Nancy Ancowitz - Self-Promotion for Introverts: The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead

Self-Promotion for Introverts

The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead

NANCY ANCOWITZ

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you who go mum at meetings, get passed up for promotions, and would rather read about the Powers That Be than rub elbows with them. Youre the brains behind the operation, the creative virtuosa, and the walking wiki. You want to make more of a difference in your life and the lives of others but first, they need to know who you are.

This book wouldnt exist without the following people. You may find the number of them surprising, given that Im an introvert and prefer the company of just one. I deeply value the network of friends and colleagues Ive built throughout my career, and I appreciate that so many of them were there for me while I wrote this book.

The concept for this book started in 2003 as a class I created at Makor, which was at the time the West Side Center of the 92nd Street Y in New York City. Ive continued to develop the class at the 92nd Street Y and the New York University (NYU) School of Continuing and Professional Studies. Special thanks go to the Makor educational director at the time, Elliott Rabin, Ph.D., for championing this idea. Id also like to thank Howard Greenstein, Diann Witt, Dianne Mohammed, Amy Bush, and Emily Westerman who made a home for this concept at NYU. Janet Rosen, my agent at Sheree Bykofsky Associates, Inc., came to the class, helped me see the potential for this book, and shepherded it through. Thanks to Ron Idra for lending your luminous left brain for reality checks early on.

Thank you to my first editor, Lauren Lynch, for your enthusiasm and support in getting the ball rolling, and to my current incredible editor, Morgan Ertel, for the pure delight of getting to work with you. Special thanks to Jane Palmieri for your contributions as a seasoned and highly skilled EDP manager. Thank you to other members of the McGraw-Hill team whom I counted on for your expertise: Maureen Harper (production), Marci Nugent (copy-editing), Staci Shands (publicity), and Heather Cooper (marketing). Special thanks to Mark Fortier at Fortier Public Relations for your fun and creative approach and PR mastery.

I am ever grateful to all of my spectacular clients, who have chosen me as their confidante and thinking partner; many of them were kind enough to share their insights on these pages. Special thanks to Bob McPeek, Ph.D., at the Center for Applications of Psychological Type, Inc. (CAPT), for generously offering your comments on my manuscript and sharing your vast knowledge and resources. Shoya Zichy, thanks for the numerous conversations and the welcome introductions, as well as for being a sounding board every step of the way. For helping me move past the mud-on-the-wall stage with editorial and research support, thank you to Andrea Galyean, Dana Leventhal, Jennifer Puk, Victoria Schwarz, and John Wilwol. Gabriella Oldham, Ed.D., and Regina Smola, thank you for outstanding administrative support.

Thanks to Carol Abrams for rooting for me the whole race and helping me realize when I had already passed the finish line, and to Steve Orr for offering grounding perspective and journalistic expertise. Jessica Seigel, thank you for your incisive insight and guidance, and thank you also to Marianna Lead, Ph.D., for illuminating the path of my journey with your brilliance. Heidi Rome, thank you for all your sharing, caring, and for speaking my language when it comes to marketing. Thanks to Dana Kaplan for listening and listening and listening to my war stories, laughing with me, egging me on, and helping me imagine this book.

Elaine Ahlberg, Bryan Chandler, Anne Fizzard, Carol Schaechter, and Ying Shiau, thanks for your ongoing friendship and moral support, which sustained me throughout this process. Karen Abrams Gerber, Ed.D., thank you for being an extraordinary source of wisdom. Thanks to Senia Maymin for your endless support and passion for research, and to Vincent Suppa, Ph.D., for being a generous colleague with an expansive mind. Special thanks to three extraordinary artists who have been an inspiration over the years: Madeline Abel-Kerns, Michael Rees, and Michael Somoroff.