Kim Etingoff - Embarrassment, Shame, and Guilt

Embarrassment,
Shame, and Guilt

CAUSES & EFFECTS
OF EMOTIONS

Embarrassment, Shame, and Guilt

Happiness

Fear and Anxiety

Romantic Attraction

Anger

Optimism and Self-Confidence

Stress and Tension

Sadness

Empathy and Compassion

Envy and Jealousy

Surprise and Flexibility

Emotional Self-Awareness

Loneliness

CAUSES & EFFECTS
OF EMOTIONS

Embarrassment,
Shame, and Guilt

Kim Etingoff

Mason Crest

Copyright 2015 by Mason Crest, an imprint of National Highlights, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping, or any information storage and retrieval system, without permission from the publisher.

Printed and bound in the United States of America.

First printing
9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1

Series ISBN: 978-1-4222-3067-1
ISBN: 978-1-4222-3069-5
ebook ISBN: 978-1-4222-8762-0

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Etingoff, Kim.

Embarrassment, shame, and guilt / Kim Etingoff.

pages cm. (Causes & effects of emotions)

Audience: Grade 7 to 8.

Includes index.

ISBN 978-1-4222-3069-5 (hardback) ISBN 978-1-42223067-1 (series) ISBN 978-1-4222-8762-0 (ebook) 1. EmbarrassmentJuvenile literature. 2. ShameJuvenile literature. 3. GuiltJuvenile literature. I. Title.

BF575.E53.E85 2014

152.44dc23

2014005463

CONTENTS

The journey of self-discovery for young adults can be a passage that includes times of introspection as well joyful experiences. It can also be a complicated route filled with confusing road signs and hazards along the way. The choices teens make will have lifelong impacts. From early romantic relationships to complex feelings of anxiousness, loneliness, and compassion, this series of books is designed specifically for young adults, tackling many of the challenges facing them as they navigate the social and emotional world around and within them. Each chapter explores the social emotional pitfalls and triumphs of young adults, using stories in which readers will see themselves reflected.

Adolescents encounter compound issues today in home, school, and community. Many young adults may feel ill equipped to identify and manage the broad range of emotions they experience as their minds and bodies change and grow. They face many adult problems without the knowledge and tools needed to find satisfactory solutions. Where do they fit in? Why are they afraid? Do others feel as lonely and lost as they do? How do they handle the emotions that can engulf them when a friend betrays them or they fail to make the grade? These are all important questions that young adults may face. Young adults need guidance to pilot their way through changing feelings that are influenced by peers, family relationships, and an ever-changing world. They need to know that they share common strengths and pressures with their peers. Realizing they are not alone with their questions can help them develop important attributes of resilience and hope.

The books in this series skillfully capture young peoples everyday, real-life emotional journeys and provides practical and meaningful information that can offer hope to all who read them. It covers topics that teens may be hesitant to discuss with others, giving them a context for their own feelings and relationships. It is an essential tool to help young adults understand themselves and their place in the world around themand a valuable asset for teachers and counselors working to help young people become healthy, confident, and compassionate members of our society.

Cindy Croft, M.A.Ed

Director of the Center for Inclusive Child Care at Concordia University

Words to Understand

intense: Powerful; hard to resist.

negative: Having to do with or focusing on the downside of things.

Gabriella was ready for the first day of school. She had new shoes. She had new notebooks and folders and pens.

She always liked the feeling of the first day of schoollike this year would be better than all the other years. She would have more friends, better grades, and play better soccer. As Gabriella walked up the school steps, she knew she was ready for the school year.

Her very first class was science. She had a little trouble finding the classroom, so she got there just as the bell rang. The only open seat was by Cris, a boy she didnt know very well. She knew he liked to bully kids, so she was a little nervous about sitting next to him. She would have liked to sit next to her best friend Kati over on the other side of the room, but there was already someone sitting there.

Awkward moments happen to all of usfalling on our faces, burping at the wrong moments, and saying the wrong things.

Those oops moments make us wish we could push a button, rewind time, and do it all over againonly better this time.

Gabriella put her stuff down on the table and started to sit down. But instead of sitting in the chair, she felt herself falling! Before she really knew what was happening, she was sitting on the floor.

Everyone around her was laughing. Gabriella felt herself blush. She wished she were a million miles away, so no one could see her. She kept her eyes down and pulled the chair toward her. Class was about to start, so the only thing she could do was get up and sit on the chair. She was careful not to meet anyones eyes. So much for a great school year.

Cris sat down in science class at a table near the back of the room. The rest of the tables filled up slowly, but no one sat next to him. He had hoped the new school year might be different, and that he might have more friends. It looked like this year was going to be like all the other ones.

A bully may be trying to disguise his own insecurities by hurting someone else.

When we worry that we dont measure up in some way, its sometimes easier to blame someone else.

Right before the bell rang, Gabriella walked in. He saw her look around and notice the empty chair next to him, which was the only one left. She frowned a little. Cris suddenly felt angry. Why didnt anyone want to sit next to him? Why was he stuck with the last person to come in to class?