Praise for
Working Families
Refreshing for its social consciencesharp humor, and snappy prose. One of the more thoughtful guides to Christian family life for the twenty-first century.
Publisher's Weekly
a joyous, wide-eyed ride on the roller coaster that is a strong marriage with kids!
M ARCUS H UMMON, Grammy-award winning songwriter of No. 1 hits including God Bless the Broken Road
To know one s calling is a complex businessespecially for women and men who are trying to keep integrity as wives and husbands, parents, professionals, and global citizensall within the context of finding our way as pilgrims in pursuit of God. Working Families is an unusually wise book, pointing us in the right direction, and Joy Jordan-Lake is a gifted writer and skillful guide, inviting us to smile even as she leads us into the most important questions about who we are and what we do.
S TEVEN G ARBER, author of The Fabric of Faithfulness and director of The Washington Institute for Faith, Vocation, & Culture
With great wit and honesty, Jordan-Lake addresses here the most urgent question confronting America today: How now, Lord, shall we live? Only one who has wrestled repeatedly with that question could tell this story at all, and only a very gifted writer could tell it this well.
P HYLLIS T ICKLE , author of more than two dozen books, including her latest, The Night Offices, and The Divine Hours series
Who says you can't have it all? Joy Jordan-Lakes Working Families is an often humorous but mainly bottom-line look at the joys and frustrations, the bonuses and the sacrifices of two-parent/two-career homes. Using her experience with sailing (and you 11 have to read the book to know what that's about!), Jordan-Lake blesses her readers with applicable solutions for the reality of it all.
E VA M ARIE E VERSON, author of Oasis and The Potluck Club series
Jordon-Lake defuses the grenades of guilt we lobby at other women and ourselves. She reminds us of the awesome accountability we have to use our professional gifts as well as to love and nurture our families. Her beautiful writing and often-hilarious stories remind me to be grateful for the chaos as well as the peaceful moments in family life. I felt encouraged and understoodand only wish I had this book ten years ago.
C INDY C ROSBY, author of By Willoway Brook
Having sailed my way through a three-career family without a map, I'm delighted to know my daughter-in-law and others currently on the journey have a wonderfully, humorously, sensibly written work from which to take heart. Joy Jordan-Lake's experiences of trying to have it all are honest and exacdy where the boat meets the water. Chaos may abound, flexibility must reign, and communication is essential, but swapping out a mindset about how things are supposed to be with the creativity of what can be is a trade worth making for men, women, and their fortunate children. Wisely, Jordan-Lake is on course with her conclusion that its not a complete map that's needed but evaluating honestly what's in front and doing your best with God's help.
M ARY A NN M AYO , author of fourteen books, including Twilight Travels with Mother
Joy Jordan-Lake has written a delightful book full of challenge. Focusing on calling, purpose, and work, she shows us how to take God seriously in all arenas of life. Her Navigating by Grace chapter is more than just a catchy tide. There's wisdom here for all of us in our daily work.
H OWARD E. B UTT J R ., author of The High Calling of Our Daily Work and president of Laity Renewal Foundation
For the love of my life
Todd Lake,
my co-parent and co-worker and dearest, best friend
and
for the three most magnificent kids imaginable,
our Jasmine, Justin, and Julia.
How grateful to God I am for you
for every hour of every day
Contents
Introduction
Mistakes under Sail
All Hands on Deck
Conclusion
Well Worth the Ride
Acknowledgments
I ts only right that the first name on this particular page should be Elisa Stanford, the person who, as the acquisitions editor, was the initial champion for this book, and who later became its working-from-home editor. A mother and a writer herself, Elisa was unfailingly insightful, both from a personal and professional perspective. Her level-headed expertise and keen eye kept this book on track and alive. I am grateful for her hard work and her friendship.
When Thanne Moore ransacked her own bookshelves for books not to loan but to give me on the subjects of child-rearing and professional calling, I promised to place her way toward the top of the acknowledgments page, and, Thanne, here it is. You are marvelous.
It was Gloria and Ray White Hammond, medical doctors and African Methodist Episcopal ministers, who set aside their cell phonesthe first in the neighborhood back thento counsel Todd and me over a Formica-topped kitchen table before our marriage. They then set aside their good Yankee sense to travel more than a thousand miles into a small, white, southern town in deepest Dixie to officiate our wedding. For many of us, they have set an example of what a dynamic three-career marriage and what a journey of faith, including sacrifice and risk and vulnerability, might look like.
To those who, out of time they did not have, granted interviews, some in person and some via email or phone, I owe my everlasting and enthusiastic thanks: Doris Betts, Dawn Carlson, Elaine Chao, Shannon Sedgwick Davis, Diana Garland, Jennifer Grant, Andria Hall, Ray Hammond, Robin Hanna, Joe Kickasola, Linnea Kickasola, Bruce Kuhn, Susan Bahner Lancaster, Linda Livingstone, Mairead Corrigan Maguire, Susan Matthews, Vashti Murphy McKenzie, Thanne Moore, Carole Pomilio, Elizabeth Rogers, Kelly Shushock, Jane Tan, Chinghua Tseng, Sally Weaver, Peggy Wehmeyer, Gloria White-Hammond, Patricia Wilson, Karla Worley.
And to those who allowed me to quote them and tell stories from their lives, my undying gratitude for your trust in how those quotes and stories might turn out: Jan Bothwell, Paul Bothwell, Brenda Bradley, Ginger Brasher-Cunningham, Milton Brasher-Cunningham, Elizabeth Cernoia, Pete Cernoia, Kay Price Brinkley, Clint Hinote, Myra Rubiera Hinote, Julie Miller Huffaker, Vince Huffaker, Beth Jackson-Jordan, David Jordan, Virginia Kearney, Kelly Monroe Kullberg, Julia Lisella, Steve Moore, Julie Pennington-Russell, Mark Pomilio, Shannon Roberts, Jason Rogers, Mary Anne Severino, Frank Shushok, Christy Somerville, Man-WahTan, Ching-Hua Tseng, and LuTreadwell, Cathy Trotter Wilson, Kevin Wilson and my small group at Calvary Baptist, who walked with us and prayed with us through our adoption process.
Quite a few friends deserve extra recognitionyour names are among those abovefor not simply asking but showing up to whisk away my kids to play when I needed more time to think. For several of you, it was your ferocious prayers and spunk and humor that became invaluable during this season of lifeand still is. Some of youand you know who you arekeep my kids in essential Boston Red Sox attire and cool wardrobes and not-sensible shoes, and I thank you.