Building Rapport with NLP In A Day For Dummies
by Romilla Ready and Kate Burton
Building Rapport with NLP In A Day For Dummies
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Introduction
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is one of the most sophisticated and effective methodologies currently available to help you communicate effectively. NLP centres on communication and change. These days everybody needs the skills to develop personal flexibility. Tricks and gimmicks arent enough: everyone needs to get real.
Your ability to do anything in life whether swimming the length of a pool, cooking a meal or reading this book depends on how you respond to the stimuli on your nervous system. Therefore, much of NLP is devoted to discovering how to think and communicate more effectively within yourself and with others.
Heres how the term Neuro-linguistic Programming breaks down:
Neuro concerns your neurological system. NLP is based on the idea that you experience the world through your senses and translate sensory information into thought processes, both conscious and unconscious. Thought processes activate the neurological system, which affects physiology, emotions and behaviour.
Linguistic refers to the way you use language to make sense of the world, capture and conceptualise experience, and communicate that experience to others. In NLP, linguistics is the study of how the words you speak and your body language influence your experience.
Programming draws heavily from learning theory and addresses how you code or mentally represent your experiences. Your personal programming consists of your internal processes and strategies (thinking patterns) that you use to make decisions, solve problems, learn, evaluate and get results. NLP shows you how to recode your experiences and organise your internal programming so you can get the outcomes you want.
What You Can Do in a Day
As part of the In A Day For Dummies series, weve designed this book to contain about a days reading (or a couple of days if youre taking your time). We focus on some of the key skills and the mindset required to build rapport with NLP all of which can be easily digested in a day. You should have enough information to be able to apply your new-found understanding of rapport-building immediately.
Foolish Assumptions
We make a few assumptions about you. We assume that youre a normal human being who wants to be happy. Youre probably interested in learning and ideas. You may have heard the term NLP mentioned, you may already work with the concepts, or perhaps its just new and intriguing for you. You need no prior knowledge of NLP, but this book is for you if any of the following ring a bell:
Youd like to develop your ability to engage with others in any situation.
Youre curious about how you can influence others ethically and easily.
Youre interested in how to take your living experience to new levels of achievement, happiness, adventure and success.
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