Marine Selenee - Connected Fates, Separate Destinies: Using Family Constellations Therapy to Recover from Inherited Stories and Trauma

With Connected Fates, Separate Destinies, Marine provides all of us with a map to help orient ourselves within the web of our origin stories.

Ruby Warrington, author of Sober Curious

Connected Fates, Separate Destinies is a powerful, potent, and magical book that will help you recognize the hidden patterns in your life that make the biggest difference, so you can clear them once and for all and live a life of greater peace and acceptance. I highly recommend this book for every single person on the planet.

Sahara Rose, best-selling author of Discover Your Dharma

Marine Slne offers enlightened wisdom and practical tools to make peace with your past and create your dream future, through Family Constellations therapy. Now, more than ever, we all need to fall madly in love with ourselves and after reading this book, you will be well on your way.

Sah DSimone, author of Spiritually Sassy and 5-Minute Daily Meditations

Marine Slne has a true gift. Connected Fates, Separate Destinies gracefully guides you to your highest source of healing, which is found when you seek within. This book provides a mirror to seeing your highest self, and learning to honor your lineage through love, care, and reverence.

Rosie Acosta, author, yoga and meditation teacher, and host of the Radically Loved podcast

Marine offers a fascinating picture of family constellations and its hidden energetic structures within the family system. In short, she explains that whatever we reject is what we repeat. This book is an offering to your soul that will compel you to rewrite your story, accept your family, and break the cycle once and for all. As Marines client and friend, I enthusiastically endorse her teachings and guidance. Pay attention to this book because there is so much to learn here.

Bee Bosnak, spiritual teacher and business mentor

Copyright 2021 by Marine Slne

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TO THE MEN OF MY LIFE
TO MEHDI

In another life I might have been either a psychologist or an anthropologist. Ive always been fascinated by people and what makes them tick; why are we the way we are? As a kid, I looked for the answer to this question in novels. As a teenager, I sought it out on the loved-up dance floors of the early rave scene. In my career as a magazine journalist, I wrote about social trends and conducted probing interviews in which I tried to decipher the inner state of A-list celebrities by the way they sipped their coffee. When I subsequently found astrology, I finally had a language to describe the numinous, unseen, and undefinable parts of the human experience. All of which coalesces for me in Family Constellations therapya practice which has also helped me understand my need to understand.

I experienced my first constellation with Marine Slne in the spring of 2014. I had moved to New York from the U.K. two years prior, a move that had sparked a period of feverish soul-searching. Cut adrift from my motherland and with 3,500 miles separating me from my family of origin, I found myself looking back across the Atlantic with a fresh perspective on where I had come from. This coincided with me deciding to cut alcohol out of my life, and as the boozy fog of my twenties and early thirties began to lift, more questions came into focus: Why had I felt the pull to America? Why did I feel more me the farther I was from my family? Why had I never wanted to have kids of my own? And why, despite having worked so hard to achieve all the external markers of a successful life, was my own inner resting state one of anxiety and melancholy?

That rainy afternoon in SoHo, and over subsequent sessions with Marine, I discovered some new answers. When I pressed the buzzer to her apartment, my heart a hummingbird in my chest, I had no idea what to expect. At the time, I was busy establishing my Now Age lifestyle platform, The Numinous, and I had thrown myself headfirst into my research; I was the awkward Brit at the healing circle, learning one anguished sob at a time that it was okay to cry in front of a room full of strangers. Id recently even attended my first spirit sance, where the psychic medium leading the session had guided us to receive our own messages from the other side. How would my afternoon with Marine measure up?

Inside, I was introduced to the two other women who would be participating in the constellation. I dont remember if I ever learned their names. Then, one by one, Marine carefully conducted our individual family dramas. When it was my turn, it was like time and space fell away as the edges of my vision blurred to nothingness. Marine invited the woman representing my mother to turn and face me. In that moment, I saw myself as my mothers mother, the grandmother I had never known, while the face of the woman in front of me morphed into that of my mum as a little girl: my child. A wave of grief churned through me, and I sobbed again as my body was flooded with our mutual loss: three generations of women with no motherland to ground us, lost and all at sea.

The experience was both healing and deeply trippy, like therapy on LSD, and over the following two years my sessions with Marine would bring similarly profound moments of insight. Realizations that I might have been able to come to an intellectual understanding of in talk therapy, but which now landed in my body with such shocking clarity there was no mistaking the imprint that my origin story had left on me. It was like the lights going on in a previously dark and scary basement, the dust sheets lifted from family secrets I could now see I had spent my whole life stumbling over. If I had always wanted to know why we are the way we are, then diving deep into the energy field of my ancestral lineage meant the clues were finally starting to add up.