Lidiya K - This Moment

This Moment

How to let go of what was and willbe so that you can find peace and contentment in the presentmoment

Copyright 2015 - LidiyaK

Published by Lidiya K atSmashwords

Introduction

The Real Face ofSuffering

The Origin ofSuffering: Why Are We Unhappy?

A SimpleSolution

The Prison YouLive In and How to Get Out of It

3 places

How Over thinkingCauses Us Suffering and What to Do to Stop It

Letting Go of ThePast

Living in TheFuture

The Barriers toPiece of Mind

How To BePresent

Mindfulness

What Can You Findin The Present Moment

Inspiration: WhatOthers Say About Living in The Present Moment

Acknowledgment andContact

Ive always beenlooking for meaning in everything in life. Ive also tried to seethe beauty, to feel alive, find peace and contentment andeventually true happiness.

And after eachtime, I was trying harder and with more pressure. And I was evenmore disappointed when nothing changed.

When living thisway, life requires too much effort that brings stress anddiscomfort.

It wasnt until Icalmed down, stopped looking for solutions, just started to seethings as they are and appreciate them instead of trying to changethem, that I finally found all the things Ive been looking for.And theyve all been right in front of me for the whole time.

In the presentmoment.

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It started by mebeing aware of it for a few seconds every now and then. But thestate I was into during that time was unbelievable - I was seeingall the beauty around me and was thankful for it, I was smiling andat ease while breathing deeply and enjoying the moment. Everythingwas perfect just the way it was and nothing needed to be done.

I was fully awareof where and who I was at this moment. Nothing even needed to bedefined, I was just experiencing and enjoying it.

No sign ofthoughts of the past or worries about the future, it was just meand the present moment.

Then I realized Ican live that way, not only feel like that for a brief moment, butmake it a permanent state.

And although thereis always room for improvement and Ive got my weak moments aseveryone else, I managed to achieve a lot.

I started focusingmore and more on the now, while eliminating distractions and tryingto empty my mind by letting go of past, future, the need tocontrol, the desire to plan and change things.

And I felt happierthan ever. Grateful. In peace. And simply contented.

Everything real isin the present moment. Only here can we find happiness and harmony,feel alive and do something that will change our future. Only herecan we be with the people we love, enjoy the things we like and seebeautiful places.

Life is a seriesof such moments. And making each one matter means youre livingyour life to the fullest.

No ideals. Noillusions. Just reality - but more perfect than youve everimagined. Thats what being mindful and living in the presentmeans.

Ive noticed thatmost of us dont realize how important this moment is. They take itfor granted, know its brief and think that it cant changeanything. But I think it can change it all.

Try to answer thefollowing questions:

- When is the besttime to live?

- What should youfocus on?

- What is it thatyou can control?

- What is the onlything you truly have?

- Whats your bestpresent?

- Where doeseverything happen?

- Where can youfind happiness?

- Where can youfind answers?

- Where are yousupposed to be?

- When should youact upon your dreams?

- When should youstart?

These arequestions youve often heard, or asked. Tough ones, but with simpleanswers. Because what they have in common is that the answer to allof them is the present moment.

Only in it can youfind what youre looking for, can you feel alive and happy, can youtake actions and do something about your life.

What are you mostafraid of?

Do you fear thefuture? Maybe not knowing what might happen next scares you todeath.

Or is it snakesand spiders, heights, speaking in public, car accidents, the sea,or darkness that terrifies you?

What are youworried about?

Many constantlythink about the possibility of losing their job, being poor, losingsomeone they love, being hurt or else.

Maybe you thinkyou will keep failing in your love life, business, trying to get inshape or learning a new language.

Or you justcompare yourself to others that seem to be living the ideal lifeand think that youll never be happy.

Heres anotherquestion. What do you regret the most?

Is it that youcould have become a better person, made more money by now or movedto another country?

Or do youconstantly go back to the past and imagine what it could be if youhave done things differently?

Most people dothat. And although it doesnt change anything, they keep trying toanswer that what if.

And it brings thempain.

Pain, that issupposed to be left far behind, kept in your memories.

But most of usseem to love going back to it over and over, to find comfort insuch negative thoughts.

And thats howsuffering comes into our lives.

Its not the caraccidents, the loss of close people, the heartbreaks, the scaryanimals, the unknown, the failed business ventures or mistakesweve made that make us suffer.

None of these lastfor a lifetime.

Some happen in amatter of seconds, require a strong will or an action we dontreally want to take. Others may take a long time to recoverfrom.

But we keep going.We get up, try again, forget, let go and move on.

We meet newpeople, apply for another job, start a new relationship, try bungeejumping, learn to swim, stop driving a car or do something elseafter the thing we thought would ruin our life or make us unhappyhas happened.

And guesswhat?

Nothinghappens.

We keep living ourlife. A bit changed, of course. But the world remains the same.

So forget aboutpoverty, possible bad situations, death and anything else that youthink is the worst that can happen to you.

And then you mightjust see what actually causes suffering.

Its expectingsomething bad to be on the cards, being sure that our partner willleave us. Waiting to make a mistake. Walking on the street with thechance of being hit by a car in our mind.

Its the constantlooking back to the past, reliving the awful events that made youfeel bad and that you keep giving power to by focusing on them.

Its not so muchthe job interview or the exam (and that you might fail) but thenegative scenarios you play in your head before that, thinkingabout everything that can go wrong, fearing the moment youll haveto show up.

All that makes ussuffer 24/7.

Life is suffering. Wehave desires and expectations and egos, and we compare the realitywe have, which is miraculous and wondrous, with this reality wedesire. That somehow distances us from actually taking part fullywith the reality we do have, and that creates suffering. For me,the thing that I love is that it's all about the presentmoment.

Alan Ball

Our heads are fullof comparisons, needs for approval and attention, a desire to be atother places, imagining things could be better there and thushating our reality.

We are the onlyones to blame for our own suffering.

We hurt ourselvesevery time we think of how other people should behave according toour standards and then suffer when they appear to be individuals;every time we open a book with so many expectations about it fromwhat weve heard and hoped it to be, and then close it indisappointment, realizing its something totally different (maybebeautiful, inspiring and challenging, but nothing that met ourexpectations).