Praise for Touching Two Worlds
Touching Two Worlds communicates our mysterious human solidarity in painthe intimate twins of grief and love, two sides of a coin. The author offers a vulnerable and important in-the-moment vocabulary for those of us who are desperate in our grief within the context of our death-phobic society. I can only say thank you for this radical insight.
Jerry White,
corecipient of the 1997 Nobel Peace Prize and professor of practice, University of Virginia
Touching Two Worlds is a tremendous resource for anyone struggling to find their footing in the aftermath of loss. Ive spent my career helping clients heal from trauma and grief, and Im very grateful to have this book as an important new resource.
Michael Mithoefer, MD
senior medical director for Medical Affairs, Training and Supervision, MAPS Public Benefit Corporation
Sherrys deep insights on grief and loss serve as a healing, way-finding journey for so many of us unpacking the complex layers of grief.
Tracey Ivanyshyn
president of UPLevel Global and founder of Good Grief at Work
From experience, going through grief can be a lonely road, as most dont understand unless they have also experienced it. Dr. Sherry Walling is both a person with that experience and an expert in the subject. I am grateful she has decided to share her wisdom through this book.
Erik Huberman
founder and CEO of Hawke Media
An intimate window into the transformative power of grief, lovingly paired with healthy, practical coping strategies of how to care for yourself and others in lifes most sensitive times.
Michael Freeman
MD, founder of Econa and clinical professor of psychiatry, UCSF School of Medicine
Dr. Walling demonstrates how to cultivate resilience. Using a show, dont tell approach, her experience and her expertise help move the reader from overwhelm to groundedness.
JJ Virgin
New York Times bestselling author of The Virgin Diet
In Touching Two Worlds, Dr. Walling elegantly demonstrates how to lean into resilience. This work reflects the training of a trauma therapist and the openhearted vulnerability of someone who is unafraid of her humanness.
Dan Martell
entrepreneur and CEO of SaaS Academy
This book is an adept, gentle guide on how to love ourselves more openly through deep pain and loss. Dr. Walling is the very best possible advisor for the unwitting grief club.
Rev. Dr. Chris Erdman
pastor, author, and spiritual coach
Touching Two Worlds is a love letter to the departed and the bereaved, to Life and Death and Grief itself. On these pages, Sherry Wallings heart laid bare is our owncracked wide open with care and compassion, gently reminding us of love lost and found, here to honor our hurting, our healing, and to call us home.
Anita Stubenrauch
ex-Apple creative veteran, founder of The Land of Make+Believe, and founder of Cause:Effect Creative
Dr. Sherry Walling is a psychological rock star who takes you on a cosmic journey of love, death, and grief. Authentic. Bold. Vulnerable. She holds the center. And will help you find yours. Enjoy.
Matt House, DO
president and medical director of House Psychiatric Clinic
This is an extraordinarily helpful book. It is written by one of the few people that I trust with my mental health. I recommend this to anyone who is confronting a loss or major disruption.
Andrew Warner
founder of Mixergy
Along with providing tips and strategies throughout the book, the most impactful section is where Sherry promotes kindness and respect to those struggling with their mental health or substance use. Anyone who has lost someone to suicide will find a connection to this book.
Sue Aberholden
executive director of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Minnesota
While grief is universal, few of us know how to do it well. In Touching Two Worlds, Dr. Walling offers practical, compassionate wisdom to help grieving people (and those who love them) feel less alone in the darkness.
Jordan Harbinger
host of The Jordan Harbinger Show
The reflection and embodiment practices offered here are hard-won, time-tested tools. Dr. Walling speaks directly and openly about real-life, applied strategies that have helped her to continue healing her own heart.
Casey Taft, PhD
staff psychologist, National Center for PTSD, VA Boston Healthcare System and professor, Boston University School of Medicine
Touching Two Worlds is a gift to be held with both hands, an open heart, and a recognition that we are not alone. As we stumble through a world soaked in pain, Dr. Sherry Walling reminds us that we are not alone. Bound by grief, we are connected in deep and true ways, an accompaniment that we may not have realized we needed but deserve nonetheless.
Erinn Farrell
cofounder and partner of The Coven
Dr. Walling has written a magnificent guide to grief and grieving. It will surely be a helpful companion to anyone suffering the loss or impending loss of a loved one. Each chapter reads like an opportunity to sit with a friend who deeply understands your pain, and who also has excellent plainspoken advice for getting through all the awful situations that grief puts you through.
Patrick Combs
Blisspreneur and master of story
Touching Two Worlds
A Guide for Finding Hope in the Landscape of Loss
Touching Two Worlds
Sherry Walling, PhD
Sounds True
Boulder, CO 80306
2022 Sherry Walling
Sounds True is a trademark of Sounds True, Inc.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner without written permission from the author and publisher.
Published 2022
Cover design by Jennifer Miles
Book design by Karen Polaski
BK06477
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Walling, Sherry, author.
Title: Touching two worlds : a guide for finding hope in the landscape of loss / Sherry Walling.
Description: Boulder, CO : Sounds True, 2022. | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2021045094 | ISBN 9781683649670 (paperback) | ISBN 9781683649687 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Walling, Sherry. | Walling, Sherry--Family. | Children of cancer patients--Biography. | Suicide victims--Family relationshipsBiography | Clinical psychologistsUnited StatesBiography. | Grief.
Classification: LCC BF575.G7 W3433 2022 | DDC 155.9/37dc23/eng/20211217
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021045094
For Tim and Dave.
And for you.
This book is from my broken heart to yours.
Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
Naomi Shihab Nye, Kindness
Contents
I lost my dad and my brother six months apart from each other. Six months to the day. My dad died of esophageal cancer. He was sixty-five. My brother died by suicide. He was thirty-three.
This book is about how those losses reshaped me.
I want you to have fair warning: much of this book is sad. It may invite your own sadness to the surface. This book gives you permission to be sad, to air out the hearts wounds.
If you picked up this book and are reading this introduction, Im guessing that you have known grief too. Maybe youve lost a parent or a child or a friend or your health or your job. Or maybe someone you love is grieving, and youre trying to understand whats happening to them. Or perhaps youre just a curious mind on a quest to better understand the human condition.
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