Dr. Henry L. Townsend - A 2020 Vision in a Christian Marriage: A Past, Present, and Future Perspective

A 2020 VISION
IN A
CHRISTIAN
Marriage

A Past, Present, and Future Perspective

DR. HENRY L. AND
SUSAN M. TOWNSEND

Copyright 2021 Dr. Henry L. And Susan M. Townsend.

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CONTENTS

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone;

I will make him and help meet for him.

Genesis 2:18 (KJV)

This marriage series is focused on a 2020 vision of the past, present, and future ramifications of marriage and family in Christian living. Faith is emphasized in order to help the readers gain a greater understanding of the precepts that lead to a stronger marriage. The principles used in this outline are applied to make it real as it relates to the husband and wife, siblings, parents and children, and how they all relate. The authors bring nearly fifty years of experience living and participating in an active role of Christian development in marriage.

There are many discussions, questions, and activities that may or may not be gender specific that relate to scripture. This series may lead to questions with contrasting viewpoints that will contribute to a broader, more insightful way of thinking of how we view ourselves as Christians in marriage. The entire series is written with the understanding that prayer in all topics and issues presented is all encompassing and is the first and last option to the success of all elements of marriage and family.

Chapter 1 Outline

Gods Original Purpose in Marriage

A. Creation

Man

Woman

B. Garden of Eden

Alignment with God

Misalignment (The Fall)

Marriage

References

Genesis 2:18; Matthew 19:5; Hebrews 13:4; Mark 10:7, 8; Ephesians 5:3; 1 Corinthians 7:140

Discussion

This chapter introduces a greater insight into Gods reasons for placing a man in His earthly kingdom. God adds a woman to His design and invokes the presence of marriage for Adam and Eve, the first man and first woman on the planet. Then comes the first sin, which will be investigated from a marital point of view.

Objectives

Upon review of this chapter, the participants will achieve the following objectives:

Have a better understanding of Gods original intention for marriage

Reflect on Gods purpose for the creation of Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden

Compare Eden to marriage (the honeymoon)

Discuss living in alignment or misalignment in marriage

Questions

Is your marriage currently an Eden? If not, how can you make it so?

How was misalignment created in the garden of Eden?

List the misalignments that can be seen in marriages.

What makes your marriage more harmonious?

What takes away from the harmony?

CHAPTER 1

The book of Genesis draws a beautiful example of the first man and woman placed on earth by God. He created them as one in marriage. The setting is in the garden of Eden, where sin does not exist.

In the framework of a creation without sin, this paradise was created by God with the understanding that harmony with God must first be established among all who exist in His kingdom.

The correlation that exists with modern Christian marriages is that couples must first believe in God and Christ. Sharing a belief system enables couples to be of one accord and yoked together in Christ. The result of this union in marriage is manifested in the initial alignment with God, as it was with Adam and Eve (Gen. 2:18, 2125) .

In the Bethel Bible Study series, alignment or harmony is portrayed as fourfold in nature in the garden of Eden. First there must be harmony with God, then harmony with self, harmony with others, and harmony with nature. In order for a marriage to be in complete harmony, all the above must be in alignment. You must be obedient to God to have perfect harmony with Him; then you will have harmony with self. There is a sense of satisfaction in always being in the presence of God.

Harmony with others means being in harmony with your spousethat is, the other person to whom you have given your life. If you understand that in marriage, spouses are as one, then one becomes self (Gen. 2:2324). Harmony with others also includes family members and other people in general.

Please note that in marriage, self is man and wife. You have individual qualities, likes and dislikes, but you compromise and maintain harmony as one.

Metaphorically speaking, in nature, harmony with God creates a serene and peaceful condition, illustrated by a beautiful lake scene or mountain view. This may be in the home, neighborhood, church, and community. The goal is to create a garden of Eden in your home and marriage, full of love from God.

This will be an ongoing process. It can come close to perfection only by placing God first in the marriage. It is important to reason that when you are in one accord with God, self, others, and nature, you will become as peaceful as Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden.

In the Bethel Bible Study series, insightful examples are constructed of how Gods perfect place, the garden of Eden, may be changed to a place of enmity. This is a place associated with estrangement issues resulting from disharmony or misalignment with God, self (you and your spouse), others, and finally nature. Estrangement is in the culture and climate of the spheres we exist in (e.g., the home, the church, the place of worship, the work environment, and the community).

In a marriage, when disharmony creates estrangement issues with God, other factors may become out of alignment. Disharmony with self creates friction with self. Then disharmony with others becomes more apparent.

We also have disharmony with the environment or society as a whole (Gen. 3:1518) . We may have liberty to say it was sin that brought about disharmony with God and resulted in enmity with all.