Jennifer N. Smith - Everything You Need to Save Any Marriage

Jennifer N. Smith

PUBLISHED BY:

Jennifer N. Smith

Copyright 2016 All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

Copyright

Introduction

Chapter 1- When Good Marriages Go Bad

Chapter 2: Practice Self- Love If You Want Your Marriage To Succeed

Chapter 3: Communication Is the Glue

Chapter 4: Forgive Even When You Cant Forget

Chapter 5: Why You Need To Start Dating Again

Chapter 6: Theyre Human Too

Chapter 7: Focusing on Positivity Is a Must

Chapter 8: More Tips To Save Your Marriage

Conclusion

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Copyright

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I ntroduction-

Many times, when one person that is part of a couple, decides that they want to get a divorce, it comes as a surprise to the other partner. The reason is because people do not pay attention to their relationship as much as they do to the other things that are happening around them.

The good news is, that there are plenty of signs that you can look for in order to know if your marriage is on the right track or if it is on the track headed straight for divorce court.

Once you begin to understand where your relationship stands, it can be devastating and it can leave you scattering for not only answers but for a way to save your marriage.

The good news is that once you realize that there is a problem with your marriage, no matter how upsetting this is for you, if you are willing to put in the work, your marriage can be fixed.

Many times, when people begin to realize that there is a problem in their marriage, they refuse to take the blame. They become so busy blaming their partner for what has happened, for their marriage literally falling apart that they never take the time to look at what they can do to fix the marriage.

No one wants to have a marriage fail, if we did, we would not get married. It is supposed to be for life, a vow that is never broken and yet it seems like it is happening more often than not. What is even sadder is that it is not just people who have only been married for a short time that are getting divorced and letting their marriages fall apart, but people who have been married for 20 or 30 years are also suffering from divorce right now.

The great thing is, no matter how long you have been married, no matter what the problems that you are facing and no matter how bad off your marriage is right now, this book is going to help you fix your marriage and get it back on track.

This book is not going to focus on how you can change your partner, or how you can make your partner fall in love with you again, or how you can make your partner do anything because the truth is, you are not going to change your partner nor are you going to be able to change your partner. What you can do, however , is focus on you, focus on changing you and focus on changing the things in your marriage that you have control over.

We are going to go through every single step that you need to take in order to save your marriage, and the great news is, you dont have to make an appointment, you dont have to wait for an opening, you can get started today!

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Chapter 1- When Good Marriages Go Bad

I n order to fix any problem, you have to first understand what the problem is. Of course, when this comes to a marriage, it can be very complicated because it can take quite a bit of digging in order to uncover the true problem. Just ask any marriage counselor.

Most people who are reading this book are just going to want to know what went wrong and how they can fix it, however, I cant give you that answer. The truth is, no one but you and your spouse can give you that answer. but, I can provide you with the map that you need to find it.

The truth is, no matter what problem we look at in our lives, the real question that we are asking ourselves is what went wrong and how can I fix this. Many times, this will lead people to look for whose fault is this and how can I blame them.

When this happens in marriage, the what went wrong, often gets buried under years of resentment caused from that blame.

In order to find out what went wrong, often times we have to go back to the beginning. We have to remember when we were filled with nothing but joy when we thought about our relationship, when we couldnt help but smile when you said his or her name, and how you couldnt wait for that moment when you could see them.

It can seem like everything was fine and then suddenly, you woke up one day and your entire world was turned upside down, your marriage was falling apart and you had no idea why. However, when you really take a good look, chances are you will quickly begin to understand what happened.

Just like when you are fixing anything, whether it be a car or a relationship, you have to know what went wrong, so you need to understand that I am not asking you to remember to cause you pain but this is the only way you can find the problem.

There are many reasons why marriages fail, but chances are, they will fall into one of these categories:

1. Time - you dont spend enough time together
2. Expectation - having unrealistic expectations
3. Personality - having different personalities
4. Abuse
5. Addition issues (Different types of addictions)
6. Sex - Lack of satisfaction and infidelity
7. Family and friend
8. Lack of communication
9. Money issues

Those are the basic areas that people struggle with when they are married and the main reasons that people end up in divorce.

Just knowing this is going to help you know what area you need to focus on the most so lets take a closer look.

1. You dont spend enough time together
   

In order to have a healthy marriage, you have to have time together as well as time apart, both are equally important. When the partners are spending a lot of their time alone, without being able to spend an equal amount of time, with their partner, it puts a huge strain on the marriage, often causing it to end up in divorce. It is amazing how many arguments can be started between a couple, simple because they do not get to spend enough time together. So spend more time together and do the romantic things that you used to do in the past.