Note: Every effort has been made to ensure that this Workbook is free from error or omissions. The Goulding process and techniques described in this Workbook are not intended to represent a medical or psychologically alternative, or represent medical or psychological advice, or an alternative for therapeutic intervention. The processes described in this Workbook are not intended to replace the advice of your professional psychotherapist or medical therapist and it is advisable to always seek the advice of your health-care provider. Persons following any course of action recommended in this Workbook or in the Goulding process do so of their own free will. The author, the publisher and the Goulding Institute assume no responsibility for any contraindications related to this process.
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Helping parents develop their childs emotional resilience
The minds firewall
Joane Goulding
www.sleeptalkchildren.com
www.sleeptalkconsultant.com
www.thegouldinginstitute.com
Children Learn What They Live
If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, they learn to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If a child lives with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, they learn justice.
If a child lives with security, they learn to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
they learn to find love in the world.
Dorothy Law Nolte Ph.D.
The two minute gift creating changes that last a lifetime
Children are our future, and as parents
we need to recognise this with a sense of urgency.
If we are to take care of our childrens future,
we need to take care of the now.
Remember its not what we leave to our children that really matters,
its the knowledge that we leave within their minds
Joane Goulding
What the Professionals Say
Dr Eileen Feeney
Registered MD & Psychiatrist
I am a qualified medical practitioner and psychiatrist. I have used the techniques of the Goulding process over the past 24 years. It is a safe effective and a very valuable process. It has many applications including enhancing the self-esteem of the child, building confidence to go swimming or reading aloud in class, bedwetting etc.
I have no hesitation in endorsing the credibility of this therapy. I have taught this technique to other medical colleagues, and I have presented at academic meetings case studies of patents who were treated successfully. This is a very useful process. It will be a major step forward to have further information about it published and I recommend it highly.
Cherie de Hass
Fellow: ANTA
Former Presenter: Healthy Wealthy and Wise Naturopath, Author & Media Writer
Cherie lectures both here in Australia, Asia and Europe and contributes too many magazines, articles on herbs and well-being, has a busy practice in Melbourne and is now treating the fourth generation of many of her patients.
She states: I have used the Goulding process for over thirty five years. This is not a therapy and does not involve taking medications just a commonsense approach to parenting. My daughter Monique, whose formative years, benefited greatly with SleepTalk, giving her self-confidence, security and love. Monique now uses this incredible therapy on her own children with wonderful results. One day when discussing her childhood and SleepTalk , she told me when she was a little girl, she would sometimes hear me come into her room and would pretend to be asleep, because she loved hearing me tell her all those positive things that made her feel, peaceful, happy, loved and very safe!
Now three generations, and thirty five years later, I know my grandchildren will continue using this miraculous process to help them achieve their goals and aspirations, to teach others how a happy and healthy mind can help overcome many of lifes obstacles that maybe thrown our way.
SleepTalk is one of the most valuable and credible processes that I have encountered in over thirty five years, and is suitable for children of all ages and stages of development.
Dr Janet Hall
Psychologist
SleepTalk is an invaluable aid for families and therapists in improving family attitudes and intimacy, the program is easily and unobtrusively implemented and can be readily adapted to suit all children and family contexts.
Professor Ian E. Brighthope
Fellow: Australasian College of Nutritional and Environmental Medicine
The Goulding process is a sensible practical and easy-to-follow method of communicating important messages to the subconscious mind. This process should be used by all parents, educators and health professionals and the practice adopted in the management of all disorders in which the mind plays a significant role.
Jeff Berger
Consulting Psychologist
Having used the principals of the Goulding SleepTalk process in my practice as a psychologist and having trained others to do so as well, I have no doubt that it is a valuable tool in working with children on a number of levels with the challenges of life they may experience from time to time.
Gary Johnston
Psychotherapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist,
Specialist in Trauma and PTSD
Children deal with trauma in a different way to adults, often not able to express what they are feeling as a result of any trauma. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is one of the most debilitating anxiety disorders, creating a number of behavioural and emotional changes in children that, if not treated properly, stay with the child for the rest of his or her life. PTSD is formed when the unconscious mind is involved in death, disaster, rape or early physical danger. SleepTalk has been shown to be one of the most effective ways of treating such traumas in children, bypassing the normal communication methods and allowing the unconscious to let go of the intrusive thoughts, flashbacks and anger associated with such memories.
Using strategies that the unconscious understands, SleepTalk forms a direct path to the parts of the memory holding high levels of anxiety and distress, encouraging the mind to reframe the original event and strengthening the self-image and an awareness of safety. With the parents involved in the process that awareness of safety is enhanced. I highly recommend SleepTalk for all anxiety disorders in children.