Jennifer N. Smith - Love Him More! How to Stop Resenting Your Husband After Having a Baby

Love Him More!

How to Stop Resenting Your Husband

After Having a Baby

Jennifer N. Smith

PUBLISHED BY:

Jennifer N. Smith

Copyright 2020 All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1- Support Each other

Chapter 2- Small Gestures

Chapter 3- Date Again

Chapter 4- Creating Rituals

Chapter 5- Dont Stop Having Fun

Chapter 6- Plan for Sex

Chapter 7-Dont Forget the Compliments

Chapter 8- Communicate all the Time

Chapter 9- Where Should Your Baby Sleep?

Chapter 10-Seek Counseling

Conclusion

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Chapter 1- Support Each Other

O ne thing that many women struggle with is resentment toward their husbands after they have a baby. This often leads to the husband resenting the wife as well. This is how it usually works. Mom stays home and takes care of the baby all day, she barely has time to take a shower or even get dressed let alone feel beautiful or experience anything outside of caring for the baby.

The dishes are piling up, the laundry is undone, she smells of stale formula, dirty diapers and vomit. Her husband comes home after what she sees as an exciting day at the office. He is exhausted but she wants to hand the baby off and take a few minutes to herself. She thinks that it is unfair that her husband has gotten to get away from the mundane life that she now leads.

The husband is tired from a long day at work. He does not feel appreciated and begins to take it out on his wife. He does not understand why the house is not clean, why the laundry is not done and why she does not have time to fix herself up anymore. He thinks he is the one working all day while his wife gets to rest at home, with nothing more to do than a few chores and look after their baby.

The two are romanticizing each others lives. They think that the other has an easier life than they do, they both feel as if they are being taken advantage of and this usually leads to an argument. Usually, a big argument.

This is where everything starts to go wrong.

Instead of thinking that we know how the other person feels it is important to talk to them and to show support for everything that they are going through in life. If the husband is the sole breadwinner for the family it is important for you to show him how much you appreciate it. It is not an easy job to go to work every day, take the financial responsibility for your whole family, and to do this day after day. Your husband sacrifices his own lifes pleasure to take care of you and your baby, to make sure that you have everything that you need in life.

It is also important for you to let him know what you are doing during the day. Very often, men get confused and do not understand how much work it takes to keep a household running every day. They do not understand how much time you have to spend taking care of the baby nor how much time it takes to clean, cook and do laundry. Husbands often times forget how stressful it is to be the one who is in charge of all of the bills, the shopping and ensuring that every member of the household is taken care of.

When your husband comes home from work, give him time to adjust to home life. No matter how fun his job may seem to you, no matter how lucky you think that he is to get out of the house, give him a warm and loving welcome. Let your husband have a few moments to adjust to being home before you begin hounding him with all of the problems you have faced during the day.

Dont be too quick to start asking him about his day, either. It takes a few minutes for him to adjust coming home, and most of the time, he is just going to be happy to see you and the baby after being away all day.

One thing that women had right in the 50s was how they treated their husbands. Try to look happy to see your husband when he comes home from work. Later in the evening when he has had time to sit down and adjust back to family life, you can tell him about how you are feeling. Talk to him about everything that you have to do during the day and if it is too much for you express that to him.

Tell him that you are proud of him for going to work and for taking care of you and the baby. Tell him how much you appreciate how hard he works and you will find that instead of resenting you, he will begin supporting you as well. Dont say, Cant you even help me with the dishes when I have been doing everything around here, while youve been sipping coffee with your friends? because that will make you sound ungrateful. Instead, say, Can you please help me with the dishes? I am feeling very tired and would like a rest for a few minutes.

One thing that you have to understand is that there is more to the golden rule than just being a good person. You see, when you treat others the way that you want to be treated, they often begin treating you the same way that you are treating them. Therefore, if you want someone to be patient with you, be patient with them. If you want someone to be supportive of you, be supportive of them.

It is also important for you to remember that a house divided against itself will not stand. This means that if you are resentful or unsupportive of your husband, if you are always trying to pick a fight with him, your relationship is not going to last. You have to remember to do what you need to do in order to ensure the success of your relationship for the sake of your baby.

Things will get difficult, no matter how strong your relationship is, you are going to face difficult times, but it is during these times that you have to remain supportive of each other. Remember that you are a union, you are united and you need to stay unified.

When you feel like fighting with your partner, take a deep breath and spend some time thinking about the situation. Ask yourself if you are really angry with your partner or if you are being unsupportive. Also ask yourself if you are upset because you do not feel that you are being supported by your partner.

No matter what is going on in your life, it is important for the two of you to sit down and talk about it instead of starting a fight. Anything can be solved in a better way with a little communication and support than with a fight.

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T he birth of a baby is one of the happiest events in a couples life, but it can also cause conflict in the strongest of relationships. Of course you will find that you are living in pure euphoria while pouring all of your love out onto your new arrival, but this can cause many people to wonder if there is enough love for everyone in the family.