have always advised people to get as far away from the narcissist in their life as possible; however, after talking with many experts, colleagues, clients, and readers, I have also realized just how lucky I was that I could do that. There are many people who cant get away for a variety of reasons. For some of them, the narcissist is their child or an elderly parent who needs them. For others, its their boss or a coworker in a job they love and dont want to leave. And for others, they simply love the narcissist in their life and dont want to leave.

If youre stuck with the narcissist for whatever reason, Ive written a set of two books to help you understand your toxic loved one or coworker and learn how to live a happy life, even with them in it. The first book in this set, What Narcissists DONT Want You to Know: The Secrets of Understanding Narcissism and the Mindset of Toxic People , is designed to help you understand narcissism and just how the narcissist thinks and feels. With that understanding, you can develop compassion for their truly fragile mental condition.

This second book is written to help you manage your interactions with this person in a way that will help you live a happy, successful life. In this book, Ill discuss strategies for surviving and thriving in your relationship with this emotionally abusive person. Youll learn how to use humor to diffuse their manipulation tactics and ignore manipulations in which you cant find any humor.

Youll also learn why the angry, toxic reactions of this person are not the result of something you did; rather, theyre related to the desperate needs of the narcissist. Ill discuss ways you can protect your nervous system from the constant overstimulation caused by the narcissists manipulative tactics.

Youll learn the secrets psychotherapists use to manage conflict situations with toxic people, including techniques like mirroring, giving them healthy recognition and compliments, withstanding and diffusing their aggressive tactics, and setting boundaries that you can maintain.

In short, youll learn how to avoid becoming a victim and instead become a true friend and collaborator with your narcissistic loved one. The techniques youll use require a change in mindset, and this book will show you how to do that so you can stand up and ensure your needs get met too.

Whats unique about this set of books is that much of what youll learn comes not only from the professionals who treat these individuals, but from the narcissists themselves and the people who are living with them. Youll hear from people living with narcissism in their own words, and youll hear the opinions of experts about techniques that work best when dealing with toxic people.

All of this is designed to help you live a happy, satisfying life in which you can fulfill your dreams, even though you have a toxic person in it with you. There is a way to get the narcissist to make adjustments in their behavior, so they can become more genuinely loving as a partner or dedicated coworker.

Of course, this book is no panacea. I cant guarantee that it will save your relationship with a narcissist, and it is impossible to change a narcissist unless they decide to change. Still, it is possible to change YOUR mindset and understand strategies to help you in your interactions with the toxic person in your life. Its possible for you to be happy, even if they are unwilling or unable to change.

It is possible to have a happy, fulfilling life with a narcissist, but you have to remember that you are not causing their behavior, and you cant make them happyyou cant fix them. When you learn about how theyre feeling inside from the first book in this set, youll see that its an inside job. Theyve got to want to change. You cant do that for them, but you can cause them to modify their behavior, so you can live with them and be happy. You can pursue your dreams, despite their toxicity. You can take care of yourself, and when you do that, you give them permission to make changes too.

Any changes theyor youmake wont change the relationship immediately. It will take time, and if youre going to have a long-lasting relationship with a narcissist, it often only happens with invisible baby steps. You must have patience and be prepared for a lot of hard work and patience, which will require that you stay mindful. Its also important for you to work on your own issues first. You have to get your own house in order before you can help anyone else change.

With that said, I want you to know that it is my sincere hope that this book will help you improve your interactions with the narcissist in your life. I know the frustration you feel, the self-doubt, and even depression that interacting with a toxic person can cause. But there is a way out of the darkness into the light of self-compassion, self-love, and stable self-esteem. It begins with understandingand the first book in the set is designed to help with that, but from there, you must learn further techniques to help you establish strong boundaries and insist on respectful treatment from this toxic person. Thats what this book is all about.